Demi Lovato covers the September issue of Cosmopolitan. The cover is so booby, and Demi’s been showing off her girls a lot lately. I’m not a fan of her onstage or street style (so 1980s and not in a Jessica McClintock way), but she’s styled a little better than usual in this shoot. The interview is kind of a mess. Demi almost always talks about her recovery from substance abuse, which is her message. This a good thing to discuss and for her fans to hear. She’s also recently started publicly raving about Wilmer Valderrama. They’re the real deal after about five years of occasional breakups but mostly staying together.
Demi talks about both of those subjects here and she also uses lots of profanity. She believes she’s a major bada**, and maybe she is one. But her manner of speaking here is very Kristen Stewart. Oh, and Demi admits being jealous of Miley Cyrus’ party lifestyle:
On being “off and on” for 5 years with Wilmer: “The only times we ever broke up were when I was relapsing, whether it was drugs or in a bad place and rebelling against everybody, not just him. People say that relapses happen before you use. Your mind starts setting up the relapse before you take that drink or that first hit. The times we’d broken up, I had already gone to that place of, ‘Yeah, this is what’s happening.’ I didn’t realize it at the time, but I just wanted to sabotage everything around me so that I could sabotage myself.”
On Wilmer not throwing in the towel: “We started dating when I turned 18. Right after that, I went to rehab. People told him, ‘You should probably leave. She’s on a spiral, and you’re going to be sucked down with it.’ But he was like, ‘I’m not leaving. This is somebody I really care about.’ We relate on a lot of levels. I’ve seen a lot of sh*t. Sh*t people don’t know about. He’s seen a lot of stuff too.”
On Wilmer not being jealous: “Nick and Wilmer get along great – Joe and Wilmer too. It’s weird. In the beginning, I was like, ‘Why the f*** are you friends with Joe?’ He was like, ‘He’s a cool guy.’ Yeah, I know. I dated him.”
Her place in music: “There are a lot of girls in pop. They have bada** lyrics, but I feel like I’m the only person other than Rihanna and Nicki Minaj who isn’t afraid to say, ‘Try something on me and I’ll f***ing beat your a**.’ There are people who can dress up and play the part, but their music doesn’t say it.”
She was jealous of Miley: “There was a time when I was jealous of people who were able to party. For instance, Miley — in her music video ‘Can’t Stop,’ her whole thing was partying and not giving a f***. Part of me was super jealous that I couldn’t be like that. I had to look at my life and be like, ‘Okay, that’s just not what you can do. There’s no need to be bitter xabout it.'”
[From Cosmo]
The part about Wilmer not being jealous refers to Demi’s previous closeness to the Jonas Brothers. She starred with them in both of those insufferable Camp Rock movies, but she only dated Joe (I think). All of this means Wilmer is a better guy than we thought he was back in his Lohan days. I’m assuming that’s whom Demi’s referring to when she says Wilmer’s “seen a lot of stuff.” Yep, totally Lohan, and there’s no reason to even shade a Lohan. We all know the drill.
Photos courtesy of Cosmo & WENN
This trying to be a trash-talking singing idol is doing nothing for me. It’s too early in the morning for me to be substantially witty, but the only thing I could say about the comment ‘Try something on me and I’ll f***ing beat your a**. is it would only make sense if Ronda Rousey said that right before a fight.
She is no bada**…lol
Let’s be honest, Rihanna would lose a girl fight. She is all mouth. She puts on a bada** persona but if a fight were to happen, her friend Melissa would defend her.
Nicki, on the other hand…..
Agreed. Nicki is the only one in this bunch who could seriously pose any threat…
ill see your Nicki and raise you a Pink. Nicki would get kicked out of the club but Pink would meet you in the parking lot with a knife in her bra, without a doubt.
@AROCK you think that Nicki can’t fight? LOL look at where she’s from and her stories from when she was growing up. She could definitely hold her own
@AROCK Nicki pulled a knife on her fiancé before
i stand corrected. apparently this is serious shit
Come on Demi, stop lying. They started dating WAY before she was 18. And he was 30 when she was 18, it’s weird no matter what.
Wilmer is gross. He loves his barely legal girls, see Lohan who was also 17. And remember when he bragged about taking Mandy Moore’s virginity? I don’t buy him being this sweet guy. He was 30 year old man who was with a 16/17 year girl who was/is addicted to drugs, self harmed, and suffers from mental illness.
Maybe they’re good for each other now and he legitimately supports her, but I agree. He definitely took advantage when she was young and in a bad place, same as he did those other starlets. Just a gross older man with a baby face.
I mean I agree with the older/guy too young girl thing but I wonder why some people get a pass? Like Celine Dion and her husband. He was 38 and she was 12 when he became her “manager”, but they seem like they genuinely love each other so idk.
@ sounds pretty. You hit the nail on the head.
And I agree with the poster below – she looks beautiful in the white.
I would agree if he had bailed on her…but he didn’t and to me that says a lot. People can change and honestly maybe she’s it for him.
She could be telling the truth, since they weren’t seen together until months after she turned 18 and since when she was 17, she was with somebody else.
She met him before she was 18 and there were rumours about them when she was 17. Even though they’re solid now it still is kind of sketchy.
I don’t really get Demi, she’s all about equality and all that but then goes on and on about Eminem on Twitter about how brilliant he is just after he made sexist crude comments about Iggy Azalea (who she’s going to be a bridesmaid for). It just doesn’t make sense to me
@Farah – I’ve been critical of Tyga for dating Kylie at a young age and their age difference is only 8 years, so I have to admit I was grossed out when I read Wilmer is 13 years older than Demi. I get it that sometimes age differences really don’t matter, like if a woman is 30-something and dating a 40-something year old man or something along those lines the difference might not matter, but what the hell does a 31-year-old man want with an 18-year-old girl? They *should* be lightyears apart mentally. I don’t buy what the explanation seems to be, which is “she has so much responsibility and she’s financially independent, so this is special.” As you noted, @Farah, Wilmer is a dirtbag and has proved himself to be very immature on a disgusting level, like bragging about his sexual conquests and the fact that he took Mandy Moore’s virginity. He might be 35-years-old but he clearly has the mentality of an 18-year-old. I’ve known guys like him and I personally find them to be utterly gross and bottom of the barrel. I know a man who is 31 and still hangs out in dorm rooms because he only dates girls who are 18-ish. I find him and men like him to be incredibly sad and creepy.
@SnarkySnarkers – Totally agree with you. Celine Dion’s marriage has always given me the creeps. She basically married a father figure. I see commenters here making excuses for Demi’s relationship with a man 13 years her senior, which is odd to me because the general consensus on this site has been that Kylie Jenner and Tyga’s relationship is deplorable and their age difference is only 8 years. I’m not sure why people set a double standard, but there definitely is one. Wilmer has always been a creep and a loser. Demi and every other girl he has managed to land can do a lot better. Beware of the grown man who actually wants to date 18-year-olds…the Peter Pan complex is a real thing.
The discrepancy comes from the fact that Kylie is still a minor. Her gross boyfriend has also doubtless been hooking up with her for at least a year or two now, and they met when she was a tween. However inappropriate at the time, Demi is now an adult so her past relationship history is more old news.
Both relationships are gross, but there’s more outrage over Kylie’s because it’s happening right now. I still think Wilmer is gross, or at best deeply immature, but the fact is that part of their relationship has passed while Kylie and Tyga are happening right now and Kylie is still underage.
The difference for me is tyga has a child, he should be playing daddy to little king ( gag at that name). Wilmer has nothing stopping him from living this kid life. I personally wouldnt do it but im not judging them for it.
And other than trash talking, what other sort of badassery have any of these pop tarts (yes I know some readers here love RiRi, I just find her another entitled, spoiled, petulant diva) really dealt with in real life? I mean it honestly, I don’t care enough about any of them to read their bios. Unless you’re a martial arts champ or some sort of street thug, why would you even say such things? Who does it appeal to other than teen brats?
Rihanna grew up in an abusive house hold, and once cracked a bottle over her father while he was beating her mom. I think that’s pretty bad ass.
@Farah She did? That makes me sad, but also puts her wishy-washiness with the whole Chris Brown situation into perspective
Yep, her dad is POS. She’s compared Chris to her father many time. Her father was an alcoholic abusive husband. She cut her dad off in 2008. When she started to reconnect with Chris in 2012, she reconnected with her father. It was a terrible decision, since he was still an alcoholic. I think she keeps him at an arms length now. He’s still besties with Chris Brown, and runs off to the press every now and then.
Riri’s dad is a total bastard. I think he once said to the press that she was too heavy or something. That she looks better when she’s thinner…If I were her, I wouldn’t want that jerk near me. As for Demi-I like her. I hope she is well. I hate that STD-ridden creep Wilmer. He makes me want to take a HAZMAT shower.
That’s terrible. I didn’t know she had a horrible father.
Rihanna did not have a privileged upbringing and like the person above me said she grew up in an abusive household.
Well both Rihanna and Nicki came from poor households with abusive fathers, not really the peachy entitled background you were thinking. At one point in time Nickis father burnt down their home. She has also been able to make a spot for herself in a male dominated genre of music, which is pretty bad ass to me.
Why resort to fisticuffs?
Smashing word choice old chum!
She looks the same size from her Disney days hmm… As for her supposed bad assery nah. Maybe after her new album lol
Am I totally off base in thinking this is a slight jab at Taylor Swift? I mean, after Bad Blood and the video she has felt on top of the world, but she admittedly hates confrontation.
Yeah. How about trying to improve yourself as a musician, artist and person instead of trying to prove how bad ass you are?
ETA: If she really was a “bas ass” she wouldn’t be with that disgusting predator boyfriend of hers.
There’s something about Demi that just doesn’t ring true to me. I think she’s been lying about a lot of things since she socked that dancer. She aggressively pushes a certain image of herself that may be quite the opposite of reality but more acceptable. For instance – was she really bullied, or was she the bully? Eating disorder, or just the drugs? This badass thing seems like yet another false persona she has decided to take on. She has a great voice, but she seems to be playing at roles in real life from a script, not from her reality.
I think she’s admitted to lying about her getting clean. She was still partying after she got out of rehab in 2010. She did all those explanation tours while being high and drunk out of her mind. I don’t think she got truly sober before 2013 honestly.
I agree with you. And I’m not sure the timeframe on that concert pic vs. the Cosmo spread but there may be a LOT of photoshopping going on with her body in Cosmo. Plus, she was supposedly banging Simon Cowell to get and keep her job on whatever that show was…
She has a vocabulary of a late bloomer.
Hope she finds herself.
Oh, this special snowflake envies Miley Cirus and thinks Rihanna is badass. In the end of the day, her persona is all about image, she just want to be the pretty, sexy girl, but it doesn’t work. I always felt a bit guilty for not buying her speech, but she just proves my point everytime she opens her mouth and shows up somewhere. Honestly, she’s one of the most annoying celebrities that ever came up.
She gets a lot of praise for “speaking out” on issues such as drugs, bullying, and eating disorders. Unfortunately, she strikes me as lying about her personal history in such matters. As pointed out above, she’s even admitted she was lying about her recovery from drug use at the very time she was getting praised for anti-drug pronouncements. I think her deception extends into more areas than that. You probably find her annoying because chronic liars are indeed annoying…
So true. I think her aim is to be cool, edgy, sexy, beautiful (as Rihanna really comes across as) and her self-help speeches are a way to make it up, since she can’t pull it off.
I don’t think Rihanna and Nicki believe to be on the same level as Demi.. at all. Infact they’re not. Let’s be honest, I like Demi, but her songs appeal mostly teenagers.
I really, really like Demi. Anyone who beats addiction and succeeds in their recovery is a total badass to me.
‘Try something on me and I’ll f***ing beat your a**.’
Let me just pull my eyes back to the front of my head. Isn’t she the girl who legit beat someone up in a jealous rage on an airplane? A backup dancer or something? Wise words, Demi.
Isn’t she the one that beat up her backup dancer and then went to rehab for addiction and other issues? She talks a lot about her addiction (which is good) but I don’t think she ever apologized to the backup dancer.
she did and then the backup dancer supposedly tried to extort her for a big payout. Plus she went to rehab immediately after that
I didn’t know about the extortion wow.
The dancer probably knew a lot more about Demi than Demi wanted revealed, so if she did get paid- it was a pretty standard payment for silence in the biz. Sort of a confidentiality agreement after the fact. I wouldn’t trust any spin on the situation coming from Demi or her people, however.
All this talk like Wilmer is a good person is really annoying.
It is interesting to see Demi grow and change…she’s been very open about her struggles which is not common after a such public meltdown. She is still close with the Jonas Bros esp Nick who she is starting a company with now. But she dropped Selena like a hot potato because of her sobriety issues which is sad (they were friends for years and years) but understandable in her position.
I hope you don’t mean Selena’s sobriety issues. Demi was still drugging at the time and for years after she declared herself sober. I remember that Selena was distancing herself from Demi by the time Demi was getting scary thin, before she punched the dancer and went to rehab. So most likely Demi’s drug habits were changing Demi’s behavior enough to damage their long-time friendship at that point. Selena’s major drug problems happened much later.
I like the way she’s styled here. Especially in the white dress.
Agreed. Too bad they photoshopped like 40 pounds off of her frame.
Wilmer is scum and she can try to up-talk him as much as she wants, but I personally won’t forget what a pig he has been in the past, and I also don’t think their age difference is OK. He was 31 when they began dating when she was 18. If we all ask “where are her parents?!” about Kylie Jenner, I have to ask the same about Demi. Wilmer is like a predator, and I think the fact that Demi has her issues works to his advantage. What the hell would a decent 31 year old man want with a teenager?
I have no problems with Demi, but I hope this is the last time she’ll try to talk tough. It’s got to be hard being in her age bracket in Hollywood–she’s always going to get that comparison to Selena Gomez and Miley Cyrus and the like. Maybe she only said it in an attempt to set herself apart.
She sounds like an idiot. Truly. I drop an F bomb just as much as the new person. But! There isn’t a need to throw it around in an interview just to sound hard.
Lol Demi sit down. These people getting praised for being the least. Tiresome.