Taylor Swift: ‘It’s not my fault if someone cheats on me & I write a song about it’

Taylor Swift covers the November issue of Marie Claire UK, and these are some bangsy shots from the cover shoot. It’s not horrible, really. The styling reminds me of Swifty’s Vogue pictorial earlier this year, which is to say “boho, 1970s, singer-songwriter, Joni Mitchell-wannabe”. What’s weird is that this is maybe the best styling for Swift, don’t you think? It works on her.

When it comes to sharing her heartbreak with the world, Taylor Swift has been anything but shy.

But despite writing songs about failed relationships, Swift, 22, who has enjoyed a summer of love with Conor Kennedy, 18, keeps smiling and remains positive about dating.

The songstress believes in love “even after it explodes into a million pieces and burns down and you’re standing in a pile of the ash of what it once was thinking, ‘Why did I have to meet this person, why did this have to happen?’ ” she tells November’s U.K. edition of Marie Claire.

“But then, when you make eye contact with someone across the room and it clicks and, bam, you’re there. In love again,” she says.

Asked if she falls for people she likes “easily,” Swift replies, “Not if it’s the wrong person, yes if it’s the right person.”

Sometimes that “wrong person” can end up being the subject of a tune – and she makes no apology for continuing to write about her boyfriends, adding that she doesn’t warn them that they may end up immortalized in song.

“Well, it’s not like it’s in fine print,” she tells the magazine. “But music is absolutely everything that I am and everything that I stand for. It’s not my fault if someone gets into a relationship with me and then cheats and I write a song about it.”

[From People]

Ugh. “Not if it’s the wrong person, yes if it’s the right person.” Girl… why are you lying to us? Or are you lying to yourself? Swifty loves love. She falls for a dude within two seconds, and within the first half-hour, she’s already picturing a wedding and a baby and how she could easily sign him out of prep school to have sex with him in a New England bed & breakfast. As for “It’s not my fault if someone gets into a relationship with me and then cheats and I write a song about it.” That’s a decent blind item. Who cheated on her? John Mayer (probably)? Jake Gyllenhaal? Probably. Who else?

Swifty also covers the new issue of Glamour Magazine, and you can read some excerpts from that piece here. Here are some highlights:

On her song “Dear John”: I think that song really hit home with a lot of girls who had been through toxic relationships and had found their way to the other side of it. I’ve never looked out while singing a song during a concert to see so many girls crying.

On how John Mayer says the song is about him: “How presumptuous! I never disclose who my songs are about. No! I don’t want to know, I don’t want to know [what Mayer said about it]. I know it wasn’t good, so I don’t want to know. I put a high priority on staying happy, and I know what I can’t handle. It’s not that I’m this egomaniac and I don’t want to hear anything negative, because I do keep myself in check. But I’ve never developed that thick a skin. So I just kind of live a life, and I let all the gossip live somewhere else. If you go too far down the rabbit hole of what people think about you, it can change everything about who you are.”

Ponies and rainbows: I think some people think it’s just apple pie and sunshine and sprinkles and ponies. Which is just funny. But I never feel the need to go out and make some grand statement that I’m dark and twisty and complicated, because I’m not that either. It’s just not as simple as ponies and rainbows, though I do love ponies and rainbows.

What if someone uses her for fame? I think you can tell who’s a good person to be around, who makes you laugh, who’s fun, whom you can trust. And, yes, you’re going to get burned a few times, but I’d really rather get burned a few times than sit alone in that house with the curtains drawn. So God forbid this person you’re hanging out with gets a bit of validation out of the fact you’re famous. Is that the worst-case scenario? You know, it doesn’t seem that bad.

[From Glamour]

In the Glamour piece, she’s also asked directly about her relationship to the Kennedy family, and Swifty says, “I don’t talk about my personal life in great detail. I write about it in my songs, and I feel like you can share enough about your life in your music to let people know what you’re going through.” Girl… enough! She doesn’t talk about her personal life? Except all the times that she does. I hate the faux-coy act. As for the Mayer stuff… well, it’s not surprise. She can dish it out but she can’t take it. I know John Mayer is a d-bag and everything, and if given a choice, I will always choose Swifty over Mayer. But it seems like we’re giving Swifty special treatment if she can say whatever she wants about her ex-boyfriends and they get labeled a “douche” if they defend themselves.

Photos courtesy of Marie Claire UK, Glamour.

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  1. Liz says:

    I would take John Mayer in a heartbeat over Taylor Swift. I really, really do wish she would just go away.

  2. SueD says:

    I’d kill for the boots in the last pic. Wow

  3. kate says:

    When will she get rid of the bangs?

    There, finally off my chest! (Because I really care.)

  4. cmc says:

    I know that her whole persona is a construct, but honestly I really liked her in that interview.

  5. Anna says:

    How can someone 22 sound like an underdeveloped 12 year old? How can a 22 year old be so much more annoying than a 12 year old?

  6. Naye in VA says:

    To be fair the public labeled Mayer a douche. I get that the girl is kind of immature and idealistic but, why are we mad at her for that? We want her to grow up, but really she isnt hurting anyone but herself. Its not like she setting some sort of horrible example for believing in romance. I do think the Kennedy stuff is pushing it, and geez who goes after a highschooler?
    But as for her music, she writes about what she knows and how she feels about it (as most musicians do, they just do so with better prose) and a lot of girls relate, so I really don’t get a lot of the Swifty hate.

  7. L says:

    I like this eye makeup on her. Normally it’s so dark you can barely see her eyes.

    I took the ‘cheats’ thing to mean that she thinks EVERY relationship she’s been in has ended in cheating. But otherwise I agree with you, this girl talks about her dating life WAY to much.

    And she’s okay with hearing negative? Please. She is continually the victim whenever she considers something to be ‘negative’ Whether it’s Kayne or the guys that she dates-they are just mean and it’s never her fault. Heck, she got so upset that a critic told her that her singing voice was bad, she wrote and entire song about it. “mean”. That really is the way that she views criticism and the world-people are just mean to poor little shifty and nothing they said has any validity.

    • Elizabeth says:

      “Whether it’s Kayne or the guys that she dates-they are just mean and it’s never her fault”.

      Yep, that about sums it up. Mean people are such a bummer and teflon Swifty is, well, ….. whatever.

      • Green_Eyes says:

        That is why I am no longer a fan of hers. Then young girls (like my now 18 yr old niece) idolize & emulate Swifty. (doesn’t help she feels she has to be like Swifty as they share the same name..). Sicker is her mom thinks this is so cool. So no, this isn’t Swifty’s problem it’s my niece & her Mom’s problem… I avoid them. Swifty however reminds me of my 18 going on 12 niece & for a 22 yr old thats not a compliment.

        I do however like her makeup better in these photos also & love the boots in the last one.

      • jaye says:

        But…the Kanye incident WASN’T her fault. Did she milk it like a holstein cow? Yep, sure did. But she WAS the victim of Kanye’s obnoxiousness.

    • Laura says:

      ‘Mean’ is obviously about high school bullies, not a music critic. And what Kanye did WAS wrong, but I actually don’t believe Taylor acted like a martyr afterwards.
      I think all the Taylor hate is just backlash because she’s boring. Gossip lovers want more Lohans and Stoddens, even though they complain about them.

  8. Amelia says:

    “It’s not that I’m this egomaniac..”
    Yeah. Keep telling yourself that Swifty, while the world watches you black widow your way through America’s male population aged 18 – anything that’s breathing.

  9. brin says:

    That statement serves as a warning to any guy who gets involved with her.

  10. I.want.shoes says:

    You just know that “Princess Diary” is this girl’s favourite movie.

  11. Kimbob says:

    Exactly right! She can dish it out but she can’t take it…and yes….ugh…just UGH! Can’t stand Taylor…just can’t w/her. There’s something about her that rubs me the wrong way…um..correction..everything about her rubs me the wrong way.

    I also see how she didn’t want to discourage rainbows and ponies at all. She wants to have all that one can have (spoils of growing up), but she doesn’t want to grow up.

    She’s been w/too many dudes & written too many nasty songs about them for me to buy her ponies, rainbows & fairy dust.

  12. Taylor Swift is a very vulnerable women.
    She writes songs about what she feels and it’s not her fault to have that failed relationships.It’s the douchbags fault :/
    I admire Taylor a Lot <3 LONG LIVE TAYLOR SWIFT!!!

  13. judyjudy says:

    Boots! Boots! I want the boots!

  14. Bubbling says:

    The way she talks about her music one could never assume how epically lame it is.

  15. mln76 says:

    Well singers have been having affairs with famous people for ages and have found creative ways to obscure the details in order to protect those involved. In this case Taylor shows her immaturity not only as a person but as a performer.

    • Kimbob says:

      VERY well said, mln76! I totally agree.

      Also, I’d like to “add” to what I blogged about earlier regarding Swifty….I think Swifty would really like for people to all be mislead & **assume** that all of the guys she’s dissing in her songs, that they’ve cheated on her. I don’t think that’s the case AT ALL!

      I mean, I’m sure some of them have run around on her, but my distinct impression is that Swifty is an opportunist, & every relationship she’s been in & out of, she’s going to trash the guy in a song…regardless of how it ended.

      It’s my opinion, but I just think she’s a mean-spirited, vengeful woman (NOT girl), & in her eyes, EVERY break-up is a BAD ONE, & she’s gonna have the last say, & bad-mouth every ex of hers in a song.

      She’s stated her quote, ‘It’s not my fault if someone cheats on me & I write a song about it,’ because that’s what she wants everyone to think is the case….& I’m calling that bulls^*t on that.

      Edit: I really hate it Swifty is so unlikeable (@ least in my eyes) because I never thought she was pretty/beautiful until seeing her change her style lately. Her new look…I think she’s a gorgeous girl. It’s really high time she’s dropped trying to look like a 12 year old. I have to be honest…she REALLY looks GREAT in these pics. ‘Tis a shame!

      • Regina says:

        I agree she looks great in these photo’s cause IT DOESN’T LOOK LIKE HER AT ALL!! They have got to be photo shopped or something, her hair is much lighter and shorter than that and she looks like she actually has some weight on her bones.Her eyes look better here, they are usually squinty and she usually looks like she has an overbite. Good ole photo shop, auto-tune and hair extensions!

  16. Nanz01 says:

    Ponies and rainbows? I think Swifty reads Celebitchy!!

  17. geekychick says:

    Well, I have to say, I actually liked what she had to say in that interview, especially the John Mayer part. I didn’t read it as: “I can dish, but I can’t take it”, I took it as:” I have people whose opinion I trust, and douchebags backtracking their douchebaggery(?) are not on that list.” What’s wrong with that? Who cares what John Mayer had to say in his defense?? He’s racist, he’s a douche and he’s selfish…and his reaction to this song was ultra-bitchy and he came across as the one who “can dish, but can’t take it”.
    Actually, I like her after this interview. Unbelievable.

  18. venny says:

    I’m most surprised by the fact that she can actually close her mouth (see last pic).

  19. T.C. says:

    ” I never disclose who my songs are about.”
    Girlfriend you have a code breaker on EVERY album spelling out exactly who each song is about. Then give interviews dropping heavy hints. Who you trying to fool with these lies? Yes it is your fault for telling everyone your business. The ex-boyfriends aren’t the ones talking, you are. If they do the same to her people would call them mean douches but it’s O.K. for her to kiss and tell cause she is Tarlor Swift. So suck of this chick and her double standards.

    • Emma says:

      And that song she wrote about Joe Jonas, she literally said that it was about him on Ellen. I don’t really mind it when singers write songs about their personal life but there’s a difference between having to get something off your chest and writing a song to get revenge.

      • Starsky says:

        ooh a revenge song..how evil *eyeroll*
        I see nothing wrong with what she does. If its therapeutic for her to write a song about a guy who dumped her on the phone and make a lot of money doing it, why not? one of my friends who is in a band wrote a song while he was high and its main lyrics are:”monkeys..yeah. lots of monkeys..and monkey sex” and its the most popular song they perform. like her genre or not, she’s an artist and if she writes some music that connects with people who have experienced what she has experienced then more power to her.

  20. marie says:

    she looks good in the Marie Claire shoot, should look like that more often. She has gone past likable for me to annoying and there’s no coming back from that..

    I’m with everyone else, those boots are awesome..

  21. epiphany says:

    She just comes off as very emotionally stunted – what 22 year old woman with a healthy view of herself and the world comes off as a 14 year old drama queen? Her attraction to an 18 year old boy is very telling; she finally has someone on the same maturity level as herself.

  22. kingkayski says:

    Some girls are really born a dumpee,with her squinty eyes,and immature outlook in love and song,she is epically no.1 dumpee.She likes to fall inlove with the douchebags and cry her eyes out in her song after they done dump her.It’s okay if she right and sing it in a inspirational kind of way like Gloria Gaynor “I will survive”,but no,she write and sing it like Dr,Seuss kind of lyrics,so annoying and immature.So over her.

    • Elizabeth says:

      Thank you for the Gloria Gaynor/ Dr. Suess comparison. That could not have been done better!

    • Kimbob says:

      Very, VERY good point you brought up. THIS is why she makes me cringe…because she’s such a tattle-tale with and in her songs.

      I mean, all songwriters draw from personal experience…but the way Swifty does, her “break-up songs” are just one big fat DISS and tell-all. It’s kind of like, I’m gonna write a song about how you did me, & the whole world’s gonna know what an asshat you are!

      To me, that speaks VOLUMES…because she’s done this so many times, it makes me immediately question what kind of a person she is….what she’s like in a relationship….I suspect she’s got some serious problems. To have that many “awful, bad break-ups” @ her age….she wants all to believe that every relationship of hers that went south, that it’s not her fault. She’s pointing her finger @ too many people for it to be credible.

      I mean, OF COURSE John Mayer…well OF COURSE he’s an asshat…no doubt…but all of the others…every single one of them….no way, no way.

    • Kimbob says:

      Oh, & just one more thing….any guy that dates her from this point on is an idiot AND a masochist!

  23. Dawn says:

    I love the eye makeup along with the bangs. That top picture looks very sixties which I like. And I think she is free to write whatever she wants to write just as everyone is free to turn it off if they don’t like it.

  24. redd says:

    Top photo reminds me of Patsy from Absolutely Fabulous! If Taylor had a show, it could be called Absolutely Ridiculous. Just a thought.

  25. Apsutter says:

    She’s still a child and doesn’t know what the hell love is. She thinks its some magical thing that happens in an instant and takes no work. I know a lot of girls like her who only like the idea of love but wouldn’t want to stick around and do any of the work that a real relationship entails. All I can think when I hear her speak is that there is no way she has any real girlfriends her same age. Wonder if she’ll ever grow the hell up.

  26. Micki says:

    “…when you make eye contact with someone across the room and it clicks and, bam, you’re there. In love again”

    She should go to the KStew shrink and get prescription for a month anti-stalking before she talks to that someone.

  27. some bitch says:

    And Shifty Swifty continues to sketch me out… just wait until she hits her late 20s and fails to emotionally mature…

  28. dcypher1 says:

    I think u can write a song about someone but I think its f’ed up if u call out the person by name in the song. Like john mayer (dear john).

  29. EmmaStoneWannabe says:

    “But I never feel the need to go out and make some grand statement that I’m dark and twisty and complicated.”

    She totally got that “dark and twisty” thing from Grey’s Anatomy. That is one of her (and my) fave shows and Meredith Grey says it all the time lol

  30. Erinn says:

    “I put a high priority on staying happy, and I know what I can’t handle.”

    I can’t decide how to take that quote. In some ways, I’m impressed that she can admit that she has a hard time with criticism; most of us do. But at the same time this girl can literally afford to just do what she wants to make herself happy whether or not it’s ‘right’, or good for herself/others. That quote, in some ways bothers me.

    “And, yes, you’re going to get burned a few times, but I’d really rather get burned a few times than sit alone in that house with the curtains drawn.”

    I did like that one. Honestly, I think Swift is a bit of a lunatic… but at the same time I admire CERTAIN parts of what she has to say.

    I just wish she’d keep up with the nude lips. They look soooo much nicer.

  31. bns says:

    The pretty broken-hearted princess act is getting old. I wonder what she’ll be writing about in 10 years, if she’s even relevant by then.

  32. Mila says:

    She still freaks me out. Looks and acts like crazy attack doll from horror movies.

  33. Eileen says:

    What I find troubling is the notion “It’s not my fault if I date someone, they cheat on me and I write a song about it” I paraphrase- that in itself sounds like a person who has no self determination, self will or control of their own destiny. I remember someone made a similar statement in college and the professor freaked out and nearly staged an intervention, worrying about that student

  34. flutters says:

    This girl’s bright enough to realize she’s talking out of both sides of her mouth when it comes to feeding the gossip mill but pretending she doesn’t by refusing to talk specifics in interviews. It’s her marketing scheme, not some signifier of how authentic she is. Especially when you consider the fauxmanticness of some of her relationships.

    What I got out of the Glamour interview is she’s an articulate person whose intellect is way ahead of her emotional maturity. There seems to be a lack of self-awareness there yet an incredibly high level of self-consciousness.

    Taylor’s the perfect star for the way stardom is established today, but terribly uninteresting outside of that specific context.

  35. Nan says:

    She’s so easy to be jealous of — she has it ALL: youth, beauty, talent, wealth, fame — now she’s learning the price you pay for having it all, which is being the target of a lot of envy and dislike. And so it goes…

  36. Isa says:

    I like that she doesn’t pretend to be all dark and twisty (Greys anatomy!)
    But I can’t help but wonder how does she even get a boyfriend? Do they not care they will end up a song?!?

  37. Hakura says:

    I think she looks beautiful in that last picture. The boho feel really suits her.

    Sbe is childish, but at least stylists managed to make her *look* her sge.

  38. Andrea says:

    I don’t care for her music, but anyone involved with John Mayer should know better at this point! how many celeb women has he bedded now? hmm let’s see..jessica simpson, jennifer love hewitt, jennifer aniston, taylor swift, katie perry, I am sure I am missing like 100X more. I can’t imagine letting john mayer come within 10 feet of me; my guess is he is very charismatic and or has a big dong.

  39. bluhare says:

    She’s got a few screws loose, and I’m not kidding. It’s not her “fault” if she gets screwed over and writes a song about it? Who writes the song, Taylor?

  40. BreeinSEA says:

    I really wish I could like her but I can’t when she acts so young still… boo Taylor.. boo… very irritating. She’s like the opposite of Christina, trying to sound more mature but singing for a younger audience. Christina is trying to sound less mature but is singing for an older audience (older as in, older than 13). Your demographics have changed sweethearts! Go with the flow and don’t be pretentious. I do love the revenge thing but it’d be better if she owned up to it.

  41. KellyinSeattle says:

    At least in the first pic she’s not wearing her usual clown lipstick…finally !

  42. TheOneAndOnlyOnly says:

    Good points flutters; thing is John Mayer can actually PLAY the guitar check out on Youtube his renditions of Jimi hendrixs Axis Bold As Love – she probably doesn’t know who Hendrix is let alone could play his songs – face it, she can’t sing,act, play the guitar – brilliant marketing by her team, and her faux doe-eyed innocence to mask and divert attention of her fans from her media calculated stunts (the showmances,etc.) is grating.

  43. vvy says:

    She’s a pretty young 22 yr old. But then again, anyone who’s famous at 22 is going to learn things the hard way.

  44. BooBooLaRue says:

    You know what? I think she and the Biebs should hook up! Haaaaaaaaaaa!

  45. Sarah says:

    Johns actually a nice guy in person, in private who knows.

    Swift makes it seem like there’s a good chance that I’m among the few who when a relationship ends, I evaluate myself and see what I could have done better etc. before I go blame someone else.

    • Kimbob says:

      I like the way you think. Great attitude, & if the truth be known, this is what I aspire to, as well.

      I don’t really know how “good” I’m doing w/it, though…LOL. But, I think a good indicator of such is that if one is on speaking terms, or, after some time passes, is a true friend of an ex.

      I do have two exes that I am good friends with…so…a positive, huh? Oh, & my ex-husband and I are good friends now.

  46. Morgan says:

    She looks way better with the natural looking lips.

  47. Jill says:

    Why does Mayer have to be the douche bag??? How do we know she wasn’t the one who was causing problems? How do we know she wasn’t the ones causing issues in the relationships because she is immature? So every man she was with cheated on her?? Every single one? The song she wrote about Taylor Lautner proved she was a douche bag in the relationships too.
    She just needs to keep her legs closed and concentrate on other things instead of a male’s private parts.

    • Laura says:

      1. Because he has been well established as being one.
      2. We don’t, but see #1, he is well established as being a problem in relationships.
      3. Got no comment here.
      4. So everyone’s comments on her always blaming everyone else are nil.
      5. Slut shaming gets you nowhere.

  48. Penguin says:

    She looks like kendra wilkinson in that top pic.

  49. the original bellaluna says:

    They’re all assholes. There. I feel better.

  50. Oi says:

    Finally. I feel a little validated. Other people think she’s nuts! I haven’t been able to stand her songs, the corresponding antics or the comparisons I get to her (because we are the same age) since “love story”. Its more likely that I’d be babysitting her and her baby-boyfriend than try to be her friend.

  51. Lindsey says:

    This is only sort of related, but writing about your exes only works when you didn’t play your whole relationship to the paps. Just go with me on this one…remember Jack White and Renee Zellwegger? OK, so when Get Behind Me Satan came out… I think everyone really knew the kind of tumultuous relationship they had and the record rang true (esp. about the kind of kook Zellwegger is) because neither of them were super in our faces about it and Jack White doesn’t seem the type to write a song about every single girl he dates. Whereas Swift has these kind of shallow relationships for 3 months, falls in love hard, feeds this relationship to the press, writes a song about these relationships and then acts coy/what who me? when we ask for more detail about these songs/relationships.

  52. akua says:

    Beware men, if you are dating Swift, be aware that any imperfection can and will be use against you in the Taylor Swift’s song even cheating! LOL

  53. Ella says:

    Her and Katy Perry. They both annoy me in the same way. “Oh, I’m all about kittens & rainbows, unless you piss me off, and then I can get dark!” Please.

    And also with the passive-aggressive writing songs about exes. They both do it. Katy is just as bad as Taylor with that. She pretends she’s not directly talking about anyone specific but manages to take advantage of the fact that everyone will assume it’s about the famous ex.

    Katy’s worse though, because she’s almost 28 and should have grown up by now.

  54. aquarius64 says:

    So it’s not your fault Swifty? Sounds like somebody’s finally feeling the heat for her revenge songs. They’re not cute anymore. And she better not get her panties in a wad when an ex does an answer song about her peccadillos or airs out her dirty laundry in a tell-all.

  55. moo says:

    Yes, it is. YOU made the dumb choice honey… he cheated on you? You don’t have to carve bad words on the side of his car… jeez… grow the f%$k up!

  56. stephanie says:

    whatever, she’s still bright and talented and a better freaking role model than the kardashians. why the hate?

    • Oi says:

      No that was Carried Underwood who was keying the car in “before he cheats.” Another not cute song from a pop country singer. should have been called “how to get yourself thrown in jail and give your ex the last laugh.” So idiotic. But I digress….

  57. Isa says:

    Also if you’re “in love” with every guy you date you’re not really in love.
    I dated a few guys before I met my husband. They all brought something different to the relationship. But he first time I saw him walk across the room it was over. And I still remember exactly what he was wearing and where I was sitting the first time I saw him at 13 years old.
    Now I’m not saying you can’t fall in love more than once. But every single time? No.
    She is totally in love with love. I’m one of those that don’t think her relationship with Conner is weird. I was 16 when I started dating my husband he was 21 and no I wasn’t mature. (Still not haha) But I just hope that all these reports about their relationship are not true. But as I keep reading more of them I’m beginning to wonder.

  58. baja says:

    she simply hopes her love for music will heal the world.

  59. jenna says:

    Hahahaha it’s not her fault? She sits down with her guitar and purposely writes the song.
    What? Does she “accidentally” write songs or something?