When lockdown first happened last year, many of us were surprised at couples who had not been together very long choosing to isolate together. One such couple was Demi Lovato and her then boyfriend, Max Ehrich. They moved in together after only dating a few weeks. And it was a little unclear if they were at Demi’s own home or a guest house on her parents’ compound. Since then, of course, Demi and Max got engaged and broke up when she finally saw him for the creepy stalker type he was. Thank goodness she got out of that relationship, but Demi’s recent admission provided a little more insight as to why she rushed into living with him. It sounds like Demi doesn’t like to be alone. On The Drew Barrymore Show, Demi admitted she current lives with her best friend and what’s more, thinks we should normalize that as a lifestyle choice.
Demi Lovato’s living arrangements look a little different these days — and she wouldn’t change a thing.
Appearing on The Drew Barrymore Show this week, the “My Girlfriends Are My Boyfriend” singer, 28, shared that she’s currently living with her best friend as a roommate after ending her engagement to ex Max Ehrich last year. Lovato praised the concept as her ideal situation for right now.
“I am living with one of my best friends,” explained the star. “… I was engaged to a dude and almost did that. And I was like, ‘That’s not the life for me.’ I want to have fun and I want to live with my friends. Let’s normalize that, you know.”
Barrymore quickly agreed, “If I didn’t have two children, I would actually ask you if you wanted to be roommates,” to which Lovato responded, “I would say yes in a heartbeat!”
The host, 46, added that some of the “happiest moments” in her life are memories with her best friends “without question.”
“I came home one day after doing interviews and photoshoots and whatnot,” recalls Lovato of her roommate with a laugh, “and she was like, ‘So Demi, you’ve been doing rockstar s— all day. You wanna do some normal s—?’ I was like, ‘Yes!’ That’s what I want. Then we put on Grey’s Anatomy and The Walking Dead and it was over from there.”
Honestly, I agree with Demi. I don’t know how it is elsewhere, but here in the US, if you’re over a certain age, people assign sort of a stigma to having roommates. There are so many reasons for an adult to have a roommate. It was pretty common for divorced dads to live together in my neck of the woods in the 80s. They all had the same kind of set up: a huge place, usually with a pool, and some kind of floor-plan that made it seem like almost two living spaces. The reasoning was that they all wanted these great houses but couldn’t afford them. And because they only had the kids on the weekends, it worked out great. They also ended up having the “fun house.”
It’s not always about being able to afford a place on your own, of course. I would say most of the time it’s about companionship. There’s nothing wrong with that. I don’t think Demi’s the first person to agree to a less-than-perfect marriage proposal just because they value having someone around. Fortunately Demi clued into Max not being the right companion, but we all know others who weren’t as lucky. Moving in with her best friend, a proven support unit for her, is a great living situation for Demi. Think of all those actors who have constant clinger-ons lying about their homes, probably sponging off them in every way. It probably has to do with the person’s desire to be around other people. Living with a roommate(s) isn’t for everyone. But it doesn’t need to be. It just needs to be socially acceptable for whoever wants it.
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