I’ll admit, some of the stuff that comes out of Mo’Nique’s mouth is a real turn-off, especially when she talks about money and how she needs to get paid. And when she talks about herself in the third person. So my expectations were not high when I heard that she was one of the celebrities who would sit down for the Barbara Walters pre-Oscar interview. Gatecrasher has a preview of the interview, though, and it sounds really amazing. As in, she doesn’t care if her husband cheats on her. In Mo’Nique’s words, “Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That’s not a deal-breaker. That’s not something that would make us say, ‘Pack your things and let’s end the marriage.’ So what? We’ve been best friends for over 25 years, and we truly know who we are. Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don’t know who they’re laying next to. I’m very comfortable and secure with my husband.” Jesus. That makes me really, really like her for her uncomfortable honesty:
Open marriage? Maybe partly.
Despite her constant claims of an open union with hubby Sidney Hicks, Mo’Nique reveals that she doesn’t stray – but she may not be able to say the same about her better half.
“Let me say this: I have not had sex outside my marriage with Sidney,” the Academy Award nominee says in this year’s 29th – and final – Barbara Walters Oscar special.
“Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That’s not a deal-breaker. That’s not something that would make us say, ‘Pack your things and let’s end the marriage.'”
And what if the “Precious” star discovered that Hicks had, well, stepped out more than once? No sweat.
“What if it’s 20 times?” asks the openminded actress. “So what? We’ve been best friends for over 25 years, and we truly know who we are. Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don’t know who they’re laying next to. I’m very comfortable and secure with my husband.”
Of course, Miss M has a few tricks to keep her hubby from straying – fingers crossed – and that includes her infamously unshaven gams.
“He loves the hairy legs,” Mo says, “and if Sid likes the hairy legs, there you go.”
She even explains to Walters why she chooses to go au naturel: “I tried shaving one time, and it was so uncomfortable and painful. I said never again would I do that to myself.”
Besides, says Mo’Nique, “I’m 42 and I’m very hairy.”
Umm, okay.
At least there’s one subject she won’t broach with Walters during the special, which airs Sunday night on ABC: her possible Oscar speech.
“I don’t like thinking about that, because I’m big on the universe,” says the star, who’s a hands-down favorite to take home the Best Supporting Actress prize. “I don’t want to start making this speech or [think about what] I’m going to say because I don’t want the universe to say, ‘Really? You so sure about that?’ Let’s not jinx it.”
[From Gatecrasher]
I know some people find the whole “hairy legs” thing gross, but I kind of like that too. I mean, sure, I shave my legs nearly every day. But I don’t judge women who don’t shave or wax, I admire them. I wish I could be like that. I wish I could find a guy who was like “Grow out your mustache, Kaiser.” Although I would probably still wax that junk, just because no matter what my boyfriend Jeremy Renner says, I still don’t want to walk around with a mustache.
Mo’Nique at the NAACP Image awards on February 26, 2010 and at the D.I.V.A. Awards on February 27. Credit: WENN.
Kaiser, I felt the same way about Mo’nique prior to reading this, and I too am loving her for her honesty. Although, I think her husband might not be stepping out on her with the ladies, exactly.
@ Erin: LOL! Yeah…he’s a question mark, that one.
I hope she doesn’t think that she HAS to put up with her husband stepping out on her because she thinks she can’t do any better. Sometimes people who are loud, brassy and in-your-face like Monique are overcompensating for their lack of confidence and self-esteem. She doesn’t appear to have any confidence issues, though, lol. More power to her.
SUCH refreshing honesty and openness! What a breath of fresh air she is! I am so glad she’s found a life that works for her…keep at it, girl!
I’ve always been put off by people in open marriages or who claim that they don’t mind if their partner sleeps around on them. I couldn’t even tell you why, exactly, it’s just this feeling that I get that tells me it’s not right.
I do like her for not shaving her legs, though. Not sure I’d wave ’em around in public like she does, but yeah. I typically don’t shave my legs for most of the year, except in those blazing summer months when I like to wear my pedal-pushers. Luckily my boyfriend doesn’t care and is actually pretty amused by my “fuzzy legs.”
More power to her indeed!!! Love her to bits.
And that her man is hug-gable.
Her husband is handsome, no wonder she doesn’t mind him straying as long as he comes back! The day he falls out of love for her then that’ll be a problem!
No way my husband could do something I can’t or won’t do…
Oh…I just remembered…HE DOSEN’T!!!
I am very secure in who I am which is why I wouldn’t accept my husband straying.
Settling for a one-sided open marriage doesn’t make you confident or strong.
Well, Gatsby, of course it doesn’t feel right to you, if that’s not who you are. But other people have different perceptions and levels of comfort and that’s just them. I really appreciate how you expressed your opinion respectfully though.
I’m a theatre person, and as such a number of my theatre-friends are more open about their relationships. And I always find it really interesting how these different couples determine what their own boundaries are. I know one couple that say, “you can have an emotional attachment to someone else OR a sexual attachment to someone else, but not both. Both is reserved for me.” They seem to really make it work too, others haven’t been so lucky, others are outright swingers and just have one hell of a great time. So I think it’s do-able, but I imagine it requires a LOT of self-awareness.
(And I can’t imagine that for myself, I’m strictly a monogamy girl, but I think I’d have a lot more fun if I weren’t.)
I think I remember reading or hearing about how it was her who wanted the open relationship.
What does it mean then to marry or “commit” to someone? I don’t understand couples who have an open marriage, either. I’m not being judgmental; I honestly can’t comprehend how commitment and “open” (with regard to partners) fit into a relationship.
I’m a monogamous girl, as well. I’m also very confident and secure with myself and my marriage.
I like her, but also hope she truly feels confident in her relationship to her husband. There is NO WAY I would want an open marriage, especially a one-sided one! Her hairy legs thing to me is gross..not because she is a woman, but because I hate hair on my body and the feeling of it. If I could just dip myself in a tub of NAIR, I would love it. I know, I’m weird.
MoNique’s commentary about her “open marriage” is nothing new. To each his own and if that’s the way she and her husband have chosen to conduct their marriage, so be it! As time passes, wives have been known to turn “a blind eye” to their husband’s infidelities for various reasons. However from a personal perspective, it’s really not necessary for the public to know such intimate details about anyone’s marriage. Publicly discussing it seems to be extending an invitation for trouble and heartbreak. There are just some things that married couples should simply “keep on the down low”.
girlfriend needs her Oscar statuette – now!! Her performance is/was haunting, and I better see her get it. I can’t wait!
…btw, does anyone remember Babs referring to Monique’s children as ‘creatures’ on the View? I DO! Ms. M called Babs out in realtime and it was freakin’ awesome.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZl2C9T0fuc
“What does it mean then to marry or “commit” to someone?”
Well, I think “commitment” is something that needs to be defined by the couple for themselves and not by what traditional society tells us. If a couple sets their boundaries, are honest with one another, and don’t cross those boundaries, then they are behaving in a committed fashion. If they say, in full honestly to one another, “I will stay with you until death, you are the one that I trust with my soul, but on alternating Fridays, we should do it with the neighbours” and that is exactly what they do; then they are committed. It’s a lot better than lying to one another (as happens in 75% of marriages.)
Well she does say she has not been with another man while with her hubby but that doesn’t necessarily mean she wouldn’t. Maybe (if it is true that she was the one to push for the open relationship) she was anticipating one day having the desire to be with someone else and not wanting to be “punished” for it, but she just has never, to date, had such a situation arise yet.
Love Mo, but the hairy legs and arms at red carpet events is just a no. It doesn’t matter how she tries to justify it, it still looks disgusting. If she wants to rock it like that for her hubby, then fine. It just look tacky on the red carpet.
As for her not caring if her hubby cheats… to each their own. She knows her hubby, so I guess she figures the odds of him not cheating are slim to none. *shrugs*
Hi WIF, I haven’t been to the theatre in awhile i’m a performer myself (Music) where can i come see you you perform and maybe we can go grab a bite somewhere afterwards and see what kind of fun we can have together in the future 😉
Seems like she’s made quite a few changes since she’s been with him. She’s always been “happy to be fat” (not that I support unhealthy or obsessive eating. Then she admitted that it was her hubby that convinced her to lose weight. And she never demanded astronomical appearance fees to promote her movies before. Now she’s ready to let him bang 20 chicks as long as he comes home to her. ummm…me no likey.
Thanks so much Duke. While I am a monogomy-girl and have to turn down your very kind offer, I do so love being asked once in a while 😉
She never actually says he can sleep with 20 “women”. I have a feeling his free pass is only for males.
To each his own.
I’m with you Wif-
I agree it takes a lot of self awareness on both peoples parts to use an open relationship to bring a couple closer to each other and deepen the relationship internally with themselves…as in create more peace and wholeness internally.
Not having it be based on subversive reasons like one partner being afraid of losing the other, or having low level self esteem, worthiness issues, trying to fill a void, or having commitment issues. I think it takes a high degree of spiritual maturity, to be able to successfully maintain an open relationship.
That being said, I also think the same maturity and self awareness needs to be in place to be truly happy and OK in a monogamous relationship as well. If either poly or mono relationships are used to deepen the quality of each persons ability to love and grow,then I’m all for it, if not, they inevitably self destruct.
Sincerity, you really hit the nail on the head with that one… I don’t understand the point of discussing this openly in public… It really is no one’s business but her own… intimate details like this can never be put into the context of someone’s relationship because we’re not with them day in and day out… no matter how much you try to “explain” to people, they will just never get it so detailst hat require that type of context should just be kept to yourself… I really just don’t understand the point of bringing this up… *shrug*
her excuses for poor personal hygene are pathetic. ain’t no man on this planet who likes to caress a hairy leg while …ahem… his woman. maybe she should spend some of her “hardearned” dough on a beautician. ever heard of waxing? at least now she has the good sense of wearing looooong gowns to public outings.
Bubbles, you named yourself appropriately. Ever been to Northern California? Plenty of women don’t shave.
I bet she is dumb enough to support him; it is the only way for a mess like her to actually KEEP A MAN!
I DON’T PLAY WITH DIRTY D !CKS… NO WAY, NO HOW!!! JUST MY MAN’S AND HE GETS ALL OF ME, LIKE BUTTA BBY!
If that line is true she’s messed up. Sounds desperate. No way is my husband getting carte blanche to cheat on me. Dealbreaker.
Monique is a cute honest woman.
But I cant stand cheating husbands. Fuc them!
I hope he respects her enough to at least use protection and not bring a disease home to her.
It wouldn’t be considered cheating if she is okay with it.
I only shave my legs every other week during the winter. Cuts down on my shower time. My husband doesn’t care. I make cricket jokes.
All I can say is NO to both…
I’ve known people whose open relationships worked for them. I’ve also known others who bragged about having an open relationship, but what they really meant was that THEIR SO had an open relationship, meaning that they (the “friend”) could go out with as many people as they wanted, but their SO couldn’t.
If you understand and accept the consequences and responsibilities of being in an open relationship, then good for you. When people can’t even do that with monogamy, I don’t see how anyone can judge those who succeed in their open relationships.
All i can say is that she has very low self esteem. Not because Mo thinks she is fat and not beautiful, doesn’t mean that you have to put up with a man who cheats. That is not what love is about. Mo you are beautiful, you don’t have to put up with this.