This week’s Star has printed a story about Chris Brown’s mother attempting to woo Rihanna back into dating her son again even after the horrific injuries that Rihanna sustained in 2009 at the hands of her then-boyfriend. At firat, the story seems rather unbelievable but then pales in comparison to Rihanna’s own cousins begging her to take Chris back. Exactly why do both Chris and RiRi’s relatives fail to see what the rest of the world comprehends? That is, an abusive relationship should never be rekindled no matter what. Of course, this story builds upon Star‘s prior theory that Rihanna needs therapy and won’t stop boozing, and the current story maintains that Chris’ mom only wants to help Rihanna, so the only way to do that is by getting back with Chris. Or something like that:
Ever since their tumultuous split in 2009, Rihanna and Chris Brown have had little contact. But it seems the tide is turning. Chris’ mother, Joyce Hawkins, has stepped in the help reconcile the ex-lovers. “Joyce decided to reach out to Rihnna and help her sort out her life — and her relationship with Chris,” explains a source. “Rihana is still trying to blot out the inner emotional pain and turmoil of wanting Chris back.”
The former pair “have connected via text and email,” the source tells Star. Still, “Her management won’t let her meet up with him, because they are worried that he would hurt her again or that her fans would turn on her.”
But Rihanna has been spiraling out of control for months, boozing and bar-hopping. Friends fear it’s a sign of her missing her bad-boy ex — and Chris’ mom is trying to help the 23-year-old get back on track.
“Joyce is worried about her,” says the source. “She knew Rihanna as a sweet, young girl who was more interested in her career than partying all night long. If Rihanna thinks being with Chris will help her pull out of her tailspin, Joyce will make it happen.”
[From In Touch, print edition, January 9, 2012]
You know what? If it takes public image worries to keep Rihanna away from the her abusive ex-boyfriend, then so be it. Perhaps Rihanna may legitimately feel that she’s a puppet of her record company and management, but that’s a small price to pay for not being permitted to fall back into Chris Brown’s arms and being beaten to shreds once again. Yeah, I should be a little more sensitive to the issue perhaps, and sure, I’ll buy that RiRi needs some therapy. What she doesn’t need (by any stretch) is to start dating Chris again.
Incidentally, here’s some photos of Rihanna vacationing in Barbados on 12/29. She looks fantastic.
Photos courtesy of Fame
C.Brown is a self loathing angry closet case. There are too many stories out about his gay encounters.
what woman would want another woman to go back to a abusive relationship. How dysfunctional.
So why doesn’t Mrs. Hawkins go back to Mr. Brown, her ex she had Chris Brown with, instead of bothering Rihanna, if taking back exes is such a great idea? She’s an idiot.
It IS dysfunctional – Chris himself has stated that he learned how to treat women from seeing his mom’s boyfriends beat on her. This woman would go back to an abuser herself, so she can’t see what’s wrong with encouraging someone else to. It’s quite sad, really. And it shows how cyclical and generational the nature of perpetuating domestic abuse is. This isn’t a behavior that appears out of the blue. It is a learned behavior, and our parents are the first and most influential relationship model we witness. Not that it excuses anyone, of course. But it does explain how this remains a problem.
I don’t doubt that there has been reconciliation attempts of cb’s part since his career essentially tanked. I don’t think she’ll go back. Getting back with Chris Brown would be career suicide. If she so much as looked at that guy too hard, the public would fry her.
His career has not tanked. Besides Chris would never go near rihanna. For what?
I think he’d take her back in a second, but that would totally alienate her fans because it would be stupid to go back for round 2 (or 100…).
Chris needs no help tanking himself, he does a great job of throwing chairs at windows, stomping off sets and running his stupid mouth all by himself. If this story is true, his mom probably just thinks her son’s career would go upwards again instead of the downhill he’s on, so she can mooch off him.
If this is true, what a sick, enabling bitch! No wonder her son’s an abusive brat.
I hope she has more sense than that. I seriously doubt she is considering this though….
I too think the media and most rational people don’t want Rhianna anywhere near timebomb ahole Chris Brown. These articles are calling those out who want a reconciliation for the insane idea it really is. I also doubt she’s considering it. Brown – eternal loser.
Chris’s mama just wants to be supported in a certain style, Chris isn’t able to do that cause his career is in the toilet, getting Rihanna and that douche bag women beater back together is the only way that she can live in the style she wants to be accustomed to.
U can hate Chris brown but his career is not in the toilet … Rihanna and Chris both come dysfunctional, broken , abusive family situations … What they had together probably seemed normal to them
I have to agree. I do HATE him, but his career is doing the opposite of tanking. I wish it wasn’t. I totally agree about the abuse being kinda normal for them. If you grow up with that, you see it as love in a very sick way. I absolutely think she loved him very much and probably still does. I wish he would die.
Wishing death on anybody is abhorrent. Brown is not a murderer or a child molester like Sandusky.For my part, I pray that he continues to keep his head down plus all things nice for him and everybody this coming new year.
OMG ZZZ he is a bad guy with lots of issues and need of some long awaited counsling…. but die??? …. lol ok die it is!
Oh alright…..Dying is a bit harsh. How about just go away? Or even just stop being such a rude ARROGANT AHOLE.
Yes, I totally agree ~ Sandusky should die a thousand deaths. Those poor kids.
Oh, OK, it must be Worst Idea Ever Day.
She needs to STFU and go to hell.
Chris Brown’s career is in the toilet except for on BET which has been trying to bring him back incredibly hard (and classlessly). Only idiots listen to his music at this point, supporting him after he beat the crap out of Rihanna makes intelligent people sick.
I don’t know, maybe Rihanna is one of those people who NEED the BDSM lifestyle. I personally don’t understand it, but I think some people do need and want to have someone tell them what to do, and they could fall apart without someone like that.
Maybe Rihanna is like that? Maybe that’s why she’s spiraling out of control?
That being said, there’s absolutely no reason to go back to an abusive partner. In fact, I think the BDSM lifestyle is built on trust. And if you can’t trust the person you’re with (especially if they’re an abusive a-hole), then the relationship will do only harm, and no good. There’s plenty of people involved in the lifestyle if that’s indeed what she needs. There’s no reason why Rihanna should want to go back to Chris Brown.
I think you’re right. Rihanna needs to do some exploration into consensual BDSM with a partner she trusts. It’s very common for women who have been abused/raped to have fantasies about not being in control, but in a safe, controlled environment. Considering that she hasn’t tried to get therapy, this could even be healing for her. I fear that her predilection for playing with fire in physical relationships could end with her consistently being attracted to abusive and toxic men and dead if she doesn’t figure out a safe way to indulge her curiosity and fantasies.
That is disgusting. Nobody “needs” that and nobody knows she hasn’t tried therapy yet or wouldn’t benefit from it.
Yes, actually we do. She’s said herself she never went to more than a single therapy session. Direct quote: “Everyone wanted me to see a therapist to just talk about it, and I refused. In Barbados, we don’t do that. We keep it in our family and figure it out and move on.” You seem pretty ignorant about the whole situation, so it’s rather judgmental for you to be calling it disgusting that some people benefit from BDSM relationships. If it helps someone heal from abuse or trauma by experiencing emotions in a controlled situation, who exactly are you to judge?
She does look amazing in the beach pics, but one of the first things I noticed was the bruises on her leg. Now, if she were back with Chris, he would certainly be blamed for them. The second thing I noticed was how great she looked with short hair. She should really try that look again. I think that they both should talk to a therapist and that’s what their families and teams should be suggesting.
Yes, she looks INCREDIBLE with the short black hair. I really like her very much and hope she can find a good person to be happy with.
I recall ONLY ONCE reading that RiRi gave as good as she got and she was fighting with Brown all evening. It was a violent relationship on both sides.
She was abusive to him as well but no one can say that now.
I am SO SICK of how the media perpetrates this idea.
After you get to a certain point of being beaten over and over, yes, you do start to “give as good as you get” back because there is no other option. I was in an abusive relationship for far too long and towards the end, when I was being raped and punched on the regular, I would flail out and punch at him as hard as I could. I certainly did not start out the relationship by hitting, choking, or pushing him, as he did with me. But after awhile I got f*#king sick of it and I fought back.
We have no idea for how long Chris was mistreating her before her alleged “Look!! She’s also abusive” actions were reported. Not only that, but weren’t they reported by HIS side??
I would almost guarantee that she didn’t “start it.” Not to mention that there is absolutely no evidence of this allegation. It’s just so much victim blaming, which is disgusting.
Thank you for saying this. I am incredibly sorry that you went through that. I hope that justice was served and you are safe now. Prayers for your peace and comfort.
Thanks for the kind words, Girl. Luckily that has been over for some time! I just married my partner of ten years, a wonderful man who has NEVER treated me with anything but love, honesty, and respect.
And this is exactly why I changed my signature.
I don’t give a shit how much a woman “gives” as good as she gets when a man is whipping her ass! Is she supposed to just take it?
Regardless of whatever happened, he is obviously way more powerful than she is and proceeded to OJ the shit out of her face. He did far more harm to her than she could ever do to him.
Do I think women should go around hitting men “just because they can?” NO. But I think it’s a flimsy excuse to use as a justification as to why she got beat up. It sounds to me that you’re saying because she fought back or fought with him, it diminishes what he did.
So very sorry about your former situation. I would have given as good as I got too. Glad you are with a nice man now and seem very happy. A lot of stories like yours don’t end happily, but yours did 🙂
You must be unaware that MOST abusive relationships involve violence on both sides. The difference is that men are more likely to engage in potentially lethal violence, while women engage more in defensive violence. There’s a huge difference between those in terms of how much pain is inflicted and the motives. Women often feel ashamed in these situations, as if they are equally to blame – they are not. And you do them no favors by acting as if the two types of violence are equal.
A while back I watched an interview Rihanna gave to Diane Sawyer. She tells her side of the story, and speaks about her life growing up. It’s very sad, her dad used to beat her mom all the time. I did notice she said a lot about feeling embarrassed by her situation with Chris Brown. How she stayed, and how she even took him back for a short time after he beat her. The shame though was obvious and I found it very noticeable, it was obvious she blamed herself for loving a man who was like her father. Anyway, very interesting interview, it’s on youtube if anyone is interested.
The only reason I can see for Mommy there to be doing this is to ride her coat tails to more fame. CB may be doing ok career-wise but he’s no where near the level Rihanna is or has the potential to be. It’s sick and disgusting and frankly sounds a bit predatory like most abusers are.
Brown does not need to ride anybody’s coat tails and is extremely popular plus he has been nominated for several grammies in 2012.
UMMMM you can see her tit through that bikini top
um, so what?
If she get’s back with him she knows what to expect. Once a man hits you, it’ll only get worse. She gets no sympathy from me if she gets back with CB and gets abused again. Nothing against CB, but they are toxic to each other. Btw, doesn’t he have a gf named Karrauche (not sure about the spelling)?
I’m sorry to hear you say that. On average, women in physically abusive relationships reconcile with their abusers about 3-4 times before leaving for good.
I hope that you will have more sympathy if someone you know goes through something like that, as she will need all the support she can get.
“Rihana is still trying to blot out the inner emotional pain and turmoil of wanting Chris back.”
Or hey, mybe it’s the emotional pain and turmoil of BEING ABUSED, you moron. Grrrr
Rihanna cousin said on Twitter she never gave any interview and that story was made up. Blogs were so quick to pick up that story but when she said it never happened, I didn’t see one reprint a retraction. What part of GOSSIP magz don’t people understand?
EDIT: I call bs on this story b.c I can’t imagine a woman(who was abused herself) telling another woman to go back to an abusive partner? *trying to give botd* Nobody is this stupid.
I think the story is BS to but abused women tell their abused friends or family members in some cases, especially if he abuser is a son to go back. I have seen this happen. It’s not a norm, but it’s not unheard of.
I don’t see this story being true but there were rumours floating around on the urban blogs for years that he has been violent with his own mom. And she has remained supportive in an enabling way.
So there is always a possibility that she wants them to work it out if she thought in her twisted mine that RiRi was the best thing that happened to him and also to get the public off his back. Which it won’t. Sometimes an abused mind thinks some sick things.
He has never been abusive to his mother. Stop fabricating lies and get a life.
It would behoove you to learn what the word fabrication means before accusing one of doing it. I only said it was rumoured based on a well publicised police report in some hotel that said he and he his mother got into a physical altercation with his mother and SHE called the cops.
Unless you are permanently attached to his ass, you have idea what he hasn’t or has done. At least I had information that could back up the rumour that was reported.
MOMMY NEEDS TO BUTT OUT! IS SHE KIDDING?
Oops, meant to reply to someone.
I think we all know Rihanna would have gone back to him if there wasn’t pressure from the public. I guess that is one good thing about having handlers is that they have kept her away from him.
Did Rihanna lose weight? She looks good.
So…. by your logic Sharon and Ozzy Osbourne should have never remained married. A woman should never be w/ an abusive man right? Sharon & Ozzy both admit that he tried to KILL her! Oh my bad I forgot it’s okay for white men cause they can reform but black men are animals with no redemptive value! GTFOH! I wish Chris and Rihanna the BEST!
Correct, dumbass. She should not have gone back.
I think in a way, she’s still in love with him. The cycle of abuse is a though one to break…
@ original victoria Please, stop the b*llsh*t .
Change your moniker because you can’t handle the truth.