Jesse James: ‘I don’t know anybody that’s had to endure what I had to for infidelity’


Poor persecuted Jesse James. We know too well how he cheated on Sandra Bullock. He of course cheated on her replacement, Kat Von D, and bragged about their sex life prior to that, claiming that Kat was “100 percent” better in bed than Sandra. He wrote a book painting himself as a hero and downplaying the extent of his infidelity. He wrote that it “doesn’t really matter whether I [cheated] ten thousand times or just once. Once you’ve lied, there’s no taking it back. There’s no way to erase the deceit that you’ve created.” That’s one way to justify repeatedly lying to someone you love. By Jesse’s logic if you rob a bank one day you might as well rob one every day since you’re already a criminal and there’s no going back.

In an interview last summer, Jesse claimed that he “owned” his infidelity, despite the fact that he never disclosed a single detail in his book, nor did he admit the extent of his cheating at all, not even to Sandra (from what he wrote, he only owned up to one affair.) He said “I’m sorry for it and I owned up to it. I didn’t lie about it, I didn’t try to do any kind of B.S. like you know, PR campaign or whatever. I owned it like a man. I took all the abuse for it, which nobody does.”

Now Jesse is making the same claim nearly a year later. He says that he’s “paid the price and then some,” and goes on as if he’s been strung up worse than anyone before or since. I guess he didn’t pay attention to the Tiger Woods scandal at all.

“I think I’ve paid the price and then some, you know? I don’t know anybody anywhere that’s had to endure what I had to endure for basically infidelity,” the 42-year-old exclusively tells omg! from Yahoo!. “It’s just the nature of my life. People always will want me sainted one minute, and strung up the next.”

“I stood up like a man and admitted my wrongs and what I did and all that did is make every s*** tabloid everywhere across the world come after me even harder,” he recalls now. “I’m strong. I can take it. Everybody can take cheap shots and say I’m a horrible dad, and that I’m a Nazi, and all this other bulls***. Give me all you got. Because you know what? I know inside what kind of a person I am. I know I’m an awesome dad. I’m devoted to my work. And I work hard to take care of my family.”

Even before the Bullock fallout, James says he was used to others’ pre-conceived (and usually wrong) notions about him. He’s been accused of being lots of things he’s not, he insists, like being homophobic, an allegation that especially stings. “My older brother was gay, and looked just like me, and happened to die of HIV five years ago. Nobody ever cared to ask about that,” explains James. “I think people just judge me by the way I look. That predates fame or any of that stuff. People have always been scared of me and always think I’m a bigot or a racist or a homophobe just by the way I look. I’m 6’3″, and 215 pounds, [and a ] tattooed-up white boy. It fits a criminal or whatever. They don’t realize.”

“I think people will probably think since I’m doing well now and since I’m happy that I don’t have any sorrow or regret for what I did, which couldn’t be further from the truth. There’ll never be a day that goes by for the rest of my life that I don’t regret it,” James admits. “If I could go back and change the way I did things, and not hurt people, and not do things the way I did, of course I would do it that way. I would never consciously bring pain to anyone, especially the people I love. It is something that I have to live with.”

[From OMG.Yahoo.com via Radar]

That was nice what Jesse said at the end, but given the way he reacted to the scandal – by dismissing his five year marriage to Bullock and practically blaming her for his infidelity, his words ring hollow to me. It’s all about how hurt he is for having to deal with the fallout from what he did.

In terms of Jesse being sad because we don’t care about his poor brother, I read/skimmed Jesse’s book, American Outlaw, and I don’t remember him mentioning a brother at all. I just opened it again in iBooks and searched for the word “brother.” From what I can find, James doesn’t mention his brother at all, except for a stepbrother whom he accused of stealing from him as a teen. The word “AIDS” and “gay” only appear in contexts that have nothing to do with his brother, and the word “HIV” doesn’t appear at all. So maybe no one asks James about his brother who died of HIV/AIDS because he didn’t even bother to mention it in his over 800 page book. GMAFB.

James has a new reality show he’s promoting, “Jesse James: Outlaw Garage,” which airs tonight at 10 on The Discovery channel.

Jesse is shown on 11-12-11 and 5-5-11. Credit: WENN.com

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  1. Neelyo says:

    Oh cry me a river. What country is that stones women for adultery? Go talk to them about the hard time you had in the tabloids, Jesse.

    • flan says:

      Good point.

      Probably the same kind of countries where women get stoned for getting raped as well.

      The kind of world a certain group of American men also longs for.

    • corny says:

      please don’t expect us to endure your trashy boo hoo book too! go have another tattoo

    • Molly says:

      I totally agree. I guess it’s wrong, but I’m pretty glad to hear that people have let him know what a terrible and disgusting person he is.

      He thinks people want to actually know anything about him. The only thing that would spark most folks’ interest in even spending a second to remember why this dude sounds vaguely familiar is if he died of tattoo ink poisoning and he was discovered dead in his apt by a transsexual stripper with a heart of gold, and I bet even he/she would have to think about whether or not to bother the cops to report it.

  2. mln76 says:

    He’s a sleaze but I do remember him talking about his gay brother in a clip from Howard Stern and how his father disowned him for being gay and having AIDS. It’s easy to see why he is f–d up but I still don’t have any sympathy he should ride his motorcycle off into the sunset and leave us the hell alone.

  3. flan says:

    What an idiot. Probably in his small little world he got so much validation, he thought he could do anything and people would still love him.

    WRONG.

    Especially dumb to do this to Sandra Bullock of all people.

  4. Eve says:

    Oh, poor little thing…it’s a really sad thing when mean people are unfairly harsh on a perfect gentleman like Mr. James.

  5. Zelda says:

    I still think Sandra Bullock is the lesbian from the CDAN blinds. The Academy Award winning actress, frequent maker of sweetheart-y, chaste fare, whose love life–including a marriage that recently broke up because of his infidelities–has just been a series of beards.

    • moopsie says:

      I think that blind is about her too. But I wonder why this guy was picked for her beard?

      • ZZZ says:

        I am becoming pretty convinced that this is what really happened here. I think they knew what an enormous thing this would become if done just right. Imagine if it all started with her fabulous speech about how he had her back, and blah blah at Oscars. All planned out to make the reveal of the cheating that much worse…. I can easily see her being a lesbian, but ~ Can you even imagine if HE was actually gay? (I don’t really think he is.) That would be the ultimate bearding relationship ever. It’s pretty disgusting all around. Pretty damn amazing if they pulled off this enormous facade to fool all of us, and profit from their hatred of people trying to pry into their private lives. Imagine if they had this deal, and he gave her half of what he got from all his damn interviews, while she stayed quiet and looked like a saint for never saying anything about him? (Yes, I realize she does not need any extra money, but these people don’t seem to care if they NEED more money.) I don’t think this guy has any problem being the “bad guy” at all.

    • Alita says:

      I can see where you’re coming from with she, as a person, fitting the blind. However really can’t see it because of both their post-behaviour. Can’t see him behaving, speaking, writing in the way he has if it were a contracted bearding. Frankly can’t see Sandra reacting as she has, either. To me, it doesn’t work.

    • Nev says:

      word.

      something is up.

    • claire says:

      I wouldn’t trust anything coming from the CDAN site. There was a bit of a “scandal” about that site and its writer recently. He’s not in the entertainment industry as he’s always claimed to be, and has pretty much admitted making stuff up.

      • gg says:

        Which is why I hate blinds. Could be anybody, even if it’s a true blind, and could be totally invented to fill space. I don’t think it applies to her.

  6. SleepyJane says:

    “By Jesse’s logic if you rob a bank one day you might as well rob one every day since you’re already a criminal and there’s no going back.” – excellent analogy

    Also, he is lookIng terrible. I love it.

  7. lucy2 says:

    Playing the victim is not wise for someone in his already hated position.

  8. Marjalane says:

    I’m not going to bother having an opinion one way or another on this guy- I think there was way more to their “unusual” marriage than meets the eye. I like Sandra Bullocks movies, but I no longer think of her as anyone’s sweetheart, just another actress.

  9. really says:

    Infidelity is one thing. Sleeping with MANY women and having it be general knowledge among your friends/co-workers while your wife is being loyal is another.

  10. dorothy says:

    What a whiner.

  11. Nicole says:

    Maybe he didnt acknowledge his brother before due to his Nazi leanings.

  12. Jayna says:

    It’s his douche bag behavior afterwards that sealed his fate even more, whining incessantly, digs towards Sandra, playing the victim card in certain statements, cheating(apparently a lot) on Kat. I loved his comment regarding Kat when they were engaged – he’s never loved or been loved like this. Ughhh. Passive agressive towards Sandy much, you idiot?

    He’s so narcissistic that he will never see his classless remarks ever since the affair is what makes him a triple douche bag.

  13. Cathy says:

    Dear Jessie…BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. That’s what I think of your poor pitiful victim routine. Thanks for the morning laugh.

  14. Franny says:

    god, you know who I don’t feel bad for? the man that cheated on his nice loving wife with skanky women.

  15. Agnes says:

    boo-hoo. whining baby.

  16. lush33 says:

    boo hoo I’m so judged because of all my tattoos… Everyone has tattoos these days, while it certainly can impact how you must dress at work there are many a banker and lawyer and law enforcement officer will full sleeves. These days it is more odd if you don’t have one! Quit the excuse and persecution because of tattoos talk!

    • gg says:

      He’s judged for his appearance because he wears Garanimals, for pete’s sake. mommy wow! – Im a big kid now …

  17. TheOriginalVictoria says:

    I see I’m going to be handing out a lot of Bitch Pleases to day at just these titles alone.

    Jesse stop trying to link your name to Sandy’s to be relevant.

    And really, no one endured what you endured. Not even mothereffing CLINTON? Really?

  18. Kimbob says:

    Yes, indeed he was having a “senior moment” when he said these things.

    LOL…I guess when everything’s “all about him/Jesse,” it IS HARD to see anything else at all.

    I wish he’d just STFU.

  19. ladybert62 says:

    A MAJOR CREEP!

    he even has tattoos on the palms of his hands? YUK

  20. Jennika says:

    Am I the only one who doesn’t like Sandra?

    • pamela says:

      No, you’re not. It’s not that I don’t like her per se,it’s just that I am fed up with these so-called “American Sweethearts” being put on a pedestal, to the point that no one can say anything even remotely critical about them.

      Anyone who thinks Sandra didn’t know about JJ Nazi’s leanings, and that he was cheating, I have a bridge to sell you….cheap.

      • Jamie says:

        Sorry pamela, you’re wrong. If people like the BTK killer and John Wayne Gacy (the latter who was in tight with Democracts in political circles and invited to fancy doos) can have wives and children, as they both did, and carry on a double life like that, that included killing 50 to 60 people combined and their families never suspected one single thing, WHY do you you find it so hard to believe that Sandra didn’t know he was cheating on her or was a Nazi? After all, BTK and Wayne-Gacy proved you could live with someone for 30 years, and still not know them. They could be a serial rapist and murderer, even keep ‘souvenirs’ of it at home, and you still not know it. I think people who think she knew are totally irrational. I truly find it really disturbing that people on here think that just because you live with someone and are married to them for years, that means you KNOW them. That people really think this, and blame the wife, is DISGUSTING.

  21. anon33 says:

    Jesus, his book was 800 pages????

  22. lisa says:

    I think the obnoxious way he handled his divorce from Sandra Bullock has more to do with why the public has no use for him than his tattoos or anything else.

  23. mememe says:

    Watch CHEATERS and stop the pity party.

  24. mar says:

    I am not really defending him, however, the media had a field day coming out with all of his bad traits. He was indeed a target for quite sometime.

    Bottom line is Sandra is a lesbian, and im pretty sure that marriage was not everything you may think it was.

  25. poppy says:

    if he’s so “strong” and can take it why is he still bitching and crying about it? every time he opens his mouth. he’s a one man pity party. he brings it up 24/7 and plays the victim card because, if he didn’t, NOBODY would be talking about him. attention whore.
    “cheap shots” are called for; his actions were cheap and weak. can’t do the time, don’t do the crime.
    he is nasty. having sex with him is definitely risking your own health and well-being. *shudder*
    as everyone has already stated, it isn’t the way he looks- it is the way he acts that makes him so reprehensible. dragging your dead brother into your swamp of self-created misery is something to be expected of a complete loser. he’s 100% jackass.

  26. ellie66 says:

    GAG!!!!!! he needs to go away forever!!! damn he gets grosser and grosser!

  27. Dragonlady sakura says:

    Omg! Is he STILL talking crap and making himself look more like a douche by the second? If I were his PR agent, I’d quit pronto.

  28. logan says:

    Chin up fellow, I think they stoned you for that back in Old Testment times. Your getting off pretty easy!!!!!

  29. The Other Katherine says:

    Boo-f’n-hoo. Christ, what an asshole.

  30. Ravensdaughter says:

    Boo-hoo! Cry me a river, Jesse! Maybe if you had pulled yourself out of the limelight instead of writing your silly book, maybe you wouldn’t still be feeling the repercussions of your barbaric behavior. Being a famewhore has its down side.

  31. Jezi says:

    He’s so irritating. Oh poor poor Jesse. Had he shut up and just stopped expecting everyone to forgive him, he might have walked away without a scratch. The difference between him and Tiger was that Tiger actually publicly apologized to his wife and stayed low key after the affairs came out. Jesse didn’t. He set up pap shots with his new fiance and talked crap about Sandy non stop. He threw a tantrum when people didn’t want to just let it slide. Jesse, people don’t like adulterers but they can look past the affairs if the person was regretful.

  32. NeNe says:

    Oh, poor baby. Let’s all feel sorry for Jesse. The only thing he is sorry, and feels bad about is that the lying, cheating, bastard got caught. He deserves everything that is said about him, because I have no doubt that most, if not all, is true. What a d*^chebag!! He needs to face facts,that the whole world knows what a dirtbag he is, and I cannot think of anything that he could do to change that.

  33. The Original Mia says:

    Dude, stop whining. If you’d acted right coming out of this thing, instead of trying to blame Sandra, people might have forgotten you and moved on. But no…you couldn’t do that. So, you reap what you sow, not STFU & STFD!

  34. Mitch Buchanan Rocks says:

    JJ sounds a little like Octomom in his denials of things.

  35. hillbillygirl45 says:

    This is another douche-bag, fame-ho wanting to extend his 15 minutes. He’s just another skank that I can’t stand to look at, or listen to. And if Sandra B. is a lesbian, it’s probably because of Jesse James. WTF was she thinking anyway when she married this nasty piece of crap? Really, who thought this was a good idea? J. J. needs to STFU and disappear.

  36. claire says:

    He and Leann Rimes should hookup. They’re both complete douchebags who have seriously overplayed the victim card.

  37. Embee says:

    In my experience, when a male repeatedly claims to be taking things “like a man”, he is actually behaving like a little boy.

  38. Maya says:

    Best thing Sandra Bullock did was divorce his tattooed arse.

  39. Love says:

    I’d bang him :/. I have horrible taste in men tho

  40. sup says:

    shut up and disappear pls. you’re only making it worse every time you open that filthy trap of yours

  41. DreamyK says:

    He didn’t stand up to jack sh*t. He was outed by one of his pieces.

    Also? F*** Off, Jesse. You’re a disgrace to all the real men out there who know what it means to man up and honor their vows and promises, no matter what.

  42. Newtsgal says:

    Call me crazy but, I think JJ and Lilo would make the perfect couple. Both are trying to hold on to their last 5 of 15 minutes of fame.
    Also, they can help each other with their “poor-pityful, I wasn’t there, I didn’t do that, why is everybody always pickin on me” cracked out denials of everything said about them.

    • the original bellaluna says:

      Oh, and how entertaining it would be to watch 2 train-wrecks end in a head-on collision!

  43. Jenna says:

    Awww, poor little douche.

  44. Amanda G says:

    Cheating is such an awful thing to do to someone. I think I feel for Sandra more than other celebs because she was blind sided (see what I did there?) by it. She was going through the greatest time in her career and saying such wonderful things about him in her speeches. How humiliating. I think I might forever have Sandra’s back because of that. I admire her strength to take her kid and leave him.

  45. the original bellaluna says:

    Obviously, he doesn’t know how to read. (Hello? Tiger Woods? That other sports-douche who left his pregnant-with-twins wife while she was in the hospital?)

    A serial cheater having a pity-party for HIMSELF?

    I. CAN’T.

  46. jesstar says:

    Ugh, really. He wants credit for coming clean when he was got a heads up he got caught. What a man. The fact that he’s talking about what HE endured by cheating on his wife, breaking up his marriage & family, and learning his lesson, which he showed by then cheating in his fiance shows everyone just what kind of person he is!

  47. Holden says:

    Every cheater sings this same song, it’s tired. They don’t think it is a big deal because they’ve rationalized it in their mind to where they were pushed into it, and it was bound to happen. Grow up, little boy.

  48. palermo says:

    When they broke up he just couldn’t shut up about it, had to constantly try and make her look worse. Kat was the best lover he’d ever had, he said Sandy sucked more or less. He would have come across much better if he didn’t try and make his cheating seem justified.

  49. Cirque28 says:

    It’s hilarious to hear his whiny conclusions about why people think he’s a bad boy. Yes, it must be his height. Because it couldn’t be that he’s deliberately cultivated that image and constantly draws correlations between himself and a famous criminal at every turn.

    Martyr.

  50. You Suck Jesse says:

    Jesse, take your narcissistic who-as me book and shove it up your ass. You are a total loser douchebag.

    Unfortunately, after 3 years and being loyal and loving to my man, engaged and, he lied to me just like you did to Sandra. I stood by his side when he had a wreck and NO one else took care of him. Come to find out, he loved women and hid them very well.

    You are a total asshole, thats the only thing you should own up to. Your ego is huge, and you hurt people. YOU hurt people. You are a cheating, manipulative, self-obsessed, charming at first, loser at last liar.

    May your book sales suck.

  51. nicaw says:

    I’m still trying to understand WHY he moved to Austin where Sandra Bullock lives. It’s one of the reasons he was having troubles with Kat Von D, the distance.

    And don’t tell me it’s because his children loved Sandra. I’m sure they love their own mothers too.

    You cheat on her, talk about her every chance you get but move to the same city she lives in? Why?

  52. Just Sayin says:

    What a whiney bitch…. Rest assured. Real men such as myself have petitioned the “Man Club” to have this sorry excuse with tiny balls “Man card” yanked for excessive douche baggary….

  53. Kosmos says:

    He’s a whining baby..once he did the damage, and that was over many years that he cheated, now he can’t take the heat. Did he really think that he wouldn’t be caught? In truth, this guy is not very bright. Have you ever heard him talk? Once you do, you’ll realize he not very bright and you wonder why Sandra would have married him. I’m sure he’s cheated on every woman he’s been with. And he wants our sympathy? Sorry, buddy, you are not a good man and you even brought your children into this. Wow, what a guy.

  54. daisyfly says:

    I’ve got two words for you, Jesse:

    John Edwards.

    You still have a career. John Edwards lost everything. Stop trying to turn yourself into a martyr.

  55. kira says:

    It amazes me that people are attacking Sandra??? JJ is a gifted liar who had convinced many people–on reality shows and otherwise–that he was a rising star, and a biker-gentleman worthy of Sandra. Is it not possible he was lying to Sandra all along? If anything, accusing her of being a Nazi-loving, lesbian is a bit much. I would accuse her of being gullible, and having horrible taste in men, but not much else unless there is some evidence to the contrary.