Miranda Lambert snoops Blake Shelton’s phone & Twitter: normal or uh-oh?


Miranda Lambert and Blake Shelton cover this week’s US Weekly. It reads like a PR piece in which Miranda admits that she knows people are saying her husband cheats, but she’s pretty sure there’s nothing going on and it’s just rumors. Miranda supposedly knows Blake is faithful, even though she’s apart from her husband most of the time, because she snoops in his twitter account and phone whenever they’re together. The article also includes quotes from Miranda about how tough marriage is and how she’s surprised they even lasted a year. Miranda and Blake are coming up on their two year anniversary.

She knows it looks bad and she monitors his data
“She knows he comes off as flirty,” says one source of the country darling, who has copped to reading her husband’s text and direct Twitter messages. “She questions him at times and asks about certain girls. The rumors are hard for her to hear.”

Blake swears he didn’t cheat with young singer Cady Groves
“Blake swears up and down that nothing happened,” says a Shelton insider – another source says the ugly rumors have taken a toll.

And at the very least, stir up some memories. Lambert herself has confessed to falling for him at first sight in 2005 – even though she was reportedly in a relationship at the time and he was still wed to Kaynette Williams.

She’s monitoring him on set
“Miranda is definitely aware of how Blake can act,” says a Voice insider. “That’s why she’ll hang out on set to keep an eye on him.” Echoes another insider, “She trusts him, but she knows how flirty she appears.”

They won’t be together this summer
Even sharing a time zone this summer will amount to a serious challenge. “Their schedule is truly the harderst part,” says a Lambert source of the couple, who share a spacious rental in the Hollywood Hills, a Nashville pad and a farm in Tishomingo, Oklahoma. “Miranda always has to go to L.A., or they’ll meet in Oklahoma. It’s a lot of flying.”

Miranda told US in January that she snoops
“Either one of us can always look at each other’s phone, and we know each other’s passcode. I don’t have to snoop anymore. It just takes the question out of the marriage. I like to check his direct messages [On Twitter]”

[From US Weekly, print edition, April 29, 2013]

Is this acceptable in a marriage to reach a point where you don’t trust the person and are digging through their data whenever you can? Or is that just being open? If a cheating spouse knows their partner is snooping through their stuff they’re going to get better at hiding it. If one party thinks the other one is cheating, is a non-incriminating data trail going to reassure them?

Miranda has half-admitted that she got with Blake back when he was married. She said in an interview a couple of years ago that she was instantly attracted to Blake when she met him, that she “knew better,” and “I knew he was married.” It sounded like she was trying to own up to an affair without stating it outright. So now she’s fighting for her own marriage after a scant couple years. She seems to think it’s worth fighting for at this point, but it also reads like she didn’t know what she was getting into. She should have, she’s said that her parents are private investigators and “I’ve seen this my whole life – affairs.” I’m sure she’s seen affairs happening in second marriages too, when the husband decides he wants to trade in his second wife/former mistress.

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  1. Val says:

    If you have to go out of your way to assure everyone your marriage is great and your husband isn’t cheating on you, he’s cheating on you and your marriage is terrible.

  2. Devon says:

    My husband and I know each other’s passwords for everything and we’ve never had cause to use them. He could check my stuff and I could check his but we’ve got enough trust in each other that we’ve never done it.

  3. Launicaangelina says:

    It you feel compelled to tell everyone how great things are on a consistent basis, you ultimately sound like you’re trying to convince yourself most of all.

  4. lucy2 says:

    So she doesn’t trust him, and is talking about it publicly. Yeah, that marriage is real secure.
    I can’t feel too sorry for either when it eventually implodes, if it started with an affair to begin with. What’s that expression, marrying the mistress creates a job opening?

  5. Georgina says:

    Sorry, but email, Twitter and phone snooping isn’t a sign of a secure relationship to me. I think, even after years together, that each person in a relationship has some expectation of privacy. My BF (of nine years) has never once asked for any of my passwords, he doesn’t read my bank statements to see where I’ve been, and he doesn’t question me about comments from guy friends on FB, and I do the same for him. We trust each other, and I think snooping is a sure sign you don’t trust your partner.

  6. Agnes says:

    It would never even occur to me to check my husband’s phone or his email. I don’t know how you get to that point. Sad.

  7. Stuart Horsely says:

    Not sure what to think of this story. Publicizing the fact that you monitor your husband’s phone and email in a world-wide publication?? Huh?? What a healthy relationship. NOT. Didn’t they both cheat on their former spouses? Ugh.

    • Katie says:

      This is Miranda’s first marriage. I don’t know about Blake, though.

      (I’m not defending either one.)

      • Stuart Horsely says:

        I wasn’t sure. What do they say, “the way you got him is the way you’ll lose him” ? He was married, I’m sure. I’m more interested in when Leanne Rimes is going to exhaust herself (implode) telling the world how awesome her sham of a marriage is, lol :D

      • Katie says:

        Oh, he was definitely married. To his high school sweetheart no less. I saw him in concert in 2005, and I remember him crying while singing “Goodbye Time” (or something like that. I only knew him from his radio singles at the time), and my friend and I were all “Hmmm….what’s going on there?” It made sense a few years later when the divorce was final. Miranda was pretty honest about their beginnings on her “Behind the Music” episode. Well, honest in that I’m assuming there was no funny business because she didn’t ‘fess up to any.

        LeAnn Rimes just….blows my mind. I remember when she was the second coming of Patsy Cline, and now she’s a famewhoring hot mess (which might be redundant). lol

      • Stuart Horsely says:

        Me too. And I loveLoveLOVE how Brandi is ignoring all the bullsh*t she tweets. Best thing she could do, a desperate, self-absorbed twit.

  8. YuYa says:

    Karma. She had to have him while he was already married, now she gets to go through what the wife went through. And Blake? Not hot, and karma is waiting for his ass too.

  9. Katie says:

    Normal, considering how they got together. I’ve loved Miranda since she was on Nashville Star, but I side-eyed her (and him) for that.

    They’ve been getting so much press for their marriage lately. She is way too honest for her own good. lol

  10. virginia5 says:

    I have nothing to hide, but I still wouldn’t want my partner to have my passwords to various accounts, just like I don’t need his passwords to anything. Some things just don’t need to be shared.

  11. maria says:

    I have my hubbys password to facebook and he knows who and what type of people he’s allowed to add on there just like I do. No exs or anyone he’s ever done anything with he wouldn’t do in front of me. It has kept our marriage far more drama free than our dating years when myspace caused all sorts of jealous drama. Miranda knows he has a wandering eye and she got him that way so so has every rigjt to be worried

    • Georgina says:

      It’s your marriage and apparently it’s working for you, but I have issue with the whole “he knows who he’s ALLOWED to add on FB” thing. I couldn’t imagine dictating to my BF that sort of thing, especially since we’re both friendly with our exes.

      • Erinn says:

        Agreed. I have issue with the word ‘allowed’. I don’t dictate to my fiance what he’s allowed to do, who he’s allowed to hang out with, or who he’s allowed to talk to. I know that he doesn’t put himself into the kind of situations that would cause drama because that’s just the kind of guy he is, and I do the same.

        If it works for you, good. But the mention of the myspace jealousy doesn’t make me feel like this is a fully trusting situation.

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      I actually know quite a few couples like that, and I cant say I blame them. It seems like more out of respect than anything else. Like, what’s the point in adding an ex on FB you havent communicated with in 7 years? Why would you want to know about their current life? IMO, that is asking for trouble and temptation when it could easily be avoided. Why go down the road of potential drama if you are happy in your relationship and want to avoid it? Then again, I feel the same way about a married man going to a strip club ( esp without their sig other), but who knows maybe Im a prude.

      • Georgina says:

        “Asking for trouble and temptation”

        See, I don’t like this way of thinking (but obv, I know we all think differently, so Im not trying to be super-critical). Anybody my BF dated before me is an ex for a reason, and he’s been with me for nearly a decade! And the same goes for me. My exes are exes for good reason, and there’s no temptation there. I refuse–I repeat, REFUSE–to police my boyfriend’s activities and dictate who he can and can’t talk to or add on social media.

      • Devon says:

        If you’re secure in your relationship you should never be able to, or should, tell your SO where they can go, who they can hang out with and what they can do. If you can’t trust them with anyone of those things, then you shouldn’t be together.

      • Sam says:

        I’m online friends with an ex. Haven’t seen him in person for a while, but we parted as friends – and I know his current wife as well, so I like to be able to see them online (because he now lives across the country). My husband is secure enough to know that exes can be friends and not have it threaten the relationship. But I think it depends on the ex. Mine was a fairly quick relationship that ended mutually and well. An ex of several years or a prior fiance? Maybe I’d get the point. but not all exes have to totally part ways.

      • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

        To clarify, I wasnt saying anything about “dictating” – lol thats a pretty strong word there – or telling the person where they can go what they can do etc.. mainly just be on the same page and respect each other..and if you dated/married someone for a short time and can say youre really friends, that is cool. It really just depends on the situation. I see if from the side of, if you havent kept in touch for years and then reach out when you both have separate lives and loves, whats the point? It would just bring back old memories and “what ifs.” No good can come from it. You dont need to track down your ex from years past just to be FB friends and see what theyre up to these days or get their number/email and start up with regular communication. I must be in the minority, but I just dont get it. Then again, youre right, we all think differntly on things like this and that’s fine. I think as long as you and your SO are on the same page about whats acceptable and you do trust each other, then no worries.

      • bluhare says:

        I get together with an ex periodically. I like him, he likes me. My husband knows, and doesn’t care.

        And the ex and I have lunch or something and a very nice time catching up. It’s not always ugly.

      • Georgina says:

        Sorry, @Emma… The “dictating” part of my comment was more directed at @Maria, who said her husband knows who he’s allowed to talk to/add.

        @Blu, exactly what I was getting at! I see an ex periodically w/o my BF present. He knows, he doesn’t care, he’s secure. There’s never been any “what ifs” on my part after I’ve seen my ex. If anything, I wonder why I was with him so long and am just happy to go home to my current BF!

      • Emily says:

        So-called “temptation” cannot be avoided unless you never do anything with anyone of the sex/es you’re attracted to. Not ANYTHING. No job. No taking classes. No talking online with anyone. Why worry about exes? I assume they’re exes for a reason.

        If you don’t trust your spouse to resist temptation even if the most beautiful woman in the world is naked and throwing herself at him, you don’t trust your spouse.

  12. Poppy says:

    Like they say – when a man marries his mistress, he creates a job vacancy!

  13. Christin says:

    Sounds less than trusting, and not surprising. If a cheater doesn’t want to be caught, he / she will adjust the game accordingly anyway. Even if she caught him, would she leave him? I’m not sure she would.

  14. SmokeyBlues says:

    Ladies at my workplace are always telling about the drama they go through because they read their bf’s texts and whatnot. They wait until he is sleeping and read through and the start fights over it. I bite my tongue but I think it’s awful and if you feel the need to do that you should just end the relationship.
    I came home and talked to my hubby about it and we agree that we have NO desire to look at each other’s phones. Makes me feel lucky to be in a trusting relationship.
    Also isn’t she rather embarrassed to be putting all this out there?!?

    • Georgina says:

      Yep, I hear this from the ladies I work with, too. They are just shocked that my BF and I have separate personal checking accounts and that I don’t read his FB or Twitter. They’ll say, “But how can you be sure he’s not cheating or doing anything he shouldn’t?” To which my standard reply is, “I trust him, that’s how!” They all say I’m making a mistake and someday I’ll feel horrible WHEN he takes advantage of this freedom and cheats on me. I think it’s just such a sad way to live, constantly expecting your partner to step out on you if you don’t monitor every little thing they do.

      • Devon says:

        “They all say I’m making a mistake and someday I’ll feel horrible WHEN he takes advantage of this freedom and cheats on me.”

        Those women aren’t too bright are they? If someone’s going to cheat, it’s not going to matter whether or not you’ve got access to their phones, texts, FB, Twitter, etc. If they’re going to cheat, they’re going to cheat.

  15. Tapioca says:

    Umm, yeah – because no cheating husband ever thought to buy another phone for his mistress’ calls!

  16. EmmaStoneWannabe says:

    As far as the snooping around, I have been there unfortunately. If it gets to that point, it is true that you’re insecure about something. Women, especially, know in their gut when something isnt right and that should be enough of a sign it’s time to get out. Bc once you go snooping and find stuff, the feeling of vindication is only about 1% while the other 99% is pure devastation. Sometimes you just dont want to know all the truth so bottom line, if you dont have trust, you dont have anything…Back to the topic, I think their marriage is crumbling before our eyes.

  17. Sam says:

    No. Just no. You should not have to snoop, short of believing your spouse is involved in illegal activity. Part of marriage is trust. If you need to snoop, you don’t trust your husband. Full stop. If you have reason to believe he is cheating, then address it with him. if you believe he is, you haver two options: stay or don’t. But at some point, you’ll just have to trust him. If you can’t, the relationship has far more serious issues.

  18. Lulu.T.O. says:

    It’s not snooping if you know each other’s passcodes.

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      Hah that’s like saying it’s not breaking in if you have a copy of someone’s house key … some logic.

      • Lulu.T.O. says:

        Disagree. It’s not breaking in if you share the same house with someone, so it’s not a valid comparison. When you are married, you share with each other and don’t keep secrets. He gave her the passodes, expecting that she would be able to look at his emails. No snooping involved.

      • sauvage says:

        @ Lulu.T.O.:
        I disagree. When you’re married, you’re supposed not to have secrets which hurt your relationship and/or your partner’s trust in you. Doesn’t mean you can’t have a private life apart from your spouse.

        I would never ever allow my partner to read my e-mails. He’ll have to trust me that I will tell him about things that concern HIM. It’s none of his business what my friends tell me about their private lives, for example, which might be part of my e-mails. If he reads my e-mails, he might stumble over somebody else’s secrets that are none. of. his. business, period. Even if it’s something completely harmless like “OMG, my menstruational cramps are KILLING ME!” – it’s certainly nothing my friend would want to talk about with my husband. It’s directed at me and me only, and for good reason. My friends have to be able to trust me that whatever they tell me is safe with me – difficult to do so if they know that they can only be sure of that if they address me face to face which you don’t always have time for.

        So: NO to reading each others e-mails or text messages or diaries. Just NO.

  19. littlestar says:

    I don’t understand what she sees in this guy. He seems like a total tool.

    On a side note, I go on my fiancé’s Facebook account often. He never uses it, so he lets me go on to add friends and deny my mom’s game requests for Candy Crush lol. We have all the same friends anyway, so there’s nothing on there for me to snoop through. I do not however look through his phone or emails. And we both have each other’s passwords to our emails etc, so I guess we could snoop if we wanted to? But I have no reason to and neither does he.

    Edit: It also seems weird to me when stars do actual articles on their marriages for anyone to read about. Famous or not, I couldn’t imagine doing an article for a magazine talking about my relationship in such detail. It just doesn’t seem healthy.

  20. videli says:

    The idea only of checking my husband’s emails/messages makes me exhausted. I can’t imagine the daily tension and effort involved. Do women who police their partners’ activity feel truly loved when they discover nothing?

    • Georgina says:

      I have a coworker who has her poor husband so under her thumb that she keeps their debit/credit cards and doles out only as much cash as she sees fit to keep him from spending it on things she doesn’t want, like lunches with other women or an extra cell phone. I’ve asked if he’s given her reason to act this way, and she says he hasn’t and this is going to ensure he doesn’t ever. I’ve always thought she must be so effing tired from watching over his shoulder all the time that she couldn’t possibly have time to enjoy their relationship. Ladies like this are why some guys think women are crazy!

    • Irishae says:

      The psychology behind it is definitely interesting. I think subconsciously it is some bizarre affirmation of loyalty and a twisted desire for excitement, whether they like what they find or not. Trust isn’t an easy lesson to learn for many people–it’s certainly becoming a unique quality to find in a relationship if sharing passwords and reading emails is the “norm” nowadays. Damn, I sound old. And I’m not!

      • RN says:

        I’ve been with my husband over 18 years and I’ve never once checked up on him. Nor would I give him passwords to my accounts. It is healthy to have some space within a relationship. You’re right, it does sound like some people are confusing trust with transparency.

  21. My wife has offered her phone and email accounts in the past when we were dating as means to reassure me. I was horrified, NO! I have never been and will never be a wife that has to check up to feel better. Not out of judgment of those women, but because I don’t want to have to live that way. Constantly checking and hoping and questioning, it’s too stressful. Not to mention, if you are offering the phone and email you know I am looking and wouldn’t store evidence there anyway.

  22. Dinah says:

    Jodi Arias advised her that, “It’s tooootallly legit”.

  23. Sam says:

    Think about it this way – if a man demanded access to all his wife’s accounts, monitored what she did online, showed up at her place of employment to watch her behavior and the like, would most reasonable people (at least here) have any problem seeing it as an attempt to control his wife and potentially abusive/manipulative? probably not. If it’s not okay then, it’s not okat when the sexes are reversed. A man shouldn’t have to submit to an invasion of his privacy anymore than a woman.

  24. flutters says:

    I feel like what’s really going on here is Miranda Lambert, even more than Blake Shelton, has lost some control of her public image. Now, instead of the bada** gal who’ll take no crap like her older music used to portray, she’s a sad wife standing by her man. If you believe Life & Style (which I don’t, really), she’s even trying to look better and let the girls hang out to keep him interested.

    I also think she & Blake are now tabloid fodder as a way of raising the fact that they got together while Blake was still married. It’s basically retroactive “punishment” by the tabloids now that they’re trying to become a star power couple. That’s the price you pay for trying to play the PR game.

    If this was really a PR piece for Miranda and Blake then why do the headlines on the cover make them look so bad? I haven’t read the story but even the excerpts CB posted don’t seem that flattering.

  25. Original A says:

    I’m always surprised at how much drama there is in the Country music world, although old school country was about drinking, church, ranches, and cheating.

  26. AcesHigh says:

    My mom put a tracker on my dad’s phone so she could see where he was at and what his text messages said. She also stuck a tracker in his car to further see where he was going.
    I’m going to say that Miranda does not trust Blake.
    Because when you technically start to stalk what people are doing and saying… something is off.

  27. Izzy says:

    What goes around, comes around. She was the “other woman,” now I guess she’s looking out for the next “other woman.”

  28. Laurie says:

    To be fair, celebrity marriages are hard, which is probably why so few of them last. You are constantly surrounded by adoring, flattering and syncophantic people – too much temptation for many people. Add the fact that Blake likes to drink (and admits it) and it could easily be a recipe for disaster. Yes, it’s a matter trust, but it’s also a matter of accepting reality that you may be married to someone with weaknesses. Better that than obliviously wandering around believing that your own wonderfulness will keep them faithful. Fact of life: sometimes we fall in love with flawed people.

  29. PoliteTeaSipper says:

    For me snooping in texts is like opening Pandora’s box.

    Marriages can be tough. Sometimes it helps to talk it out with a woman who is older and wiser who can give you guidance as to if you are completely overreacting or not. But that’s what I don’t get about stories like these. Talking it out and getting perspective from a trusted friend or mentor, I think that’s normal. Blabbing to a tabloid? Not so much.

  30. Maggie says:

    My brother shares an email account with his wife. Every time I send him an email she reads it first. I hate that!

    • RN says:

      I truly hate that, along with shared FB accounts. I refuse to communicate with a friend if her spouse/SO has access to my private information. If I wanted her SO to know what’s going on in my life, I’d invite him/her to our lunches, phone conversations, etc. also.

      I “broke up” with a friend years ago who could not quit blabbing details of my life to her husband. “He’s my husband. I tell him everything!” Is NOT a valid excuse in my book. It’s insensitive and uncaring about my feelings and my right to privacy.

  31. Marianne says:

    You either trust your husband…or you don’t.

    I think that says a lot, if you don’t.

  32. Girl using brain says:

    If he cheats ‘with’ you’ll, he’ll cheat ‘on’ you. Pretty simple.

  33. Mimi says:

    I know one married couple where the man was weak in other relationships and wanted to stay faithful so he asked his wife to travel with him. Musicians have time on the road and groupies and the smart wives work out a way to be on the road, too. Tutors for the kids whatever. But some women have a guy who would never be tempted and home each night. My radar goes off when a boyfriend changes. I know when he’s not trustworthy: he stops answering his cell in front of me and locking his phone. Has to check it elsewhere becuaae he has parients. i just made a mental note and I knew he wasn’t marriage material. If he makes me feel safe and builds trust, I would marry him. If I feel insecure, it’s not “my guy”. I think you don’t look or need to snoop if you’ve found a good man. Every woman has a choice, but each couple is unique.

  34. lisa2 says:

    Life is too short to have to go through this crap. If you don’t or can’t trust the person you are with, then you shouldn’t be with them.

    People who want to cheat will. People have been cheating long before there were cell phones or twitter or FB or whatever

    I can’t imagine being with someone and needing to “spy” on them. If I’m doing that then I need to let them go because something is broken or missing.

  35. sauvage says:

    Oh yeah. “She trusts him, BUT…”. Always a good sign.

  36. SydneySpy says:

    I’ve never heard of these two. Country singers? That’s probably why…

    Marriage is hard for just about everyone, but I’m glad I’m not in the public eye. Show biz marriages do not have a good track record. There is usually a lot of money, so anything (including people) can be bought. There’s a lot of socialising, drinking, drugs, and a lot of very attractive flatterers only too willing to stroke an ego. There is a great deal of vanity and narcissism, constantly having to look your best with much preening and pampering. There are a lot of yes-people and enablers, who will say whatever it is you want to hear. There are lots of hangers-on, too, and for some reason celebs seem to depend on them, as much as they depend on the celeb. Then there are the long separations from each other. Most think they can handle these, but history tells us differently. When couples are apart for long periods, there is always a risk of one of those flatterers slipping in to fill the gap. We’ve seen it countless times with celebs. While the cat’s away etc. if one chooses to be apart for “creative” reasons, then one is putting the relationship at risk. And if you, the wife, were previously the mistress….well, there’s a good chance you’ll find out how the previous wife felt.
    None of this surprises me at all. In fact, I’m somewhat shocked when these people stay together for more than a year or two.

    Now, the snooping, stalking, checking up….phwoar….that’s gone to another level. They’re on the skids. This is an express train heading for Splitsville.

  37. Gillian says:

    Why is this a surprise? my Mama done told me years ago: if he cheats with you, he’ll cheat on you.

  38. elceibeno08 says:

    Of course Miranda should secretly check her hubby’s cellular phone call log. If they spend lots of time apart, it is very likely that Blake will have to deal with many floozies who would love to tempt him into cheating on his wife. Such is life; he is young, good looking, famous, and rich. “THE SPIRIT IS WILLING, BUT THE FLESH IS WEAK” Matthew 26:41

  39. Jenn says:

    If I can’t trust him, I’m not going to be married to him. That being said, I don’t think Miranda would trust anyone, much less Blake. If he cheats with you, he’ll cheat on you.

  40. cat says:

    Have you seen this guy. Hes got moviestar look, personality, i would expect him.to cheat. And the second phone thing is obvious. Thsts wut i wud do.

  41. cat says:

    Have you seen this guy. Hes got moviestar look, personality, i would expect him.to cheat. And the second phone thing is obvious. Thats wut i wud do.