Jennifer Lopez: the most important quality for a man “is that he is sweet”

Jennifer Lopez covers the September issue of InStyle Mag, which just further proves my theory that this year’s trend for September issues is “Meh, who cares?” I remember when the all magazines really tried to get interesting or unusual cover girls for their September issues. But this year has seen women like Penelope Cruz, Gwen Stefani, Lady Gaga and now J.Lo take big September covers – and no disrespect to all of those ladies, but none of them are big “gets” for any magazine. They are ALWAYS on magazine covers. Remember when Linda Evangelista made her triumphant return on the cover of the September Vogue, after she had been MIA for years? That was more than a decade ago, and I still remember it, that’s how powerful it was. And these days, it’s just like, “Meh, get J.Lo.” Anyway, enough bitching and moaning. Here are some excerpts from InStyle’s interview:

Jennifer on how she survives: “I live by the mantra that God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle. You realize that those difficult moments, the times when you feel pain, are when you do a lot of your growing. You realize: There’s no reason to be terrified of things. Either way I’m going to be OK. At this point in my life. I’ve learned I can really survive things.”

She’s going to give love another shot, always: “The hard part is that you never stop believing in love. But that’s also the best part. You never stop believing, and you never, ever give up.”

Mom pressures: “I feel the pressures of wanting to be a great parent and of wanting to do right by my children. Being a mom, or a dad, is the most important job there is. It doesn’t matter who you are. You have to embrace it for everything that it is.”

Her secret to success: “Finding balance … You have to know what makes you happy – so your life is what you always dreamed it could be.”

She doesn’t give any quotes about Casper but “he is described in the article as sitting out one of her concerts at a soundboard.”

On men: “The most important quality the man in my life should have is that he is sweet. I like the good guys.”

[From People]

As much as I’d like to think that Jennifer’s refusal to discuss Casper Smart is some kind of harbinger of a potential breakup, I doubt it. Jennifer probably did this interview a few months ago, before all of the recent reports about Casper’s peep show/massage/gay cruising incident. Although the tabloids keep insisting that Casper and Jennifer will split soon, I just don’t think it will happen. Yet. Maybe I’m just trying to prepare myself for the worst. The worst = marriage.

Also: is it just me or does Jennifer sound particularly out of touch in this interview? I don’t have any problem believing she’s generally “out of touch” with the way regular people live, but she seemed particularly “Woe is me, my struggles are SO EPIC” in this interview. Get off the cross, J.Lo. People need the wood.

Photos courtesy of InStyle.

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  1. MorticiansDoItDeader says:

    “The most important quality the man in my life should have is that he is sweet.”

    I believe her. Judging by Skeltor and Casper, looks don’t even seem to register on her list of priorities.

    • marie says:

      ha ha, ain’t that the truth..

    • skuddles says:

      Hey Ms Mort, sorry to highjack thread, just wanted to let you know I found you and OTiff last night on FB 😀 And holy shizz, you’re both gorgeous! And beautiful families. I’ll send you both a friend request today – when you see initials LW you’ll know it’s me. Can you please pass along my message to OTiff if you see her on here today? Have a great day doll!

      • the original bellaluna says:

        skuddles – Mort & OTiff both know me on FB. (and aren’t they lovely?) Maybe they could give you my info?

      • skuddles says:

        Okay cool bella – I was wondering how I could connect with you on FB too. Once I’m friends with OTiff and Mort I’ll ask one of them for your name so I can friend you too (I’m LW). Cheers babe! 😀

      • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

        Hi Ladies!

        @skuddles, that’s very nice of you to say. Thank you. I’ll be waiting for your friend request! Then I’ll message you bells name!

        @bells, any luck getting madisyn to join our FB group?

      • the original bellaluna says:

        skuddles – Yay! Mort, I’ll give her call!

      • I’ll send the info. Everyone is gorgeous. Celebitches rule!

      • skuddles says:

        Friends requests sent to Mort and bella (already nabbed OTiff). And yup, Celebitches totally rule! 😀

      • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

        @skuddles, I didn’t get a request. Try sending it again.

      • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

        Ok. Found you 🙂

  2. Valerie says:

    I’m sorry but love does not make the world go ’round, especially romantic love. It doesn’t solve any of the world problems and if you live your life only wanting to find love, then you’re going to be disappointed and you’re going to live your life without giving the world anything. And I’ll be happy when J.Lo loses her voice permanently.

    • lbeees says:

      Amen! Our culture has this crazy obsession with romantic love, as if it solves all of our problems and makes us into the people we want to be. It’s just not true.

      We all have unique gifts and talents that need to be pursued. Excelling in those areas is what makes people great. Love is wonderful, and amazing, but it doesn’t fill every plate at the table.

      And romantic love–or lust–isn’t nearly enough to make a marriage last. Being in love is all well and good, but are you compatible over the long haul? Do you want the same things out of life?

      Do you want the same lifestyle (maybe one wants to work really hard and have a lot of money and the other doesn’t care)? Children? How should you raise your kids? How do you handle money? Etc. Etc.

      I’m digressing a bit, but marriage can’t just be about love. It’s a financial, contractual decision that requires a degree of pragmatism that is too often overlooked. If you don’t want the same things out of life, then marriage may not be the best idea. And if you don’t talk about those things, you won’t know until there is a problem.

      /end rant

      • You mean there is more to marriage than just the Wedding Day?!? More than spending thousands on a dress, cake, and party favors? More than throwing a hissy because your bf gained 5lbs and might throw off the look of the photos? Say it ain’t so!

  3. bammer says:

    She’s so irrelevant, tacky and fake.

  4. dorothy says:

    Sweet? Not that he has a job or is self reliant? She needs to take a closer look at her priorities for a man.

  5. ClaireB says:

    Seems like the translation for sweet here is doormat.

  6. tru tru says:

    she is so damn dumb, its really disappointing.

  7. NYC_girl says:

    Is is possible to remain grounded and stable when you come from humble beginnings, and then acquire tons of money and fame? The multiple marriages before 40 is a warning sign.

  8. HappyJoyJoy says:

    Ugh the depth of a mudd puddle and the maturity of a horny 15 year old. She loves giving her money away to losers, doesn’t she?

  9. Jennifer12 says:

    She really is ridiculous. She talks about romance and love and what she needs in a man more than she talks about her kids or being a working mother. It’s her obsession, not everyone else’s. I think people are like, um, are you wising up yet? I know I am. And ROTFL at the cross remark.

    • The Truth says:

      She gets asked about her personal life, see the thing is if she was out setting up fake photo ops with her kids, people would complain about her exploiting her kids, when she is seen with her kids she is being a fake mother

      Like folks make up your mind

      If she does talk about her kids she is flanting and showing off being a mum and people would still complain

      Like seriously get off her crotch, where are ?s about Marc and him NEVER being seen with his kids

      You know what I’ll wait for that answer

  10. mewmow says:

    She wants to do right by her kids? Um, how about not dating some loser and show you’re daughter how to be strong, independant woman. Show you’re son how a man is suppose to treat a woman by dating someone worthy of love. Teaching them those things is so important and will help them in future relationships. Not buying it. 🙁

  11. Sirsnarksalot says:

    He sits out concerts now? Well done, Casper the friendly gold digger. Wake up, Jen. You have kids to set an example for.

  12. the original bellaluna says:

    I’m sorry, when has she EVER taken the time after a relationship ends to grow?

    Her MO is to relationship-hop from one to another, never allowing this supposed “growth” to occur.

    • The Truth says:

      I wonder if George Clooney, Leonardo Dicaprio etc get asked the same question by men

      Let her live her life

      • the original bellaluna says:

        I’ve never heard George or Leo discuss their “pain” and “growth” after the end of a relationship.

        Also, not stopping her from living her life. But she has kids now, and she needs to think of what’s best for them as well. F*ck all the strange or side-dishes she wants, but don’t Kate Hudson the kids and bring every Tom, Dick, and Caspar home.

  13. Nina says:

    She’s on track to rival (or exceed) Elizabeth Taylor in number of exes… if she marries Casper I think it will be #4 or #5. None of her interviews give you the impression that she’s particularly smart or self-aware, so I guess we shouldn’t be surprised. But, man, is she gorgeous! Great shot of her in black leather…

    • the original bellaluna says:

      She & KK are going to require a photo-finish to see who ends up the winner in their ass-in-ass races to the altar.

      FTR: Caspar will be #4 for Jell-O; Kanye will be #3 for KK.

      • The Truth says:

        Why do people always bring up Liz Taylor

        There have been plenty of other women who have been maried plenty of times, such as Ava Gradner, Marilyn Monroe, Judy Garland, Diana Ross, Liza Minilli, Lisa Marie Presely and loads more

      • the original bellaluna says:

        Dame Elizabeth: 8 marriages
        Ava & Marilyn: 3 each
        Judy: 5
        Diana: 2
        Liza & Lisa Marie: 4 each

        That’s why.

      • Genevieve says:

        @ O Bella:….ITA! Indeed, JLo is fast becoming the modern day Elizabeth Taylor in a dodge for disposable marriages….just minus the class. She and KK absolutely kill me. It’s the Race of the Famewhores to the altar….WHY?

        Some women are constitutionally incapable of being alone. Thus, they spend their lives jumping from one meaningless and shallow relationship to another. If they somehow found a truly deep, meaningful man amongst all their frenetic romantic activity, they wouldn’t know what in the hell to do with him 🙁

        Sure, “sweet” is definitely a requirement in mate- seeking. But how about, ummm….intelligence? Devotion? Perhaps someone even REMOTELY age appropriate?

        Now, I ain’t saying he a gold digger….

    • mayamae says:

      I just do not like her. One of my pet peeves is celebrity women who dump their man, immediately hook up again, then get papped constantly with the new man carrying the old man’s children. It seems like an FU to the ex. The worst offenders are JLo and Halle Berry.

      I don’t care if JLo dumps this guy or marries him. Clearly she’ll keep him around until the next guy is lined up.

  14. Nina says:

    PS: I think she’s like a lot of really pretty but semi-talented girls of average intelligence… she needs a man to feel validated and doesn’t know how to be alone.

  15. laurie says:

    On a positive note, I really like that red top.

  16. The Truth says:

    @original bellaluna

    How dou you know what goes on in her house

    here is a video montage of her being a mother to her kids starting from 2:09
    from her concert

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cZ-aDbA_RZE

    • the original bellaluna says:

      Never said I did. Would these be the same concerts where the lighting and electronic techs were talking about how worried they were that the kids were unattended and may wind up electrocuted?

      Anyhoodle, it’s clear we have a difference of opinion, and I choose not to continue going tit-for-tat with you.

      Have a lovely day!

    • Genevieve says:

      @ The Truth….

      Wow, I don’t believe The Original Bellaluna said she “hated” ANYONE.

      JLo may indeed be Mother of the Year, who knows. But it certainly seems that she puts her romantic interests well before her children. Your video is great and all, but how many pictures do you see of Jennifer and her children vs. Jennifer and Caspar Dumb?

      Just saying…she seems to bring home a lot of strange and involve her children with them. Like O Bella, I’m not sure that’s a great idea. In fact, I personally think that’s poor mothering at worst, tacky as hell at best.

      As far as hating? I think you’re taking that a bit too far. I don’t believe that ANY of us are emotionally involved enough with most of these Celebutards to really give a flip what they do.

      Calm down already. CB is a GOSSIP BLOG. Right…?

      *shakes head in bemusement*

  17. mar says:

    she is not a nice person. trust me, I have encountered her in miami- only when the cameras are on is when she is sweet!!!!! NOT A FAN

  18. Maritza says:

    She’s gorgeous, love her!

  19. Hubbahun says:

    “The most important quality the man in my life should have is that he is BREATHING.”

  20. judyjudy says:

    Wait….she has kids ?

  21. Kristin says:

    she must be in her 40’s if she’s only settling for “sweet”..

  22. Barbara says:

    She is extremely superficial and vanilla. What a waste and I’m not looking forward to getting the mag in the mail! I read Vanessa Paradise’s interview this morning and was so impressed that it makes this interview laughable. Get over yourself Ms. Lopez.

  23. littlemissnaughty says:

    Jeeze, that is a BAD cover. What’s with the 90’s vibe?

    I’ve always found that her interviews are snoozy as hell, she used to be a good entertainer but these days, she’s not even that. At least compared to 10 years ago.

  24. amoi says:

    she sounds like me at 16. she’s an old little girl.

  25. lori says:

    Marc Anthony and Been Affleck were sweet? Ever? Even in the beginning?

  26. I.want.shoes says:

    If JLo only needs sweet, she should get a puppy.

  27. Mairead says:

    Yeah, I confuse “John” John Combs and a bag of sugar all the damn time 🙄

  28. Carolyn says:

    Wow. Instyle are setting a new benchmark for ridiculous extent of photoshopping. We’re not silly.

    After being in an abusive relationship, I understand her desire for someone sweet. This comment has been taken out of context from a vapid, short, “sound bite” interview. There’s a lotta dislike for JLo..I’m cutting her some slack..for now…as long as she doesn’t lose her head and marry Caspar.

  29. erika says:

    God she’s blindingly stupid.

    Really J. Ho? Really? Do I believe it?

    Those million dollar bills must be soooo sad living in her pockets.

  30. hoganbcmj says:

    “Get off the cross, J.Lo. People need the wood.”

    I haven’t heard that one before. Hilarious!

  31. Mrs. Ari Gold says:

    I actually can’t stand JLo but I think what she’s really saying is that she didn’t appreciate sweetness in a man (like many of us) before and therefore went after douchebags b/c they were hot or famous or rich. Now she’s learned her lesson & respects sweetness in a man and by saying so publicly she also wants to encourage other women to appreciate the same trait.

  32. serena says:

    ‘The most important quality for a man is that he is sweet’

    ..and gay in your case.