In Touch has a new blurb all about the $9k a night villa that Ben rented while Lindsay visited him in Hawaii where he’s filming. There are exclusive paparazzi photos of Ben and Lindsay out together in Hawaii as well as photos of him out with Garner and the kids when they visited for Easter. I wouldn’t doubt that the paparazzi and by extension the tabloids could easily get the details of their accommodations. Some of the quotes sound a little whimsical, like I don’t think Lindsay is gunning for a place in Hawaii long term, but the rest sounds true.
In Touch magazine has all the details inside the stunning estate Ben Affleck rented for him and his girlfriend, Saturday Night Live producer Lindsay Shookus.
Ben, who’s in Hawaii filming his new movie, Triple Frontier, rented a stunning six-bedroom, six-and-a-half-bath oceanfront estate with 25-foot ceilings on the island of Oahu for a whopping $9k a night.
“Ben is going all-out to show Lindsay just how special life with him can be,” an insider tells In Touch of the couple, who multiple sources say started a relationship in 2013, two years before Ben and Jennifer Garner, both 45, announced their separation.
“It has every amenity you could think of: top-level everything. He really impressed Lindsay. She loves it there and now wants them to get a place in Hawaii.”
I’ve posed this question before but I can only come up with so many new ideas before I start recycling them: would you get with Ben Affleck? We know what kind of person he is, his estranged wife told Vanity Fair that he runs hot and cold and we’ve seen him tell bald-faced lies to the press. Would it be worth it to date him for a few weeks or months? He probably love bombs the hell out of his women in the beginning, that’s what they do, and showers them with gifts and trips. Women who seek out wealthy men often don’t care about the instability and uncertainty that may come along with it. (It’s not an either/or proposition, I just know which side I’m on.) We’ve seen how Affleck operates, he’s shown us over and over.
Remember how Affleck tweeted The New Yorker that he was fine after they ran a piece on how sad he looked? He retweeted this response to the article (below). He also responded to a user who said they were pulling for him. Poor Affleck, always the victim, always misinterpreted and bullied.
You tell em @BenAffleck! I couldn't help think that article was a sophisticated form of subtle bullying by its author despite her attempt to report on developments. Keep your head up ~
— Steven Hatzakis, Fintech Researcher & Consultant (@shatzakis) March 29, 2018
These are photos you’ve already seen of Ben and Lindsay out in NY in January. Other photos are from his appearance on Colbert in November. Credit: Backgrid and WENN
I don’t like armchair diagnosing anyone but the way Jen Garner described him in that interview made him sound like a true narcissist, especially the bit about him shining a light on you at times and then withdrawing it. If that is the case, then no wonder he always plays the victim…
I hope he does not spend enough time with Lindsay’s daughter. He has done enough damage on his own children.
why would you hope that? I think if these two are going to be together, and have already been involved for 3-5 years, it’d be for the best if they start blending their families so they don’t have to split their time between their couple time and family time so much and can start hanging out together as a group. I think avoiding bringing each other around their kids is just delaying the inevitable at this point…
But I’m sure Ben is having to play by Jen’s rules so maybe she isn’t allowing it and Ben isn’t pushing it…but at some point I think they will need to hang with each others kids.
If it’s a dysfunctional relationship, best to keep the kids out of it.
Also, Ben Affleck seems like a POS so I wouldn’t wish him on anyone.
This makes no sense. If his behavior were really so detrimental to young kids, would Jen allow him around theirs?
I don’t think he would make a point of hurting kids but I don’t see him being a positive influence either. Keeping a parent away from their own children is a much more serious matter than not having a kid bond with their parent’s boyfriend/girlfriend.
@pamela, I know that Jen Garner has the reputation of being this amazing mom but I don’t think she is. I would not model my parenting style after hers.
Wait….what “damage” has he done to his own children? They have divorced parents? Sorta.
He is obviously busted but let’s not project damage on his kids without an inkling of evidence. I’m all for speculating on grown ass adults.
I have to say I think a lot of the attraction for both of them is that they aren’t married and their relationship does not include their respective children. They’re having a good time and partying—Everything in its place, no worlds colliding.
We don’t know that he hasn’t met her daughter. He has met her 90something grandmother. He has met her family and spent long weekends with them. It’s more than likely that he has met and spent time with the child.
If Ben runs as hot/cold as Jen’s interview & public knowledge of his behavior indicates, then it’s best he doesn’t get to know Lindsay’s child/children. It would be unfair for her to form an attachment only for them to split up. Does anyone really believe it will last?
The way Jen Garner described him in that interview made him sound like a true narcissist… hm… yeah, what kind of person would have three kids with someone like that? Jen has her own enabling, codependent, martyr complex issues. Poor kids.
The kind of person who is in love and has eternal opptomism (?).
Doesn’t mean it’s not true. I’m sure it is, but she basically used Goop’s line from The Talented Mr. Ripley about Matt Damon’s character, Dickie Greenleaf: “The thing with Dickie . . . it’s like the sun shines on you, and it’s glorious. And then he forgets you, and it’s very, very cold.”
I love both
Nope
I want to know what a $9k a night villa looks like.
No kidding! Wow. That being said, he’s not looking good. I think his drinking has increased.
Ben is a narcissist. There is no way in hell I’d date him.
@stacey, I can answer that question. As someone who was raised by a narcissistic father, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. You are only ever a reflection of your father, your worth is your beauty, your sexuality, how you make *them* feel/look. Every bit of love you get from him will have to be bought and paid for with your soul. Emotional manipulation becomes as natural as breathing and that’s just sick.
It’s taken 20 years of therapy and amazingly, I have a healthy 21 year marriage to a great guy. But at 44, I’m still dealing with the fallout.
I’d love to see Lindsay take her innocent child and run but she probably won’t. From where I sit, Lindsay seems like a classic enabler. I pray she wakes up.
What about Garner’s innocent children and their exposure to narcissist Ben? When will Garner wake up? After 12+ years, shouldn’t she know better than anyone about him and his ways? Not only that, but enabler Jen seems to go out of her way to always accommodate Ben and make sure that he spends the maximum amount of time with his kids. So it would seem that she doesn’t care about the alleged potential damage that’s being done. If she lets her kids spend that much time with him, then he must be okay, right? I’m sure it’ll be fine with Lindsay’s daughter.
yeah i get what you are saying…This isn’t going to be the Brady Bunch
While Hawaii is a great place to visit, the 12+ hour flight from New York is tough to endure.
Couldn’t believe it would take 12 hours to fly to Hawaii. I had to look it up. Have to admit I’m flabbergasted it would take that long. I would have assumed a 5-6 hour flight tops, similar to flying across Canada. It’s approximately 6 hours from Vancouver to Hawaii.
I’m sure he paid for her to fly private or first class. That’s easy time when you are in luxury.
Amen, Pamela. They’re going to need so much support and love.
When I first responded, your post ended with “…to narcissist Ben?”
IMO, his children spending so much time with him is NOT okay. Do I think he’s a deliberate monster? No. Most narcissist’s have no idea of the damage they casually inflict on their children and spouses. That’s how it works.
Any visits should be monitored with healthy adults and the kids should be taught age-appropriate coping mechanisms. And therapy. I’m a big believer in therapy.
This is what I am going through with my daughter and her father. He is a narcissist.I have her in therapy now.
When is Jenn going to have her own boyfriend? Ben yes has a pattern. He’s been over his ex wife for a long time and has no issue showing it. For what its worth he is affectionate with Lindsay way more than he ever was with Jenn. I think Jenn likes to jave the upper hand and insert her and the kids at any given time. At some point Lindsay will be around the kids.
Wrong! take a look at pictures from when they first started dating and in the first few years of their marriage, also over the years there were many shows of affection. The novelty wears off for Ben and it will wear over in time with Shookus too. His love and affection comes with a for sure expiry date!
I think Jen is protecting the kids, given his past behaviour and public/spontaneous drunkedness/drug highs over the past few years – would you let your children go unsupervised with him for long periods of time given the uncertainty of his state? I do note that he does appear to be getting his act together recently. Hope it lasts!
He has never been as into Doormat as she was to him. Even after Shookus, the nanny, and countless other humiliations she was still publicly calling him the love of her life, the best man in any room, etc. It’s just sad, really.
I think Jen waves the upper hand as well whenever possible. She isn’t some saint either.
She’ll never get another man. She’s still clinging to scraps from her current husband and there’s no evidence whatsoever that she’s going to stop.
I swear, if I were dating Ben…he would need to get the $9k villas…the expensive WHATEVAs…so that I would have WONDERFUL MEMORIES to relay to my girls…and to the guy I ended up with if I were that lucky…in my old age…cause IT WOULD NOT BE BEN!
It is very telling that we never see Mr Paparazzi alone with his kids. Jen is always there. That is not normal.
There are literally pics of just him out with the kids in HI from last week.
Yet Ben can’t afford to buy her new leggings that aren’t busted out in the knees?
What are you, old? It’s the style of pants.
There is a pic posted on twitter yesterday showing a fairly recent photo of Ben, Jen, Violet and family friends that appears to be in Jen’s kitchen (based on her Instagram videos). The pic was a screen grab of a Facebook poster (the friend in the photo) post yesterday. The original Facebook post is no longer up. I think the tweet still is. The photo appears very friendly and comfortable. Very different from any pap photo. Clearly as much as the press likes to draw this out, they are on good terms. The interesting part to me is the text of the Facebook post which starts with “for those of you who have heard the rumors; here is a pic of our recent trip to California….”. Cryptic
What responsibilities do Ben & Lindsay have when they are together? Ben knows that Lindsay’s husband / nanny are watching her daughter and Ben knows that Jen/ nanny are watching his children. They are free to travel anywhere and every date is at the ” honeymoon state.” Once real life settles in, (and it will if Ben marries Lindsay), I think Ben will tire of the relationship and will wander.
I am glad Ben & Jen are on good terms. The pic that was on capelino.com with them at Sea life showed Jen laughing & Ben was smiling. Their children looked like they were having a great time!