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When Katie Holmes decided to spring divorce papers on Tom Cruise in early July, were were all shocked at her sudden display of independence and, for lack of a better word, sentience. Quite simply, Katie appeared quite compelled to protect herself and daughter Suri from the specter of Scientology, but in the weeks that have followed, we’ve watched as Tom has proceeded to chip away at Katie’s air of parental authority as he has spoiled the hell out of his poor daughter.
Has this demonstration on Tom’s part somehow disadvantaged Katie’s own sense of self, as a parent or otherwise? The Mail has published a new report that pushes forth the theory that Katie is now seeking some public relations help via a “confidence and life coach.” Could this be shorthand for … a therapist? Because with or without the aid of psychiatric intervention, I would assume that there would be a fair amount of PTSD involved after five years of being married to a verbally abusive tyrant like Tom Cruise. Let alone the fact that Katie was forced to overcome the CO$ demands that she not be able to freely discipline her own child, right? Here’s the story:
After shocking the world by calling time on her five-year marriage to Tom Cruise in June, Katie Holmes was looking positively radiant.
But while her six-year-old daughter Suri travelled to Disneyworld Florida to spend some quality time with her dad last week, the 33-year-old actress cut a lonely figure as she walked through the streets of New York. Evidently missing her sidekick, the actress seemed to have the weight of the world on her shoulders following the stress of her recent divorce.
And despite being on top of the world just a matter of weeks ago, the brunette beauty is now said to be suffering a crisis of confidence at the reality of facing life alone as a single mother.
A source told Grazia: ‘She foresaw an incredible golden future for her and Suri, free of Tom and Scientology. But the glow and radiance that surrounded Katie post-split seem to have evaporated. Katie is keen to find her own voice so she has sought professional help and has employed a confidence and life coach who she’s been seeing once a week to help her regain who she once was.’
It is thought the star’s confidence was rocked when Suri returned from her lavish trip to Florida, where Tom didn’t hold back on treating her to a whole host of elaborate gifts.
With Katie trying to create a more normal lifestyle for the youngster, including visits to the zoo and meals from street vendors instead of fancy restaurants, the actress is said to be concerned that the couple’s daughter may be living two very different existences.
And to add to her woes, Katie is reportedly ‘terrified’ of returning to Los Angeles, where the Church of Scientology – the controversial religion to which Tom belongs – is based.
This comes after reports surfaced of unidentified figures, believed to be from the church, ‘staking out’ Katie’s New York apartment in the days immediately following her split from the 50-year-old actor.
Just two weeks ago, the former “Dawson’s Creek” actress cancelled a planned trip to LA, where she was due to attend a gala for the Dizzy Feet Foundation, an organisation she set up three years ago to support dance education for underprivileged kids in the US.
The source added to Grazia: ‘In the end Katie just couldn’t do it – she just didn’t seem to have the confidence and was too scared to set foot in LA, where she feared her every move would be watched. ‘She really never anticipated life post-Tom would be like this and we’re all hoping it turns round for her soon.’
[From Daily Mail]
I believe this story, and most of us would have issues overcoming the (inexplicably) powerful stance of Tom Cruise in Hollywood — particularly when one is the #1 enemy of their ex-husband who just happens to be Tom. Quite simply, Tom will use his connections to make life in Hollywood hell for Katie, and she is wise to stick around in NYC for as long as possible. She doesn’t even need Tom anymore — she’s got a new role on Broadway! So yes, Katie should get some serious, extensive therapy and stay in New York for the forseeable future.
On a somewhat related note, Tom’s (first) ex-wife, Mimi Rogers, was on the red carpet at the Hope Springs premiere, and an enterprising journalist at Us Weekly asked Mimi about Katie leaving Tom. Mimi responded as such: “I wish them both the best. There’s not much else to say.” So she’s not taking sides, which is wise. This news arrives in sharp contrast to the reports that Nicole Kidman would be steadfastly (if pushed) siding with Tom in the TomKat divorce. Then again, Mimi doesn’t have any children to worry about like Nicole does. Strange stuff, indeed.
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I really confused.. first the story is Katie is free and happy. Now she needs confidence.
Her people or whoever need to stop. I’m not a fan of either her or Tom, but seriously Katie is famous because she was married to Tom Cruise and had Suri. That is a fact. I know she was on a popular show, but outside that show she has kind of drifted. I for one would hate to see her take the path of OhHHH look at me after my divorce. Happy after Tom.
It is boring. Let’s see what Katie actually accomplishes outside of leaving her husband.
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you can be happy to be “freed” of a very controlling and messed up relationship while simultaneously needing help to “integrate” back in the “normal” world because of years of fuckery such as systemic mind manipulation etc.
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AGREE
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yep, it took several years after the ex before I stopped hearing his voice in my head and second guessing myself..
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Well said, that kind of relationship really takes a toll on the psyche – I think Katie lost herself in trying to be what Tom wanted to be – and is now finding herself again while at the same time excited to be liberated from the chains of Toms expectations that can never be satisfied.
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+100
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“Her people” need to stop what exactly?
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+Lisa2
I agree I don’t like Tom but I hate how Kate plays the victim. And a girl didn’t have a career I’m sorry but I just don’t get her as an actress I think she married Tom thinking her career would pick up but instead Michelle surpassed her and got jealous. Seriously I don’t think CO$ was the only factor, the only reason Katie got famous was because of Tom and it the only reason why she will continue to be famous otherwise she would had faded away a long time ago I know it harsh but true. She simply doesn’t look like a kind of person who can make it on her own regardless
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Wow. You can tell if someone can make it on their own, simply by looking at them?
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We have to think about this situation on the long run: maybe getting free was the easiest part, now she has to combine her life, her vision of Suri’s education, with one of the biggest ego in Hollywood, who is clearly not happy to have “lost”, who is as crazy as hell, and who is spoiling his daugther only to win her back; which I find disgusting. As it can happen in some divorces, Tom is not thinking about Suri’s best, Tom is thinking to mend his huge ego. Katie has been robot-ized in the last 5 years, and now she has to build her new life, and to contain Tom crazy influence on Suri. If she is on therapy it’s good; I think they are calling this “life coach”, because if she admitted being in therapy, Tom would go in court saying she is crazy (AH!).
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I don’t care what they call whatever help she’s getting as long as she’s getting it. In my own small life I’ve had relationshios that took me time to distance myself from to see everything clearly. No substitute for time. I agree with the comment thou..he’d scream she was crazy if there was ever an admittance of needing a mental health professional. The studios will go with whomever will make them more money. That’s it. There are alot of actresses of her age and ability so I don’t think she’s going to nab great roles or have some sort of terrific career.
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Confidence coach ? Too be so rich to afford a confidence coach….give me a break.
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As long has her $$$, mind & daughter are not going to CO$ then spend away. If she wants to pay $$ to get help after been in a controlling relationship & cult than let the girl do it.
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Now, let’s be fair…Katie probably has some form of PTSD after years w/ GMD, as Bedhead pointed out. You don’t go from years of living w/ a temperamental, controlling a-hole like Tommygirl (plus the added stress of the $ciento house staff being the equivalent of the Gestapo) without a major kick in the confidence.
We probably all should have predicted that with all his $$, Tommygirl would go all Disney Dad on Katie…that has to be REALLY hard to take. Plus, buying up real estate in NY surrounding area? Katie moved as far away across the country from him as she could, only to be trumped by his tremendous ego and desire to be viewed as “The Best Dad, EVER!”.
It makes me wonder how much she REALLY had on him- and if she threw all of her GMD & Co$ secrets all on the table at once during the divorce. I really hope she held a few items back, so she can turn the power tables on him again.
My heart and hopes are with you, Katie and Suri.
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Absolutely! She’s probably depressed, nothing unusual about that after escaping a controlling marriage where everything was decided for her.
Stuck in an insane org that does this stuff in its regular course of business, anybody would need therapy:
http://www.businessinsider.com/this-photo-of-a-scientologist-allegedly-being-punished-in-the-desert-is-chilling-2012-8
http://boingboing.net/2012/08/02/scientologys-hole-alle.html
So it might be tough all on your own getting back to the real world.
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Tom and Katie lived as man and wife almost around the corner from Katie’s new apartment…there has been no public report of his having sold the apartment. If she was really running from Tom, NY would have been the last place she would have settled in.
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I think anybody would need some solid therapy to shed the mind altering influence of a cult.
Tabloids are always so black/white. She doesn’t have to be EITHER ‘Happy and confident to be free’ OR ‘Insecure and depressed’. She can be happy to be free but feeling daunted by what lies ahead – especially now TC is starting to show how he’s going to be fighting this fight for Suri. She can be struggling with the influence the cult spent five years installing in her mind. She can be struggling with confidence over making her own decisions again after she spent 5 years following orders. Just because she was the one who was prepared for the divorce doesn’t mean she can’t find such an extreme life change difficult.
It’s probably a mix of all of that, and I’m glad she’s seeking help.
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I agree. How does this tabloid writer know that she’s lacking confidence? They dont. Such a bs story. But I hope with time she does feel fully satisfied and independent. With what she’s been through, that may be a long road ahead.
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I meant to comment on the Mimi Rogers thing too. In every story about Tom & CO$ it is always noted the SHE was the one that got him into this cult. She has to be just wanting to slink away from that. I don’t think she’s a member anymore. Also, her comments after their divorce started the gay rumors. That little marriage those two had really started some shit if you thing about it.
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Yes, this ^^. And I want to take this moment to personally THANK Mimi The Shortsighted, for getting the creepiest, most insecure crazyman in the world to front the Cult. Thank you from the bottom of my pea-pickin heart, Mimi. You have truly created a MONSTER from hell who is inflicting this disease of a cult on another person, made her and her family’s lives hell, and now to this innocent little girl. I hope you are very sorry for ever getting involved in this mess. You should’ve helped Katie escape instead of hiding.
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+1 To you both!
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oh, wow – I just stumbled on this story. Different Mimi, but this lady was abandoned by her mother for the cult. So sad.
http://www.examiner.com/article/love-and-hip-hop-atlanta-mimi-s-mother-abandoned-her-for-scientology
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PLEASE…slow your roll! I have read that Katie had a serious crush on Tom when she was a teenager and into adulthood. If the crush thing is true, Katie was openly lusting after a married man with 2 children for years. And,we all have sense enough to know when a person have a crush on another person,that person will learn everything they can about that person…so, she knew about his religious beliefs. By, the way I am a Christian, but I support Freedom of Religion.
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I shall not be slowing any rolling. And your diatribe is bizarre.
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I would have loved to have had a confidence coach, years ago going through something >similar<.
I'm glad she can afford to do so, because I think she'll need it after all those years. When you're used to someone making every decision for you, it's hard no matter how wealthy you are to start believing in yourself again. I wish her the best.
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Good for her!
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Balderdash. I believe this story is made up.
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Great expression. Rarely see it used. Like Poppycock!
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Any particular reason? Out of all the stories we’ve heard I think one about KH getting some counseling rings true.
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I feel like we have been fed a lot of false info; Suri enrolled in Catholic school- now she is enrolled in another school (and we really don’t know that, either) that is just one example. Article says Katie cut a lonely figure without Suri. To me, she did not look lonely in those pics. Any one of us could write an article like this, IMHO. If I am wrong, I apologize.
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I mean, it seemed obvious to me that she was depressed during her time with Tom. You can’t just rip that off like a bandaid. This life coaching (ITA about worries about how Tom might use someone who called herself a therapist) seems like a really good idea.
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Just a question.If she is a catholic why doesn’t she get help from her church? I think they have special programmes for life issues.I mean that’s one of the reasons people pay church tax.
Life coach is fine I suppose, provided there’s money for it.I start to feel for all the women that have to steer their lives without such crutches.
And I belive that Tom is going to turn her life into living hell in NY too and wear her down mentally.She might need a coach brigade to manage
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Unless they have a special post-cult debriefing program, she’s going to need more specialized counseling than the run of the mill stuff churches usually have.
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I am a former catholic, for what I know there aren’t special programs for life issues.
You can talk a LOT with your priest/confessor which eventually can be a sort of life coach, you can go in a convent for sometime, to rest and do spiritual exercises; there are bible-reading groups or prayers-group. I think they can suggest you some names for professional church approved help. But that’s all.
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My husband is a catholic and he gets sort of “advert” what the church does for its members.And with the prices you would pay if you get this “serice” somewhere else.
So family counceling and connected topics(divorce, adoption, terminal illness, ets.) were some of the points. But I must add that we live in the “deepest” catholic province of Germany.
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I’m jealous – I love Germany.
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I am beginning to think life might be more than she can handle on her own. Might explain why she hooked up with TC to begin with.
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I agree. I think she needs to debrief and examine what part of her personality let her get sucked into that nightmare to begin with.
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…*peers into the distance*…
OMG, do I spy Freewinds?
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Umm.. I am not a scientologist. I think it’s getting a little crazy that any comment voicing less than a saintly opinion of Katie gets treated like Scientology propaganda. It’s getting weird up in here.
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Assuming this is true of course it could be BS like a lot of the things that are mentioned about celebs and are forgotten a week later. I can see her being lost and maybe getting some therapy if that’s what they meant but I don’t get why it has to be one extreme or the other she could be strong enough to break free but still trying to find herself.
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Nobody can compete with Tom private jetting to Disney world in the afternoon, maybe Disney world will cease to be special if it’s like getting ice cream. Consistency, kindness and being there every day trumps extravagance, stand firm. Also get a dog=happy family!
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Suri is the real life version of the Truman Show. She will spend her entire life looking around for lenses pointed at her direction.. I can’t imagine how that must rattle her psyche.
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I get angrier every time I see these nitwit adults who know better, standing there trying to get photos. Mentally I’m slapping the things out of their stupid hands. I keep hoping the Suri situation will enable lawmakers to finally do something about phones. Maybe this is just wishful thinking, but, even small shops and hotels can post signs saying “no photos”; why can’t somebody make a rule or two about not doing this on the sidewalk?
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I know I’d have a face on me if people were constantly pushing in around me and sticking cameras in my face. (Why I avoid Vegas and moved to Podunk Nowhere.)
There really needs to be a strictly enforced, country-wide law (like France) where this kind of behaviour towards kids is NOT okay.
The PARENTS chose to be famous, NOT the kids.
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Anybody who has been consistently mind-f–ked for years needs some counseling. Katie’s no exception.
Add to that the divorce; escaping the cult; concern for her child’s and her own safety; and TinyTom’s Disneyland Daddy schtick; and yes, she needs a counselor or a “confidence coach” or whatever the hell she wants to call it.
A note on the paps: If I was famous, you would definitely be reading about me (and/or my bodyguards) busting a pap or two on this site. Anyone who makes my kid look like that deserves what they get!
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^^ THIS ^^
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I hear ya on THAT.
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What’s up with this tiny Tom bullsh_ _?
1.Jason Alexander (5’5″)
2.Woody Allen (5’5″)
3.Ed Asner (5’7″)
4.Sean Astin (5’6″)
5.Richard Attenborough (5’7″)
6.Roberto Benigni (5’5″)
7.Gael Garcia Bernal (5’6½”)
8.Jack Black (5’6″)
9.Mel Brooks (5’7″)
10.LeVar Burton (5’7″)
11.Phil Collins (5’6″)
12.Brian Cox (5’7″)
13.Tom Cruise (5’7″)
14.Billy Crystal (5’7″)
15.Danny DeVito (5′)
16.Richard Dreyfuss (5’5″)
17.Emilio Estevez (5’7″)
18.Peter Falk (5’6″)
19.Michael J. Fox (5’4½”)
20.Al Franken (5’5″)
21.Edward Furlong (5’7″)
22.Seth Green (5’4″)
23.Dustin Hoffman (5’6¾”)
24.Tom Hollander (5’5″)
25.Ian Holm (5’6″)
26.Bob Hoskins (5’6″)
27.D.L. Hughley (5’7″)
28.Peter Jackson (5’6½”)
29.Billy Joel (5’6½”)
30.Elton John (5’7″)
31.Charlie Kaufman (5’4½”)
32.Harvey Keitel (5’7″)
33.Joe Kissell (5’7″)
34.Nathan Lane (5’5″)
35.George Lucas (5’6″)
36.Mike Myers (5’7″)
37.Al Pacino (5’7″)
38.Kevin Pollak (5’5″)
39.Prince (5’2″)
40.Mickey Rooney (5’3″)
41.Tim Roth (5’7″)
42.Wallace Shawn (5’2″)
43.Harry Shearer (5’7″)
44.Martin Sheen (5’7″)
45.Jon Stewart (5’7″)
46.Henry Winkler (5’6½”)
47.Elijah Wood (5’6″)
http://senselist.com/2006/09/29/47-male-celebrities-57-or-under/
And.. http://www.imdb.com/list/slLXv44Bmxo/
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Yup, they’re all tiny too.
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Because it really, REALLY seems to bother him that he’s not 6 foot tall, and a lot of what he does and how he comes across feels like he’s compensating.
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Well his antics of lavish vacations is under-mining the other parent. Suri will eventually want to live with her dad because it’s a “princess” life.
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After being married to a control freak your confidence can take a nose dive. Control freaks are critical always making you feel what you are doing is wrong, you should have done this or tha and they are never wrong. I think Katie Holmes needs therapy. I also think Tom Cruise is quite an emotionally troubled person given the fact he seems to behave like his unpredictable fathe, which he said in so many words about his own father and his behavior. Tom Cruise puts on a very good front in public. It seems unless he has someone around he can belittle.he has no confidence. I think most controlling people are very insecure. He gets away with it because he is a top star with connections and lots of money. In reality he needs a lot of help. I bet he is a prisoner of scoentology. And why can’t he stay single? It is obvious he cannot have a decent relationship with a woman
he can’t give of himself or open up to anyone because he does not trust anyone. Let’s face it if you say you could not trust your own father who in the world can buoy trust. Parents have tremendous influence on their children when they are young. If Tom cruise had not joined that abusive cult he would probably be normal but can’t convince me he has severe mental health problems not the way his last two wives came out of their marriage to him. Nicole Kidmans mother had to US to bring her back to Australia. Katie’s dad had to help rescue his daughter. Tom Cruise should not move to New York and give Katie her space to heal from that abusive relationship. I read she moved here permanently and is very frightened to return to Los Angeles. I also think Tom Cruise isn’t going to move here but wants to torture Katie and scare her. She wants a life with lots ofiles between them. He should stay in California where he wants to be. He never wanted to live in New York anyway. Katie Holmes always loved NY and you don’t have to live on Hollywood to have an acting career. Many famous stars live in NY.
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Tom already have an apartment in NY that he and his former wife shared…he appears to be upgrading to a 2nd home.
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I know its way too early, but I hope someday she finds a new guy, a big burley bold handsome dude that would help shut down Tom’s overbearing intimidation. I get the feeling he’s never going to be far away from Katie.
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You’d be surprised how often stuff like that happens. (I think it’s a subconscious way of protecting oneself.)
My ex-husband (with whom I got involved after my abusive relationship had ended) was a muscular Marine with a fondness for guns.
Current hubs is an even bigger man with an affinity for all weapons and survival skills. (If something apocalyptic happens, I know we’ll be okay if we survive the initial whatever-it-is.)
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She was led about when a younger actress by her parents. They pretty much did everything for her. She did not have to worry about developing an identity of her own.
Then she gets involved with Tom Cruise. Again, he’s established, is used to making all the decisions governing his life, and it seems she was totally overwhelmed, again, not developing an identity of her own.
Then the divorce – all the details of the “escape” and the preparation that went into it orchestrated by her parents – probably almost all of it by her father.
They settle things fast and without rancor, and all that doomsday stuff her dad told her just flat didn’t happen.
While her parents were still there, her mom had her sign up to that Roman Catholic church and prepare Suri for that strict religious school.
Then her parents go back home and now, without anybody guiding her every step, she’s left sitting there wondering who she is.
Already, rumors are she and Tom are finally talking, she’s decided maybe she was hasty on a strict Catholic upbringing for Suri and will have her join a more open type of school with a more global perspective.
She’s on her way to her own identity – but she may need help to keep Tom and her Parents at a distance so she can finally and truly stand on her own as an individual and a single mother.
If she needs someone to help her become stronger and more secure with herself, I don’t think that’s a bad thing.
It seems like her head is finally pointing in the right direction, and I think that is a very good idea.
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So many people utterly hate TC in Hollywood it might actually help her getting parts and Tom has to be careful he nearly lost his own career and a studio because no one wanted to work with him. If he goes after Katie openly or behind the scenes people will get wind of it and his career resurgence will be over just as quickly as it was resurrected from the dead.
CO$ isn’t powerful and neither are the actors, everyone could feel the fallout if Tom decides to fuck with her ability to support herself and work her career. Make no mistake about it, being CO$ is not something people are talking about very much anymore. They know the house of cards is going to fall.
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