David Harbour on how Lily Allen’s daughters inspired him to propose


David Harbour appeared on Jimmy Kimmel Live to promote Stranger Things and the Black Widow movie. I guess Jimmy is back to desk and couch interviews now, things really are returning to how they once were. The first thing Jimmy did was congratulate David on getting married. David and Lily Allen surprised most of us by getting married in Las Vegas last September during the pandemic. They posted some pictures to their social media from their wedding, but beyond that, neither spoke much about any of it. However, on Kimmel, David opened up a bit. He said that he and Lily had actually gotten engaged before lockdown, but it was Lily’s daughters, Ethel and Marnie, who inspired him to make things official. David said he married Lily so her daughters would know what to call him.

David Harbour made it official with Lily Allen due, in part, to some accidental advice from the British singer’s two young children.

The Stranger Things star, 46, appeared on Jimmy Kimmel Live! Tuesday, where he spoke about how Allen’s daughters Marnie Rose, 8, and Ethel Mary, 9, whom she shares with ex Sam Cooper, played a role in the couple’s decision to wed in a low-key Las Vegas ceremony last September amid the coronavirus pandemic.

“We got engaged right before the pandemic. Then the pandemic hit and nothing was happening,” Harbour said of his plans with his partner, 36.

“We were riding around beginning of pandemic — she has two kids, these beautiful daughters, 8 and 9 — and we were riding bikes out in the country trying to figure out what we were gonna do for the next year or however long it was going to take. And the little one was riding along and she was going like, ‘David, dad, David, dad.’ Because the D got her confused,” he recalled. “And the older one got very upset with that, which I understand. She was like, ‘He’s not our dad! He’s not our dad!’ ”

Harbour continued: “And then younger one was like, ‘Well what is he? He’s kind of our dad.’ She’s like, ‘No he’s not, he’s our stepdad.’ And she goes, ‘What is he?’ And she goes, ‘He’s just some guy in our lives!’ ”

According to the Black Widow actor, that conversation confirmed it was time for him to take the next step.

“I was like, ‘I need to marry this woman,’ ” Harbour joked. “Because the emotional fallout … “

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If you watch the clip on Kimmel, it’s really funny. David is a great storyteller. But I kind of think there’s an element of truth here. David and Lily had a unique rollout to their relationship. It’s become obvious they aren’t doing it for anyone but themselves. Remember when they first took up, they were hanging all over each other in the streets? I really thought that was going to be their brand. But their honeymoon phase matured and we heard very little from them. They didn’t disappear, just kept to themselves mostly. David clearly became involved with Lily’s daughters, that was apparent on their social media, but he was respectful of their father, Sam Cooper. So I think when he heard Marnie call him “some guy in our lives,” it was funny, but he also wanted to prove to them he was in it for the long haul. If that message was more important than the bells and whistles of a big ceremony, why wait? Maybe David saw the chance to prove his dedication to Lily and the girls right then and there. And the wedding looks like a lot of fun. I’m still in love with Lily’s wedding look. I think everyone go the wedding they wanted.

David said both Marnie and Ethel still jokingly call him, “some guy in our lives.” I love it. It’s like a pre-teens way of keeping the new parent in line.



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  1. SM says:

    Those little girls look and sound like wild. I love it. He now is committed to remaining being a guy in their lives.

  2. Jane Doe says:

    Oh my heart. Stepparents who step up are the absolute best.

  3. Courtney B says:

    I love this. My bio dad left my mom when I was a toddler. Never paid child support or cared about being in my life. She divorced him, obviously. When I was 7 she married my dad. He was the greatest man I knew until I met my hubby. The one decent thing my bio dad did was legally relinquish his parental rights so my dad could adopt me years later. And I remember that stage of what to call him when they first married—dad or Bill or Billford (the name I gave him which he silently hated but never let me know lol) and waited for me to feel comfortable. So good on David for letting the kids sort of set the tone but still letting them know he was in for the long haul and for them too, not just lily.

  4. Mcmmom says:

    Congratulations to all of them! I’m a stepparent and it’s definitely complex, trying to navigate everything and hit the right tone. It sounds like they are doing a great job all the way around!

  5. carousel says:

    My mother and her now husband recently tied the knot after 15 years together. They started dating when I was in high school. I’ve spent so long calling them “my mom and my Bob” that it feels strange to consider calling him my stepdad. He’s my Bob and I love him dearly.

  6. Lisa says:

    From experience, I looooved when I could call my stepdad my stepdad instead of “my mom’s boyfriend”. My mom never wanted to get remarried so they were together for 5-7 years before he convinced her to tie the knot again and I just hated saying my mom’s boyfriend. Back in my day, the term “partner” wasn’t used like it is now. That would have been so much better!

  7. Jules says:

    That is very sweet. I had no idea she had two kids!

  8. Case says:

    What a sweet story. He sounds like a great stepdad and they seem like a really cute little family. Good for them!

  9. Sue says:

    This is very sweet and I’m happy for them. I’ve been a fan of Lily’s for a long time and I want her to have a happy and sober life.

  10. Normades says:

    At the time they seemed so random but they proved to be an endearing and well matched couple ❤️

  11. Feebee says:

    Sweet story. I think the kids are going to be alright.

  12. Penguin says:

    I watched David Harbour’s AD video a while ago and I thought he came across as such a lovely laid back guy. And his apartment was beautiful and not in a celebrity, modern art museum sort of way, but a really nice place to live in kind of way.