Nikki Bella dumped John Cena because she doesn’t need a ‘pity husband’

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I’m strangely fascinated by this Nikki Bella-John Cena breakup and broken engagement. It’s been a while since we’ve had a celebrity couple break up so close to their wedding date. These posts aren’t getting tons of comments, but I’m going to keep writing about them because at least I’m interested! John Cena was always upfront about not wanting to get married and not wanting kids. Nikki thought she could change him, and he did propose to her, somewhat out of the blue. Now sources says that she doesn’t know why he even proposed, but I say he proposed because he truly loved her and he worried that if he didn’t marry her, she would dump him. But at the end of the day, he wouldn’t or couldn’t change. So… was Nikki the one to dump him anyway? That’s what “sources” really want you to believe:

Nikki Bella was the one to throw in the towel when it came to her relationship with John Cena, an insider close to the couple reveals to Us Weekly exclusively.

“The things he’s been saying on television and in the press recently hurt Nikki,” the insider tells Us about why Bella, 34, ultimately ended her six-year relationship with Cena, 40. “John is a mess” because of the split, the source continued, and noted that while Bella isn’t happy, “she is not devastated. She’s in a place where she’s just exhausted by some of the things going on in the relationship. John is the love of her life [and] she adores him. They still speak. It’s just very hard. But right now, she has to focus on herself,” the insider continues.

The WWE stars’ personalities were also very different, which ultimately pulled them apart. While Cena is shy and introverted, he’s very guarded, the insider notes. “Right now, Nikki has to find Nikki. She’s in a great place with her career, has an amazing family who will be with her through this entire journey, and she needs some time to figure It all out.”

[From Us Weekly]

I know why she stayed with him for so long – mostly because of love and their celebrity branding – but I still don’t know why she thought he would miraculously change at some point. He clearly told her, over and over, that he didn’t want marriage and babies. But did he truly *want* to change?

John Cena proposed to Nikki Bella despite his stance against the two things—marriage and having kids—that she wanted.

“When [Cena] proposed, he convinced [Bella] that he was a changed man. And if he can change his mind about never wanting to get married, why wouldn’t he change his mind about not wanting kids?” a source tells PEOPLE. “They have had an on and off relationship for years. It’s no secret that they didn’t see eye to eye on a lot of things, but, when you’re in love, you turn a blind eye. And that’s what Nikki did. When Nikki changed her stance about wanting kids, everyone knew that wasn’t her. You can’t take motherhood away from a woman.”

[From People]

I agree, she shouldn’t have to compromise on wanting to be a mom. But… he shouldn’t have to compromise if he’s known for years that he doesn’t want to be a father. Why is it that people always assume the happily and stridently childfree people will “change their minds” about it?

What else… sources also told People Magazine that Nikki dumped John because he “was making it abundantly clear that he was going into this gritting his teeth the whole way… Nikki is an amazing, talented, strong, one-of-a-kind woman. Anyone would be lucky to have her in their life — yet John acted more and more like he was doing her a favor by somehow conceding to go ahead and marry her. She doesn’t need a pity proposal, a pity wedding, a pity husband. She’s a phenomenal, tremendous woman.” Thank you, Nikki’s publicist, for that.

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  1. Kitty says:

    Neither side should have to compromise, break up and move on.

  2. Michelle says:

    I actually do believe she dumped him because his instagram was full of sad/vague posts the day before the announcement. I think she thought she could do it but as the wedding closer it felt more like work (I believe he was gritting his teeth and basically. It involved in the planning) and she realized that she was marrying a man who dodn’t want to be married and took a hard look at the situation.

  3. Andreia says:

    I feel for both of them. Its tough when you love someone but their plans don’t necessarily line up with yours. Someone has to give or you choose different paths. Also, her twin sister had a baby, I wonder if that made Nikki reflect on what she wants out of life. I like them both and I hope both find what they are looking for.

  4. Rukiddingme says:

    How you gunna try to marry someone and have their babies if they don’t wanna get married or have babies?

  5. Lilly says:

    As noted, I’m a previously non-commenter and don’t know much about them. But, for some reason, and I don’t remember how or why, I saw the proposal and he looked so much in love and happy. Honestly, if it weren’t for Trainwreck I wouldn’t know who he is and, hence, her either. But, it’s sad when people break up, yet these are big deal breakers. I hope they both find someone better suited to them. Anyway, blah, blah, blah… I can believe that she pulled the plug. It would be great if he doesn’t marry within 6 months and start having babies.

  6. Bridget says:

    I’ve said this again and again: it wasn’t “she wanted marriage and kids and was pressuring him”. He was a terrible partner, and i think she thought that marriage meant that he was 100% committed and viewed her as an equal partner in the relationship. Cena’s quote about loving her and loving his life said it all – he wanted to be with a woman who wouldn’t complain about his household rules, would let him do his own thing and make all the rules, and never push back. Within that context, he seemed incredibly committed and was even willing to get married. But I can’t blame her for not settling for that. Again, this is the guy that when they moved in together he gave her a 75 page roommate agreement outlining that she was a guest in his home. Apparently she didn’t want to be a guest in the marriage too.

    • Zapp Brannigan says:

      Household rules and a 75 page guest agreement for the woman he proposed to? Major red, controlling flags there. She is better off out of this and away from him.

    • Merritt says:

      I agree. He sounds like a bad partner. Who presents their girlfriend or boyfriend with a roommate agreement? That just sets off so many red flags.

    • JA says:

      I don’t watch the show or reality tv at all but if that’s true wow! Chick wanted to be married just for the sake of being married…never works out. My cousin married a guy she barely knew, had a shotgun wedding and now in custody battle with the guy and finalizing divorce…they didn’t even last a year! Not sure if it was worth being called Mrs. for five minutes

    • FLORC says:

      This whole relationship seemed wrong. And I’m only catching up to it within the last few days.
      I wouldn’t use red flag as a term here. This wasn’t some silent behavior that makes you question it. Cena wasn’t changing his desires interview to interview. He was laying it all out in very plain terms. What she translated out of that idk. That her publicist is going hard on the strong woman narrative is odd. There’s something here that feels petty. Maybe there’s more? Or maybe it’s just hearing what you want to hear and holding another to expectations. Which is how disappointment happens.

      • Bridget says:

        I don’t think it’s a red flag, but I also don’t think it’s OK to treat your partner badly just because you’re upfront about it. And again, that’s what this is about. Painting her as a marriage obsessed harpy because she clearly never felt secure in the relationship because he’s a crappy partner (which is the root of why he initially didn’t want to get married again – it’ll be too expensive when he screws it up and they split) leaves such a bad taste in my mouth. She’s better off walking away.

        And she’s trying to protect her brand. That’s not some mystery ulterior motive.

    • Clare says:

      omg I remember reading. Or getting somewhere that one of his rules was ‘dress up for dinner’ like it’s the 1800’s.

  7. Patty says:

    I’m not surprised she ended it, and I believe she did. When John proposed, she probably thought that it meant he had changed. That he really wanted to be married to her and that she would be an equal in the relationship. As the wedding got closer, it probably became more and more obvious that he hadn’t changed; and marrying him would be more of the same. So she dumped him. Good for her.

  8. Pam_L says:

    I think that going into a relationship knowing that your partner does or does not want kids when you don’t or do want them is a huge red flag.

  9. Tan says:

    How is it any kind of love if you don’t wanna do any compromise on your part.

    John truly loved Nikki and proposed because he was too scared to lose her. So basically she was already thinking about ending it and he proposed to her and strung her along for sometime longer while making it amply clear why he did what he did

    Good Nikki dumped him.

    Some people are not meant for relationship and the hard work and compromises that comes with it. Most of those people do a bad job of owning it up

    • lunchcoma says:

      How do you compromise about having a baby? It’s not like you can share one with another similarly conflicted couple

      • Tan says:

        It just seems John didn’t really compromise on anything
        He was the ideal bf when everything worked out his way.

        Baby and marriage are fundamental differences but the guy was not willing to bend at all for anything else??

      • Bridget says:

        I agree with Tan’s assessment. She was the one asked to do ALL the compromising. I wonder if it would have been different if he’d been a better partner.

        I do actually know a couple of people that decided to make it work even though 1 partner really wanted kids and the other did. They’re still together after a long time, though I do wonder if the husband will regret it in the end (he’s actually the one that wanted kids). Sometimes people decide to make the trade, and sometimes despite their best hopes that decision is made for them.

  10. hmmm says:

    I thought all his rules were just for the cameras! I wouldn’t touch a guy like that with a 10 foot pole, a guy scared of his own shadow. I bet someone talked some sense into her. She deserves better. She’s totally family oriented while he just tolerates people close up.

    Sure, they “felt” love. But he sure as hell wasn’t very loving. Ick.

  11. lunchcoma says:

    They both have some responsibility for saying someone they know has such different views on children. I’ve known people who hope their partner will wear down and agree to a baby, but I also know people who hope to run out the woman’s fertility clock. Hopefully they’ll each find someone compatible.

    I’m more meh on the marriage thing and think people can usually work that out if it’s the only big issue.

    • IMUCU says:

      Exactly on with the marriage thing. My husband doesn’t like the idea of government sanctioned love/committed relationships, that saying one chooses the other should be enough. I told him, early on, that I expected to be married (for many reasons) and that if we couldn’t come together on that, we should find other people. He proposed (after being together for years), but then when we got close to the ceremony he got antsy because he really just wanted us to be together (and he dislikes change — he still has the same cell phone from 2003), but not do paperwork. I told him he already knew what my boundary was with marriage early on and if we were going to call it off now, there would be no us because I had already made compromises (that I was okay with doing) to be with him and I was not going to do it on this. He did a lot of last minute soul searching (because before he had been putting it off, but I thought he had worked out when he proposed) and we got married. He doesn’t regret it (the only thing I regret is how stressful it was coming up to the ceremony waiting to see what he would decide) and we are still married years later and happy together :-) .

    • Tulip Garden says:

      I think being upfront about expectations is the only way to go. Adults usually know if they want marriage and/or babies. If you aren’t on the same page, it’s is best to separate. I’ve seen couples stay together despite these differences but someone is always very unhappy or just ever hopeful and I find it sad.

  12. Jussie says:

    But a pity fiancée was fine?

    Cena seems like a dick in a lot of ways, and she’s definitely better off without him, but she basically launched a public campaign to pressure him to propose, when he’d always made it crystal clear he did not want that. I don’t buy that she pretty much begged for a ring for years in vain, then had a change of heart weeks before the finish line.

  13. Sara says:

    Daily, friendly reminder that everything in the WWE is staged. Can’t wait for the epic wrestling match these two will have at Wrestlemania 2019 to settle their differences.

  14. KLO says:

    No woman should give up having children for a man if the woman wants to have children . I feel like this is a good decision for both of them and will make them happier in the long run. I have no doubt they loved each other either.

  15. launicaangelina says:

    Please keep posting because for some reason, I’m really interested in this too. Weird, I know, but it’s been one of the more interesting gossip breakup stories in a while. Much more interesting than the edgiest breakup of all time.

  16. Dahlo says:

    Let’s talk about that janky 75 page contract he made her sign.

  17. Nicole says:

    Good for her for valuing herself and knowing she wanted and deserved more.

  18. Keels says:

    I saw her in New Orleans at w.i.n.o. on the Sunday of WrestleMania (I guess she was filming her show?) and she was still wearing her engagement ring.

    That’s really all I have to offer on this. She’s really pretty in person, underneath the nine layers of makeup she wears.

  19. Hannah says:

    Please keep writing about them – this is literally the one celeb couple story I actually am in to.

    I believe her! The interviews and podcasts he has been doing promoting Blockers really stood out to me over the past few weeks – he constantly mentioned that he was getting married so as not to lose her. It irked me and if I was her, I would feel the same.

    A point to note, from the reality show which obviously could be complete tosh, she really did accept that in order to be with him she wouldn’t marry and have kids. Years later, he proposes to her. This is why I am inclined to believe her side of the story.

  20. Lea says:

    I will comment the same thing I commented on the other post.
    I believe this is all BS.
    I think the John Cena who doesn’t want to get married, doesn’t want kids and is literally obsessive with routines at home is just a character made for the reality show.
    I think they needed drama because people would quickly lose interest in their show if both sisters end up happily married.
    Also, John Cena is extremely influential in WWE. I love reading blogs about the backstage politics of wrestling, and Nikki gained a lot by being his girlfriend. She is not the most talented wrestler, and John Cena made sure she was kept in the spotlight. Not having Cena to back her up would make things way more difficult for her.
    I basically think they are still together.

  21. Sunnyjyl says:

    If you keep writing about them, I am here for it. I only know Nikki (and John) from Dancing With The Stars. I find them intriguing.

  22. well maybe says:

    He’ll be married within two years

  23. Poodlemom says:

    I still feel bad for her.