Last year, Ben Affleck got in trouble in Las Vegas for counting cards at blackjack tables. He was blacklisted from playing at The Hard Rock Casino, however the casino was careful to mention to the press that Affleck was still welcome there, just presumably not at blackjack. Affleck loves to gamble, signs point to it being an addiction, and the tabloids have been calling it a problem for his marriage for years.
Radar Online claims that Ben and his wife, Jennifer Garner, haven’t been spotted together for 31 days. They point to the couple’s separate schedules, and Ben’s gambling, as evidence that they’re having problems. Here’s part of their report. It all sounds circumstantial to me.
Garner was photographed having lunch with a friend at Sant Ambroeus in Manhattan on May 13. She left their kids, Violet, 9, Seraphina, 6, and Sam, 3, back in L.A. But according to insiders, Affleck was not playing babysitter. Instead, he was spotted gambling hours away in Las Vegas!
Twitter user @LetsGoBulls11 posted at 3:19 am on May 14, “Ben Affleck here at the #Venetian, high stakes #poker #Vegas.”
Hours later, Affleck was back in Los Angeles, photographed taking his kids to school and looking slightly worse for the wear.
As Radar has reported, Affleck has increasingly been spotted outside the family home as his marriage has crumbled. He was also photographed in Las Vegas on May 3, where he played high-stakes poker for several hours, according to reports.
And on Garner’s birthday, April 17, he was spotted on a solo trip to Canada — not wearing his wedding ring.
I do think that Affleck is trying to find himself, and he obviously still struggles with fame. He’s mentioned repeatedly that he hated being a tabloid fixture during the J.Lo debacle. He’s still a tabloid target, sometimes with good reason.
I’m a Garner-Affleck looney, so take my opinion for what it is. I don’t think some time apart and Ben’s gambling add up to a divorce. They fly on private jets and their jobs take them around the world. Of course they’re going to be in different places at times. Radar also claims to have a quote from an insider who says Ben has “told Jen that he wants the official [divorce] statement to come out before their ten-year wedding anniversary on June 29.” I really doubt this is true. Ben revels in his status as a family man and he uses it for legitimacy in Hollywood. They have young children together that they adore. Jennifer has said that marriage is work too, and she seems like she’ll stick around no matter what. Radar and their sister publication The Enquirer have made these claims for years. They could be onto something, but I really hope not.
Photos are of Ben out getting coffee yesterday, 5/26. Jennifer is shown on 5/19. Photo of Ben and Jen together is from 4-24-15. Credit: FameFlynet
He is so gross. While I hate to see anyone divorce, there’s no point in keeping this sullen ogre around if he refuses to be happy or at least attempt to live with the choices he so willingly made just a decade ago.
Right?! I mean, I like her a lot, I admire her and would love to see her back in movies and tv… why would she choose to constantly be second fiddle to that cheating, gambling husband of hers? Just dump him, I say. It’s finally time.
Oh please. She plays this role of Perfect Mom to the hilt but I’m sure the truth about the two of them is not all one-sided.
He looks like a sullen 17-year-old who can’t wait till he’s 18 to be “grown up” but they both feel like they’re ACTING! plenty.
Yup. These pictures speak volumes. She looks so young and fresh, while he…the fact that they both adore their young children just means they’ll divorce the right way, as co-parents who continue to respect each other. I kinda hope she does get out of this sooner rather than later.
Glad I’m not the only one that feels this way. While I never cared for her “relationship hopping” pre-Affleck, I do like her and miss her being on the screen. He always looks like sh*t…I’m pissed that he’s the new Batman, and as far as his drinking and gambling goes – you have children…please recognize that, famous or not. No sympathy for him from me. For her? I think she’s put up with PLENTY…so yeah, I do feel sorry for her.
Second that! Unload him, Jen, take the money and run and stop being humiliated by a man with no self-control or respect for you!
He is gross because he doesn’t smile for paparazzi pictures to prove you that he really is happy with the choices he has made in life, because how else do you know that he is unhappy?
Right before the 10 year mark? In CA? Keep dreaming Af-douche.
Just like Brad and Angie, these two have been breaking up for years.
Sure, we all know tabloids speculate wildly about marital disharmony, but somehow this story seems to be confirming a lot of what people suspect to be true about Ben & Jennifer. He seems like the eternal playboy who used a “family man” image to bolster his reputation and see seems like a woman in love who willingly turned a blind eye to his behavior. Divorce or no-divorce, I suspect their marriage isn’t a walk in the park.
He reminds me of Don Draper.
Do you remember Scott Peterson? This guy who killed his 8 months pregnant wife! This crime has inspired the book Gone Girl.
I’m pretty sure Fincher ( Gone Girl’s director) has casted Affleck because he looked like Scott Peterson
Actually that has been acknowledged 🙂
Ben Affleck talks about Scott Peterson a lot. A LOT.
I just discover Peterson’s s story recently and his “relation” with Gone Girl . I was so proud of my discovery 😤
Ben talked way too much about Scott Peterson when he was promoting Gone Girl! Almost like he identified with him. It was weird.
I hope not too.
Just because you gamble doesn’t mean you’re a gambling addict. I kind of doubt that his card playing is really that much of a problem.
Ben Affleck gambles A LOT, and we’re talking about someone who already has a problem with addiction (alcohol). This doesn’t smell right.
Someone from Facebook also commented and confirmed that she saw him with another woman and she feels bad and sad for Jennifer. This was in Vegas. This was in the summer of last year.
This guys doesn’t deserve the family he has. He already abandoned them so to speak, early on. I don’t know what kind of hold he has on Jennifer. She seems afraid and one interview right before her movie Danny Collins, she said that she asks for strength. And that she has done her duty by promoting Batman and Gone Girl.
There was a blind about someone who cheated on his wife and it was supposedly Affleck. No surprise here. Like Bridget said, he has a big problem with addiction and I think his wife covered a lot for him.
@vegas:
“I don’t know what kind of hold he has on Jennifer.”
Isn’t that the truth. In the early days, Jennifer seemed completely infatuated with Ben and, IMO, somewhat blind to his faults. Ben may be a charming guy, but he doesn’t strike me as a man who is really one for a stable, committed partnership. I’m sorry to say this and I could well be wrong, but, from afar, their public image as a happy couple always struck me as a bit false. I suspect they’ve both been playing up the happy-family facade for quite some time.
During Batman Vs Superman filming,Affleck often was seen at the casinos according to some Twitter reports and pics
Apparently he often goes to Las Vegas Casino also
There are sightings. A lot. The day after Thanksgiving, he was there. Not alone. This guy parties a lot too!
An angry Twitter outed him and called him financially rich but morally bankrupt and that he is an embarrassment to his family. The angry Twitter was a soldier.
There is a bunch of good comments from ordinary people on Twitter/FB/YouTube how nice Jen is. Some of them would send Ben a Tweet because Jen doesn’t have one, so they can thank her for being nice to their kids, for making their day, etc. One YouTuber even mentioned how kind Jen is to the crew. He worked with her. He mentioned how professional Jen was and how funny she was at the set and she always thanked them by the end of the day and how lucky Affleck is to have her as his wife.
Vegas…Well where is all these proof of this intensive gambling and partying? Show me some evidence please will you? Some photo or sth real through a link…because I’ve seen many photos and tweets of people snapping him at the park or with his family but never doing the things you mention and I’m genuinely curious. And did somebody really diss him, a celebrity, on twitter? Shocking!
I think that if they would put a stop to the charade, they would both be happier.
I feel that way too. To me the stories and photos look like a miserable marriage. End it now and move on.
I will be amazed if these two actually divorce, because she is so clearly in it for the long haul and adores him. But his gambling is definitely a sign of something deeper going on, and that’s an awful lot for a spouse to shoulder.
he loves to gamble since always
I agree with you. I doubt that they’ll ever divorce however if it does happen I would expect her to do the filing because for him being seen as a married family man is extremely important to his image and his image will be the one that suffers not hers.
She is in it because of kids and because she was asked to rehab his image. There was a rumor back in 2007 that she was ready to leave him but Ben’s camp shut it down. His image was still in rehab.
Something tells me he pretty much needed image rehab right out of the womb. He’s one of THOSE guys; never really grows up, though he’s natcissistic enough to go thru the motions that his balls have dropped and he’s a grown man… For the cameras anyway
Kelsey, that seems far more plausible to me than her adoring him. Unless she’s some perennial adolescent with a bad boy fetish, what’s to adore?
Her latest interviews have some telltale signs already. She was instrumental for rehabilitating his image. She has done her part. Now that he is big, he thinks he doesn’t need her anymore. I am sure Jen is thankful too that it will be over soon. I just feel that he is a bully so he can get his way. Remember his stint at the Bill Maher show. If he is like that in real life, I feel bad for Jen. No one deserves such a treatment especially when you and I are watching every little things they do.
I really like these two together, so hopefully this is just all b.s. Whatever problems they may have I hope they can work through it. They both admit that marriage is hard work, and it is. It shouldn’t be hard *all* of the time, but every marriage has its ups & downs. It’s not sunshine & daisies every day of the year. Best of luck to them.
Well put! I am sick of our culture where (i) blind items exist – they are 100% vile (2) we judge people if there is no pda (3) we judge people if there is a pda (4) we take a momentary image of a resting face and use it to deconstruct someone’s soul. I applaud people who work hard on their marriages and I wish them well, whatever the outcome.
I didn’t realize men had to be henpecked and couldn’t go play a game of blackjack since he’s a great player and is said to gamble intelligently. He was home to take the kids to school after that. I have friends who are golf widows practically and have small kids. Their marriages aren’t over. And that would be way more problematic for me, every weekend golfing, which takes up a good portion of the day by the time they get home and wind down, when we have small kids.
I guess Ben and Jen and Violet all together in Washington not long ago was all a farce. Nice to know.
I didn’t realize if you aren’t papped that means you haven’t been together as proof.
Divorce in t he next month? LOL Who knows the state of their marriage, but I don’t get that they are unhappily married these days. They may not be over-the-moon married, but I don’t get the other extreme either, unhappy, divorcing.
I’ve never seen so many people on here dissing people divorcing and not thinking of the kids, and how horrible for moving on, who yet always seem to revel in every gossip item these two are divorcing and almost are deflated when it’s not true and almost seem to be rooting for the gossip to be true because of some dislike for Ben
. It’s like people want them black and white, him to be the ogre and she’s only with him for fame and beaten down by being married to him, and refuse to see that they are a family with children they love and a life and just maybe it would be sad if they divorce, and just maybe they are reasonably happy together for a family that has a parent away often for work.
You are too reasonable for the gossips 😗
I don’t know that I would describe comparing regular gambling marathons (including all-nighters) with golfing on the weekends as being reasonable. He could be an excellent gambler, but that doesn’t mean that he couldn’t possibly have a problem. And “henpecked”?
+1, Jayna.
@Janyna….I agree with you %100….I just don’t understant the hate that Ben gets! Yes, there is gossip, but all the tabloids make up gossip on celebrities, but people always believe anything about Ben, without a shred of evidence!
There are plenty of sightings, just look at the comments above. If anything, I’m surprised the tabs haven’t picked up on it yet and used these people’s Twitters to catch him gamling and cheating. This guy has 2 personalities, it’s not because one is endearing (family man), that his other one (party hardy cheater) should be ignored/dismissed.
Thank you for bringing some levity to this. I would also like to see how the average person would behave given the privileges and opportunities that someone like Ben has. He is rich and famous. I think it’s so easy to cast stones from this vantage, but sites like this wouldn’t be any fun I suppose without the finger pointing and holier than thou attitudes. Judge not lest ye yourself be judged, right???
I know he married her but she seems very boring to me. Yikes I would need to get out too.
Thank you for that comment Jayna. Agree with you 100%
Well, I don’t delight in negative rumors about anyone’s marriage and it would, of course, be very sad for their family if they divorced. I’ll just say this: I have an intuitive feeling about Affleck. While he’s charming, I don’t think he’s one for committed partnership. I may be right, I may be wrong, but the speculations listed here support that feeling, so I’m inclined to believe there is SOME truth to them. That’s all. I hope he and Jennifer both find a way forward that fulfills them.
Ben, think more than twice before you do that. Remember the past. That’s all I can say.
Ben is a douche but he is on my freebie 5, so….
1. Charlie a$$ that doesn’t quit Hunnam
2. Timothy Olyphant
3. Ben Affleck
4. (non-bloaty) Leo DiCaprio
5. Use to be occupied by Ryan Gosling but now open and looking
Ugh, Leo. I’ve never been into him.
You have to add much older Liam Neeson in place of Ryan, because he could probably still put all of the younger guys to shame in the bedroom department. He loves women which bodes well for being good in bed, not selfish, he’s six foot four, is known to be well-endowed, and has a voice that would work any woman into a frenzy.
My mind took a happy detour after reading this. Yes on Liam. Ryan left my top 5 LONG ago.
Preach, sister.
1. Brad Pitt from Thelma & Louise
2. George Peppard from Home from the Hill
3. Ben Affleck
4. I’m torn between Jason Momoa and The Rock
5. Alternates depending on the day – Leo from the Departed, Ryan Gosling, Dermott Mulrooney
This is a pretty good list.
1. Viggo, my forever dong.
2. Travis Fimmel in Viking regalia.
3. Aaron Eckhart in Thank Your For Smoking.
4. Matt Damon.
5. Charlie Hunnam who just made my list, kicking off Affleck, due to general douchiness.
(Plus, I have a type, right?)
1. Charlie Hunnam
2. Idris Elba
3. Jason Momoa
4. Brad Pitt
5. Colin Farrell (I know, I know)
Thanks, OKitt!
From the looks of these lists I need to see something with Charlie Hunnam in it ASAP. And I totally forgot Red Jamie from Outlander, but only in costume.
George Peppard from Home from the Hill — yeah baby!!!
OMG, Size Does Matter, Leo in The Departed was ah-mazing. The one and only time I found him smoking hot.
Any list with Brad Pitt at the top is a terrible list.
1- Jenson Button
2-Kimi Raikkonen
3- (—-) have not found the substitute to Paul Walker’s spot, maybe Matthias S.?!
4- Charlie Hunnam
5- G.Hedlund
Hi Miss M! Nice to see a fellow F1 fan here. Or is it just the drivers? 😉
Kimi Raikkonen?! Never thought would see his name on any of these lists 😀
1. Charlie Hunnam
2. Travis Fimmel
3. Keanu Reeves
4.David Gandy
5. Beckham!!!
1. Viggo
2. Sam Rockwell
3. Jason Bateman
4. Brad Pitt
5. Chris Pratt
My list:
Mark Ruffalo
Liam Neeson
Idris Elba
Christian Bale
Hugh Grant from back during his peak period, like 2001’s Bridget Jones’ Diary (the first movie)
Too charming to pass up back then and amazing hair and killer smile. You can throw in Colin Firth from that movie back then also. I would take Ben Affleck from his 2010 The Town movie.
My list:
1. Michael Fassbender
2. Russell Brand
3. Gavin Rossdale
4. Sam Heughan
5. Interchangeable depending on my mood but Benedict Cumberbatch before he knocked a fling up.
1. Mads Mikkelsen
2. matt bomer
3. Idris Elba
4. Oscar Isaac
5. Vincent Gallo
Vincent Gallo? VINCENT GALLO?????? What are you thinking?!
ha ha ha!
1. Aussie comedian Wil Anderson before he got sick with arthritis – don’t wanna break the poor guy
2. Brad Pitt also Thelma and Louise era – hair dryer in the pants compulsory
3. The Rock before he got super bulked – just regular bulk is just fine
4. Blair Underwood from Sex and the City days
5. Conan O’Brien because I love the funny
Oh and because someone mentioned him below definitely Scott Foley! In the Scrubs days. Oh my….
1. Henry Cavill
2. Chris Hemsworth
3. Tom Hiddleston
4. Ioan Gruffud
5. Clive Owen
I may have a slight obsession with british/Australian men.
anyway, back to our topic, I really Ben and Jennifer together. No one is perfect but I hope if he does have a gambling addiction, he will get help. They’re a cute little family and Hollywood needs as many of those as they can get.
There’s no way Ben and Jen are getting divorced. Ben has been selling himself as a good family man for years. A divorce would shatter the illusion.
I’m not ready to believe it. I really like her and I hope he’s worth it at home because he doesn’t seem like it that often in the tabloids.
Why do I still think he’s hot? For whatever reason, his gambling doesn’t bug me. I think I have a Ben problem and have since, “Good Will Hunting”. I’m not even ashamed of it. How embarrassing.
because he is still hot! i totally fell for him in “Good Will Hunting” but not for Matt until later…Matt peaked for me in the sexy department in “Saving Private Ryan”…
Reading a few names of those hotties up there so i just wanna echo..Travis Fimmel oh my! and Scott Foley! Yeowza! I remember thinking he was hot way back when in “Felicity” days, and he has only gotten better like wine…
Brief rant about a pet peeve. The Radar piece said he was not babysitting the children. Of course he wasn’t babysitting the children, they are HIS children. Using the word babysit when a man tends to his children implies that he is just stepping in and the care of the children is the primary responsibility of the mother. Men are responsible parents too. Parents should be equally responsible. Can we leave these sexist gender roles behind?
Do you read Daily Mail’s show biz pages? These days,every famous dad who spends time with their kids is a doting or best dad .no,DM,they are dad just
Girl, you said it. Major pet peeve of mine as well.
I agree with you. You can’t babysit your own kids. Of particular annoyance is the term “Mr. Mom” . I mean, isn’t the word simply “Dad”?? It just reinforces the notion that the woman is responsible for everything and the men do practically nothing.
If he has issues with fame (which I believe) why’d he sign to play Batman??!! This guy’s issues have issues.
The marriage is the only thing keeping her relevant so I think it would take a lot to spark a separation/divorce. If she didn’t know about Vegas while she was away and he was supposed to be with the kids? Yeah that might do it.
I beg to disagree. She is talented enough and well liked by her colleagues. She gets job consistently but has to limit herself because she is the main parent of the kids. She picks her roles which are small and close to home but they are solid films. She was on her way to become a bigger star than Affleck but she chose to marry him when he was down. It was the opposite.
Since Affleck is way famous now because of Argo and Batman, he is ditching her. There is no need for her support. She rehab his image. Her sister is in Marketing. Read in between lines. The Garners are smart people.
These two! I never know what to think about them.
She seems to be in it for the long haul and will keep him, warts and all.
He probably cares for her and loves their children, but he so seldom looks happy when he’s out with the family. I think he wants a different life.
I guess we will see.
Not really a surprise, this has been going around the gossip mill for quite a while.
I never understand this obsession with people wearing their wedding rings or not. I don’t wear mine half the time and neither do most of my friends. Sometimes your finger swells or it’s hot or you just don’t feel like wearing jewelry. It’s hardly a barometer of a happy marriage.
Exactly. I think the more stable the marriage the less the rings matter. They’re famous, everyone knows they’re married.
I hardly wear mine, either. Just because of work. And when my youngest was a baby, I didn’t want to scratch her.
I wish we do away with wedding rings tradition altogether. Rings are so uncomfortable. And also the way people obsess about the wedding rings – how big, how expensive is unhealthy.
It is better to spend that money on a new car for a couple, not a diamond.
Now you are onto my pet peeve – women insisting on putting Thousands of dollars on one finger and keeping it there. How selfish is that? That is a down payment on a house, or the start of a nest egg, a good used car, a fabulous vacation together, a good hit at paying down debt, etc.. And as it has become a “mine is bigger than yours” ever since the celebs started with the ridic colored diamond thing and the gigantic rocks it has sky rocketed out of control.
Get a grip women, a beautiful band will do just as well and it won’t scratch or gouge the baby, or the furniture. And in my opinion it is way more tasteful. I don’t need to have my ring precede me into any room and I don’t need to worry about someone wanting to steal it, or think they need to follow me back to my house because I have scads of money. No thank you!
he looks like he has put on a few pounds and the ring could be tight. I’ve had male friends who realized it was time to put down the cocktails and big dinners when even their wedding rings were even too snug for comfort! One takes his off to golf.
I have to take mine off most of the time because of my arthritis. My husband knows I love him, regardless of whether or not I wear the ring.
I smell a staged photo op this week to say BS to this rumor
I raise my eye brows higher with staged photo ops. I would prefer if folks just ignored tabloids and lived their lives they way they want, not the way the public or tabloid writers expects them to. It gives tabloids too much power.
That is so true.
For once,I was not mean with Bennifer.
I don’t buy this rumor and the best way to say BS for them is to be photographed together
@don’t kill me…My point is, they should not feel they have to prove anything to anyone just because some scummy tabloid said something negative. There have been rumors before and they are still together, so they should just live.
Also, just because you are “seen together” does not mean you are “together”. Just ask Stacey Keibler who was flown to Germany to be seen with Clooney and then he kicked her to the curb soon afterwards. There are other examples, but that one sticks out as a terrible case of “staged photo op” that proved to be false.
@Jen2
Good point
I don’t think she would ever ask for a divorce.
I would be inclined to believe they will divorce, if he is the one filing, like the article suggested.
I like them together and i hope it is not true. But if it is true, i hope they put their kids first and go ahead with an amicable divorce.
Agreed.
Ditto. I like them together too and am often baffled at the hate for Ben.
All I have to say is that Ben is looking so good. I just love the salt and pepper hair. He is getting better with age.
Honestly, he’s been looking like S***for quite a while now.
Although it’s not very honourable to kick a man when he’s down, I have no sympathy for him. He’s a cheater, a gambler, a drunk. What more should his wife endure?
I get second-hand embarrassment for Jennifer Garner since the whole world knows her husband is a tool and yet she’s had to sport a brave face all these years and she kept working relentlessly at this marriage (even if I side-eye them BOTH for having a third child after their marriage had already started falling apart; seems to me they were followers to the long-discarded belief “Let a baby fix all our troubles!”)
Gambler? Yes
Cheater? We don’t know ( I know there are some rumors…)
Drunk? We don’t know neither
In fact that can be as BS as Brangelina’s 345th breakup
He may very well have privately gotten sober again, but Ben Affleck is an alcoholic. He sought treatment for it years ago, but folks forget. It’s also why the gambling is a red flag.
That old adage where there’s smoke, there’s fire. It’s been long rumored that Ben cheats on his movie sets, and that’s why Jen would surprise him by decamping to his movie locations. She doesn’t do that now that Violet & Sera are in school, but she famously hightailed it to Boston after she got wind of Blake Lively baking cookies for Ben.
I am seldom invested in celebrity couples, but for some reason…..I hope these crazy kids make it. Yeah, sue me, I think he’s hot too. And she seems committed and down to earth.
No reason to hate on them, or take secret pleasure in any miserable moments they may have. I mean, c’mon, we aren’t talk Kanye and Kim here.
I agree with everything you said!
Unless his gambling/issues have gotten significantly worse over time, I don’t see Jennifer ever divorcing him. I don’t think she would have had the last baby had there been major problems. She clearly loves him, warts and all. Hope he proves himself worthy of that devotion.
Well put. She must have the patience of a saint though.
I don’t see her ever leaving him, but Ben seems self-destructive and like he sometimes intentionally screws up a good thing (that’s what’s addiction does to you) . I wouldn’t be surprised if he is on a downward spiral and leaves her. Also, I’ve always wondered if their love is two-sided or of he married her because she adored him and was pregnant.
Well, I think that’s what bothers a lot of people–the fact that the adoration seems to go one way. He seems to appreciate her, but adore her?
I don’t really care for Ben, but I love them together for some reason. I hope this isn’t true.
Agreed. They are better together than apart. He needs help for a true addiction-counting cards on Blackjack games is hard core!-and the only way he will get it and make it stick is if he is supported by a loving family.
She irritates me for some reason. She knew what he was like when they got married
She bugs me, too. I think it’s because she’s got less than a lily white relationship history herself, but is constantly portrayed as the angelic wife and mother fighting so hard to keep her family together. She worked really hard to nail down an alcoholic, womanizing, mopey man child and somehow we’re supposed to feel badly for her that that’s what he continues to be.
Yeah, sorry to say it, but I tend to see J’s relationship with Affleck in this light, too. Thanks for voicing an unpopular opinion.
He seems like somebody who is always going to get in his own way.
I adore his brother Casey, whom I believe to be very talented. But, Ben always strikes me as that guy who is never happy with what he has…and he’s had a far more charmed life than 99.9% of the population ever will. Not getting a whole lot of sympathy here.
No idea whether their marriage is troubled, or not. But frequent sessions at the poker table are not an indication of distress. He’s just a player.
For all of my 38 years living in Vegas, I played poker. In recent years health issues have precluded my ability to spend the many hours that profitable poker requires. And that’s the point. If you’re going to take poker seriously it demands enormous patience.
He obviously wants to be a winning player, and he has the resources to back his investment. So frequent and lengthy sessions are totally natural and indicative of nothing.
This story is pure tabloid speculation and hyperbole. Nothing to see here…
So because a paparazzi hasn’t sold a photo of them together for a month, that equals them divorcing? That makes zero sense.
Do we need the tabloids to tell us these two are living on borrowed time?
He married her because he knocked her up and was still under the delusion he was going to be the next JFK.
But those plans fell through so he stayed a family to win the Oscar and to make a comeback.
And Jennifer want to keep her Hollywood wife status so she did this by having more kids.
Funny how she never got pregnant with the first husband and her co star but with Ben Affleck…..whoops.
Ben wants to gamble, drink and buff new young starletts. And when I see him like this I feel his pain. Enough already.
Even though it was supposedly a sketchy situation with her first marriage and all, I don’t understand why she didn’t stay with co-star Vartan. Not a big enough fish, I guess?
Ben just needs a long drive in his classic Chevelle to clear his head.
This is a little off topic, but I have kind of wondered why Jennifer and Scott Foley didn’t work out. He seems really grounded, and like a true family man, and I do think that she is very much family first. Plus, Scott Foley is pretty cute and he is funny in interviews. I don’t know, but on the surface of things, if I had choice between Ben Affleck and Scott Foley, I would choose Scott Foley. But maybe he is insecure and isn’t comfortable being with a woman more famous than him. Ben Affleck has a tremendous ego I am sure, but at least Jennifer doesn’t have to worry about him being jealous of her career.
Didn’t she ditch Foley for her Alias co-star Michael Vartan? Then ditched Vartan for Affleck?
Scott Foley has said he wasn’t the most supportive husband when she became famous. He didn’t come right out and say he was jealous, but it was implied. I don’t know when she officially got with Vartan, but there was definite overlap with Ben. I liked her with Vartan, but he was just a placeholder for Ben, since she’d been nursing a crush on him since Pacific Harbor.
Let’s not forget Jen was the rebound girlfriend after Ben’s broken engagement. These two were never suppose to last. If he would have also used birth control the outcome would have been so different.
Funny how Scott is now married with children and a healthy career.
Valtran said he and Jen were better off as friends and happy for Jen with Ben. This was in an interview during the last taping of Alias. He said he’d love to be in one of Ben’s movies one day. Yeah, real broken-hearted.
@Jayna
OMG! What a major douche. I hope he was joking.
I’ve never been a big fan of hers–I don’t hate her, but I have the sense that she’s always “trading up.”
Yeah, right. I’ll believe it when it happens. Too much of Jen’s professional identity is tied up in being Mrs. Ben Affleck and Mother To His Children. She’s not going anywhere.
Given his well documented issues with alcohol, he should not be at casinos. Gambling and alcohol go hand in hand. Sure, they don’t have to but when dealing with addiction it is best to avoid temptation. I feel sorry for his kids, not his wife. She knew what she was getting and she can walk away anytime. His kids will eventually read all about his escapades and the rumors online.
His kids probably know, or will know sooner or later, their father better than those who write rumors about his “escapades” online or me and you for that matter. So they will probably reserve judgment for themselves, don’t worry.
Some people (both men and women) just don’t need to get married. I’m guessing on of three things will happen:
1. They will stay married until their kids are older and then divorce ( this happens a lot)
2. They will stay married, never divorce and lead separate lives (this happens a lot)
3. One of them will just say screw it and file for divorce sooner rather than later
I just feel bad for the kids. Unless there is like serious abuse or instability, it is always sad when couples divorce.
I don’t give a damn about this couple, but I’ll believe they’re divorcing when someone shows me the court filing. They seem to have an extremely stable family system, with established patterns of handling gambling, cheating rumors, and all. Not saying they are without dysfunction, just that neither partner seems motivated to get a divorce to address what may seem like problems to an outsider looking in. As far as I can tell, their arrangement works for them.
I have a bigger issue. Jennifer needs to get rid of those bangs. Enough already. They are fine with her hair is pulled back like above, but I am not a fan when she has her hair all styled.
I like her better without.
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I’m ignoring the divorce aspect and going to the Ben has a hard time with fame aspect. Is this true? (Serious question, no snark.) Because if it is, Ben needs to grow up. He’s been quite famous for quite a long time now. He signs onto things that keep him quite famous. He’s had plenty of time to get used to it. He’s quite capable of going under the radar. He’s got (what looks to be?) a decent marriage and nice family life, not to mention a good career, an Oscar, a gazillion dollars, etc.. If he’s really still got that much trouble with his life, he either needs therapy, or an attitude adjustment, b/c I know a few who would happily take the cards he’s been dealt (pun intended…sort of…).
I also don’t understand the JLo embarrassment. He seemed to be a willing participant in the Bentley driving, boat deck video, etc.
He WAS a willing participant. He just didn’t like when the press turned on them and “Gigli” and “Bennifer” became a joke.
My sense has always been that the pressure of that overexposure ruined a pretty strong relationship. I think he was at his happiest with J-Lo.
I think that relationship was the real deal also. I’m glad I’m not the only one who saw that. He was crazy about her. Still is, I think.
IF this story is true, and we know it’s been gossiped they were divorcing since the day after they were married; I support her. It seems she has done all the hard work in this marriage. While I hate to see any family break-up, cause kids; it’s an entirely different world in H’wood. The kids don’t see their parents for months on end or fly the world to visit them. I’m not sure the kids would know the difference. I feel Ben’s addictions are going to end everything for him. Sad, really.
I’ve seen him mobbed by aggressive paps while with his family so I don’t blame him for always looking furious in those photos. It must be terrifying to be surrounded like that when you’re with your kids. Any protective parent would be pissed off and that’s how he comes across. I don’t think that his face in that type of situation is any reflection on the person he is or how he feels about his wife and kids!!!!
As for gambling and partying, so what? There’s no need to stop socialising and gambling because you’re married. I find it strange that people expect everyone to buy slippers and settle in front of the telly upon marriage/parenthood. That’s not reflective of most people I know. It would probably be healthier for their relationship if she went with him but maybe she prefers doing her own thing. Only they know if it’s a problem for them, I don’t think strangers can make accurate judgements on that.
He did not look furious however during Argo’s Oscar run. In fact during that time he seemed to love the paps & was photographed all the time.
His gambling seems more of an addiction than a hobby.
How is there no middle ground between regular all-nighters at the casino and having to stay home every night in your jammies?
And I don’t know about you, but I always thinkthere’s a problem when a known alcoholic is ‘partying’, be they regular person or celebrity.
I genuinely want to know what makes you believe so firmly that he really spends all nights at a casino? Except that, he’s not a known alcoholic. He’s a recovered alcoholic by his own admission.
He’s got plenty of money to spend on security to avoid being mobbed by aggressive paps if that’s his problem. Paps can certainly get out of hand, but only in certain situations. These celebs are perfectly capable of flying undercover, having loads of security, etc. They have more resources than most will ever see – – they’re not helpless victims.
I predict we’ll hear stories about Ben Affleck going to the hospital/rehab for “exhaustion”. Iy”/ always “exhaustion”. When you leave your kids alone with the nanny while your wife’s out of town so that you can private-plane your hypocritical carbon foot over thr Vegas for some high-stakes gambling with the promise you’ll be back in time to take the kids to school – yeah, you have a gambling problem.
LOL re: Hollywood definition of “exhaustion”. I am totally wiped and exhausted and would LOVE to check in to one of those plush “rehab” places to rest. Ben, can I borrow one of your nannies?
I’ll only believe that these two are spiting if they announce it. He seems like a crappy husband but he also seems like he adores the kids.
I hope this isn’t true. Jennifer was the best thing to happen to him.
Ben Affleck was the best thing that ever happened to Jennifer Garners career and status in Hollywood. I never got the impression that Ben thinks Jennifer was the best thing to happen to him, if that was the case there wouldn’t be rumours all time about the side pieces and affairs on movie sets with other women. She is the mother of his children I’m sure he cares about her and appreciates what she has done for his image in Hollywood but no way does he act like she is the best thing to have ever happened to him.
Yes. Jennifer does appears to be an adoring wife, but he’s never seemed to look at her in quite the same way she looks at him.
The gambling is just a symptom of bigger problems. I’ve always thought they were terribly matched. They just don’t fit – I’ve never seen it. Granted, I believe they both adore their kids. I wouldn’t be surprised if they weather this, but mainly for practical reasons on his part. I just don’t see the chemistry – never, ever have. I get that all marriages are work and aren’t a 24×7 love affair, but I’ve never seen the love affair, from day one. Just seemed like she was hell bent on snagging him from the beginning, and I’m sure he probably does truly love/care for her in some way, but again, just a very awkward/mismatched pair for some reason. It’s like pairing a younger Martha Stewart with him. Sure, opposites attract, but sometimes they’re just … too opposite. I don’t really blame either of them – they just don’t seem good together.
They were very cute together in the beginning and there was chemistry back then. I agree he hasn’t looked at her like he used to in the last years, though.
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I can’t believe how much older she looks in only 10 years. Wow. You hit the nail on the head with the younger Martha Stewart!! She is just soooo vanilla. She trapped him with the baby and him being the good Catholic boy, married her anyway. I’ve always seen through this b.s.
i had no idea so many people here found him hot. i think he looks like some old angry frat boy the day after a party. it’s like i dont know any of you!
I don’t want to discuss a marriage here, just an observation. To me, it looks like SHE has been the one pushing for marriage/kids. I don’t think he really IS that kind of guy, and it never felt like he’s as much into her as she is into him. THAT would make up for a principal problem over time, aside from any addictive tendencies on his part. He might feel trapped. No doubt they love their kids, and can function together for a while, but somehow, they are not a ‘love match’. More like brother/sister, or best friends, and I could imagine that’s not enough for him in the long run. It looks a little bit like she has been his ‘savior’ all along, because WOULD they separate, he’s probably spinning out of control in no time. So it might, in the end, be better for HER to end it.
Actually, a couple of years before he met Jen and even right before Ben and J-Lo he stated he really wanted to have children. That was his plan and desire. And I think he adored Jen when he settled down with her. He had dated that Boston girl for several months who used him to sell a story to People through a source, to get her name out there. It wan’t for image he married Jennifer. In fact, he was so sick of coverage of his love life, for two years they barely acknowledged their relationship in interviews because of that. He did fall in love with her because she one hundred percent believed in him when no one else did and was practically the only one encouraging him to direct his first movie and supporting him emotiolnally so he could put everything into digging his career back out of the ashes. He has said he never could have done it without her. He saw her as someone who would be a great mother and had the same values he did on raising them. The photos back then show a couple very much in love. He said with J-Lo he ignored warning signs that maybe the person you loved wasn’t right for marriage long-term as far as differences (I think meaning J-Lo’s constant entourage with her),, but that with Jen he knew she was the one with no reservations as far as marrying.
Ten years later, three kids later, and a career firmly back on top, the best it’s ever been, so taking him off to locations a lot, and Ben drinking again (at least I think he has been since Argo award season), I don’t know the shape the marriage is in. They aren’t lovey-dovey like they were in the beginning. I hope it’s in good shape for the kids’ sakes and not in trouble per gossip rags. I think Jennifer is a tremendous mother and Ben adores his little children. He seemed very proud of Jennifer at the senate hearings two months ago and she was very proud of him, as was Violet watching her daddy speak about the Congo. It didn’t look like a couple in crisis. So either it’s a lie in the gossip rags or they’ve come to some peace about a separation. I hope it’s just the same old lie they repeat once a year in the rags. I hate to see children go through divorce.
You seem to have much more insight, so I hope you are right about it. And I agree, for their kids this would be traumatic. But couldn’t it be that he truly THOUGHT this was the right thing to do, but emotionally is not able to fully commit? I don’t doubt he loves her, and adores his kids, but he wouldn’t be the first man to feel the need to break away from a ‘family routine’ that actually has been the very base of his success in the last couple of years.
Anyone see Lainey’s blind today? It screams Affleck to me. Getting caught in Nova Scotia without his wedding ring….http://www.laineygossip.com/Has-she-had-enough-yet-blind-riddle/39643
Sounds just like what happened recently. These rumors sound so fake though. Both were spotted out and about in different locations with their rings so I doubt they’re breaking up now.
For anyone who wants to see the beginning of Jennifer’s embarrassing infatuation with Ben please, please watch the Dinner with Friends episode with the Daredevil cast. She has a full-on school girl crush on him that is just ridiculous. So you see, she chased him because he was smarter and more famous, got pregnant, snagged her man, and thus got exactly what she asked for. I don’t know why people don’t realize that she’s an actress and the dimpled happy housewife routine is just an act. Oh and for the record, I think Violet is really Victor Garber’s kid. She looks JUST LIKE HIM. And he used to spend an inordinate amount of time with Jen and Violet when she was a baby. I think he had to slack off (at least publicly) because of the resemblance. At any rate, their marriage is a sham.
Victor Garber is gay. He’s been in a long-term relationship with his partner for over 10 years.