Terry Crews posts Adam Venit’s full apology letter for assaulting him

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Many of us have been following the Terry Crews sexual assault case for a while now. Right after the Harvey Weinstein scandal broke, Terry posted his story to Twitter about how a high-level agent at William Morris Endeavor grabbed his crotch at a party. Since those posts, Terry has sought justice, but none came. After a paltry ‘suspension’, his assaulter, Adam Venit, returned to his well-paid job with seemingly no more than a slap on the wrist. Terry left the agency and pursued legal action against Venit. The Los Angeles District Attorney declined to prosecute so Terry sued Venit and the agency for civil damages. All the while, Terry had to continue sending checks to Venit, who received royalties from when Terry was a client of WME. It was enough to make anyone sick. Throughout the ordeal, Terry maintained that this was never about revenge. WME and others tried to condemn Terry for not letting it go after he’s received his apology and Venit had been “punished.” Earlier this month, it was announced that Venit was resigning from WME and Terry had settled his case with them. Friday, Terry posted the apology letter he received from Venit – four months after he brought the incident to light – announcing that he’d accepted the apology now that Venit had resigned:

As for Venit’s apology, it’s not great. The part about him trying to understand who he was that made him act in such a manner appealed to my sense of compassion, if he was at all honest about that. But there are too many points at which Venit professed his own greatness and how this one small character flaw was just a hiccup in the Awesomeness that is Adam Venit. And personally, I take great exception that this jerk would put himself anywhere near the same playing field as Terry but that’s just me being protective.

Venit and WME thought Terry would back down, as evidenced when they threatened and punished him for pursuing the matter. Instead, Terry stood up to them and found new, larger platforms, like the Congressional hearings, to speak out against their bullying tactics. As proof that Terry was not after revenge, the terms of his settlement were as follows

The settlement between Crews, Venit, and W.M.E. stipulates that the talent agency must pay $375,000 to Crews to cover his attorney fees, and that Venit must resign—with a provision that W.M.E. cannot rehire him in any capacity in the future. Additionally, W.M.E. has agreed to alter its employee conduct policy to adequately address sexual assault and battery by W.M.E. employees against clients, and now requires allegations to be reported to the heads of the firm’s legal and human resources departments. (Such a rule would have ensured that Crews’s allegation reached the higher-ups at the time of the alleged groping incident in 2016.) Additionally, W.M.E. employees must receive training regarding the new policies annually. An outside attorney never previously employed by the firm will also review and approve the policy prior to its implementation.

[From Vanity Fair]

I really hope Terry has gotten some peace from this. He has been a powerful voice in the #MeToo movement and has conducted himself with dignity. Let’s also hope that more victims receive some form of justice in their cases as well.

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  1. Wiffie says:

    I know a lot of people are criticising the letter…. But I still wish I got an apology like that for my SA. 🙁 I’ve wanted to know if he’s attempted to understand the emotional devastation caused by the rape, and done soul searching, felt the real weight of his own shame and fear, and made his own vows to be better. I know others find that self serving on Adam’s part, but it’s something I’ve wished for the rapist that altered the course of my life 14 years ago. Could be the “victim” in me just desperate to figure out the complicated emotions, too, who knows. It’s complicated.

    Hope Terry finds a bit of peace in this.

    • babco says:

      Wiffie, if you read the letter, there is barely an apology.

      Lots of ‘WE can do better’ for both him and Terry Crewes in this letter. Which I find very disturbing and very telling.
      Not many ‘I effed up and it s on me’. Not a single one.

      With this letter, he is just trying to dodge his sole, personal responsibility and abuse and reframe the narrative by putting Terri Crewes at his level and try to make him a partner of some BS atonement and contrition parade.

      I have been a victim of SA assault too.
      No ‘we’ possible with such hypocrisy.

      • Wiffie says:

        I think I was so effing traumatized by my own shotty apology, anything looks welcome to me, and I’m recognizing that now.

        Trying to shake off the shame of my inability to see some things clearly yet. I want to delete my post, and tempted, but won’t. Gotta grow.

        Thanks for the perspective.

      • Lala11_7 says:

        Wiffie…please believe this…your feelings…and thoughts…not shameful…not shameful at all! You process things on your time schedule…it’s not a race…there is no SHAME…associated with you…

        None at all….

      • babco says:

        Wiffie, please, don t give yourself grief and shame on this.

        Your initial words were kind and generous. Nothing to be ashamed of in any way, shape or form.
        You have just listened to our viewpoints with enough respect and honesty it made you think further. Nothing to be ashamed of in any way, shape or form.
        You decided to apply this in your life and grow. Nothing to be ashamed of in any way, shape or form.

        So, actually, you are doing just the right, strong thing.
        Power and big, big hug to you Wiffie

    • Lilian says:

      I’m so sorry for your experience WIFFIE. I can understand how you feel with regards to the letter. I went through something when I was little. If the person apologized or even acknowledged. I would feel relief. I understand.

    • hmmm says:

      Hey Wiffie, I’m with you. While other peeps may not like it, it would absolutely mean the world to me if my SA sent that to me and meant it. This is maybe also because my person is someone I once cared for a great deal, so maybe it’s different if people don’t have that connection beforehand, but I just want him to change, and take responsibility, and work together to make things better.

  2. babco says:

    “I am sorry for what I did, it was unacceptable” should have been the in first sentence. And the last. And in the middle.

    Instead, we get
    “I believe positive light was your intention when you came out with your tweet”
    “I want to use this moment to be a positive influence …”
    “we both have so much more to offer …”
    “to start the healing process together …”

    New Age Tone Deafism

    • Natalie S says:

      That letter makes my skin crawl. So many instances of I.

      I think Venit has no respect for Crews and no respect for his boundaries. There’s a forced emotional intimacy there that’s completely unearned which I guess is no surprise considering what Venit did.

      I don’t think Venit has learned anything.

      “I am sure that this whole situation is an unwanted experience one for you.” (Guilt tripping Crews on his motivations for going after Venit)

      “I am writing this note with the hope of us talking in person to come together and become a positive story in this messed up world.”

      Venit isn’t apologizing. The letter is a guilt trip to sway Crews into helping Venit rehabilitate his image.

      • Frida_K says:

        Yes. The emotional intimacy he demands is nauseating and yet another form of assault.

        Fortunately, Mr. Crews opted to make it public and let it scatter to the winds. Anyone with eyes to see will notice what a slimy missive it is and will respect Mr. Crews that much more for his response to it. He wiped that garbage off the bottom of his shoe and is moving right along with his life.

    • Mariposa says:

      Thanks for articulating it so well! It was like he was saying, ‘Let’s join forces and campaign together for a better tomorrow!’…I mean, on what planet does the person who DID the assault get to be the magnanimous one? And, what do we possibly have to learn from him? It’s just bizarre. You just know that in his mind, he’s the real victim…

      • Esmom says:

        Yeah, he really managed to turn the whole thing around in his mind, didn’t he? I tend to think no later would have been better than this. Sigh.

    • detritus says:

      Right? What a manipulative crock of shit.
      He wrote it because he had to. He took bare responsibility because he had to. This is all linked with his severance (resignation)

      I had to scan it to find any admission of guilt, and it’s only in the first sentence. The rest is how awesome Venit is, and how communal, a family man, and to insinuate Terry has anything to work on is BS. “Together in this situation”, nope. Nooooope nope nope.

      Honestly, Harmon is the only one who seems to have actually admitted guilt when confronted. I want to see – I did it, it wasn’t your fault, I made a really bad mistake, I’m going to fix myself.

    • babco says:

      He is heavy on the big words, New Age, religious terms, very inspired and elevated.

      The FACTS: He grabbed Terry Crewes by the crotch in front of his wife, at a party, for no other reason than a low, crass and public display of power and humiliation.

  3. Maya says:

    Well done Terry and all the best in your Hollywood career.

  4. Feedmechips says:

    He used a whole lot of words to say absolutely nothing. This is not an apology. Notice how this asshole never once acknowledged what he did. More importantly, he never stated that he is sorry for what he did–just sorry about the situation.

    • Christin says:

      So true. A few words would have sufficed. “I am sorry for what I did to you.”

      I think Terry realizes it’s a wordy non-apology, and the resignation is the true consolation.

  5. MarcelMarcel says:

    I have always been a fan of Terry Crews work in Brooklyn 99.
    His grace and fortitude in the situation has amazed me. I’m so grateful there are people like him choosing to be advocates for survivors. Not everyone has the emotional energy to do so (I know I don’t have energy required to disclose my experience in a public forum like he has).
    I’m excited to watch him continue to thrive as an actor. I’ll always watch whatever films or tv shows he is in. He is one of the few public figures I know I will remain a life long fan of.

    • Anners says:

      Same here. He seems like such a wonderful man. I love the example he is setting for non-toxic masculinity. I appreciate how he risked his privacy to stand up for those who can’t. He’s a magnificent human being and I wish him continued success. I will watch anything he’s in.

  6. Lucy2 says:

    I hope Terry is satisfied with this, as his feelings on are the only ones that really matter. However, I find that “apology“ to be incredibly weak and skirting the real issue, and it’s telling that it only came as a result of a settlement and the creep being fired. He and his powerful friends pressured and threatened Terry ever sense the accusation was made public, so a lame apology now doesn’t mean much, IMO.

  7. Lala11_7 says:

    I like how he accepted the apology…ONLY AFTER that POS was fired (cause you KNOW that’s what happened…like, they BASICALLY had to tell him REALLY NICELY…you don’t have to go home…BUT YOU CAN’T STAY HERE!!!)…

    I like that…

    A LOT!!!!

  8. Jess says:

    Thank goodness for Terry Crews. We need more people like him in the world.

  9. Mims says:

    Thank you CB writers for covering this. I know that the story has been generally covered, but I have yet to find coverage as comprehensive (and fantastically scathing) as yours. I really appreciate you making sure that this man’s voice was heard, and for allowing those of us who needed it to see him advocate for himself and others. Terry Crews is an incredible human being, but without people like you giving victims platforms to voice their pain and their anger, we would genuinely not have made the gains that we have in the last year. For many it is difficult to see taking a single step as an achievement, but I have felt that women in general, and in particular victims of sexual abuse and harassment, have been metaphorically strapped down so long that I’m surprised any of us can use our damn legs.

    Thank you to everyone on here, throughout the years, who have felt strong enough to share similar stories. I know from experience how utterly life-changing this kind of abuse can be.

    And now we know how life-changing speaking up can be.

  10. marmalazed says:

    Totally agree with previous comments about the forced, undeserved emotional intimacy. I wonder if too much of an admission of guilt with any specificity would have made criminal charges possible though? I think the main thing is the tangible repercussions in terms of him getting fired, Terry’s legal fees being reimbursed, and all of the changes WME has to implement. The “apology” is shite and everyone can see that. Hopefully Venit really does the work to understand and change his behavior and have true compassion for the harm to his victims. And hopefully he just shuts up about it in the media as an attempt to repair his image.

  11. holly hobby says:

    WME got off easy. Crews did not sure for monetary damages. I hope they will heed to the settlement.

  12. Bc says:

    I feel like crying coz I know it must’ve taken a lot for him to tread this road he didn’t ask for.

  13. paddingtonjr says:

    Thank you, Terry, for continuing to share your experience. Some people think that once a survivor has spoken out, that’s it and life can just go on. By showing the struggles and, quite frankly, hoops he has had to go through to even get this non-apology apology, he has given strength to others and hopefully encouraged them to continue to fight for justice.