About a month ago, Courtney Stodden revealed that Chrissy Teigen used to privately DM them and Teigen would say stuff like “kill yourself.” Chrissy waited a day to see if the accusation would stick (it did) and she issued a terrible apology on social media where she made it sound like it was such a chore to have to apologize for being such a nasty piece of work. In the weeks that followed, Stodden has said that Teigen should lose her sponsors. Teigen has lost some work, and there are rumors that her marriage is on the rocks too, although I’m not sure I believe that. So I don’t know what possessed Chrissy – narcissism, an inability to be quiet – but she decided to do a Medium essay which serves as some kind of update on how she’s been “humbled” by everything that’s happened. You can read the full piece here. Some highlights:
Hi all. It has been a VERY humbling few weeks. I know I’ve been quiet, and lord knows you don’t want to hear about me, but I want you to know I’ve been sitting in a hole of deserved global punishment, the ultimate “sit here and think about what you’ve done”. Not a day, not a single moment has passed where I haven’t felt the crushing weight of regret for the things I’ve said in the past.
As you know, a bunch of my old awful (awful, awful) tweets resurfaced. I’m truly ashamed of them. As I look at them and understand the hurt they caused, I have to stop and wonder: How could I have done that? I’ve apologized publicly to one person, but there are others — and more than just a few — who I need to say I’m sorry to. I’m in the process of privately reaching out to the people I insulted. It’s like my own version of that show My Name is Earl! I understand that they may not want to speak to me. I don’t think I’d like to speak to me. (The real truth in all of this is how much I actually cannot take confrontation.) But if they do, I am here and I will listen to what they have to say, while apologizing through sobs.
There is simply no excuse for my past horrible tweets. My targets didn’t deserve them. No one does. Many of them needed empathy, kindness, understanding and support, not my meanness masquerading as a kind of casual, edgy humor. I was a troll, full stop. And I am so sorry.
I used [social media] to snark at some celebrities. In reality, I was insecure, immature and in a world where I thought I needed to impress strangers to be accepted. If there was a pop culture pile-on, I took to Twitter to try to gain attention and show off what I at the time believed was a crude, clever, harmless quip. I thought it made me cool and relatable if I poked fun at celebrities.
Now, confronted with some of the things that I said, I cringe to my core. I’ll honestly get sharp, stabbing pains in my body, randomly remembering my a–hole past, and I deserve it. Words have consequences and there are real people behind the Twitter handles I went after. I wasn’t just attacking some random avatar, but hurting young women — some who were still girls — who had feelings. How could I not stop and think of that? Why did I think there was some invisible psycho-celebrity formula that prevents anyone with more followers from experiencing pain? How did I not realize my words were cruel? What gave me the right to say these things?
…The truth is, I’m no longer the person who wrote those horrible things. I grew up, got therapy, got married, had kids, got more therapy, experienced loss and pain, got more therapy and experienced more life. AND GOT MORE THERAPY.
…I have so much love to give if you are open and willing to accept it. And if not, that’s okay too. That’s something I work on being more okay with every day. I know I let you down, but I hope I can make you proud. It’s been a heavy few weeks, so I’m going to take some more time to focus on things that are most important — being with my family and taking care of myself. We are all more than our worst moments.
I won’t ask for your forgiveness, only your patience and tolerance. I ask that you allow me, as I promise to allow you, to own past mistakes and be given the opportunity to seek self improvement and change. Phew. A lot, I know. Thanks for listening.
There’s a tone problem, right? That was what immediately struck me. She’s trying to sound conversational, like she’s lecturing one of her girlfriends, but we’re actually talking about how she mocked a child (Quvenzhane Wallis) and told a teenager to “kill yourself.” This is not the moment to compulsively center yourself in the apology/update, nor is it the moment to crack a “My Name Is Earl” joke. Something else that’s bothering me: she wouldn’t have done her Twitter apology last month or this Medium apology if her bottom line wasn’t being affected, and if her business partners weren’t running for the hills. People were happy to ignore all of Chrissy’s problematic words and behavior for years and years. And now that everything has come to a head, suddenly she has all of these regrets and humility. This apology is just like Chrissy: vapid, narcissistic and fake.
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I wanna know if she apologized privately to Courtney.
Courtney said that Chrissy never reached out to them personally.
That’s just it. She’s not sorry about how her misdirected hate and actions harmed the lives and minds of children, victims of abuse and just anyone she decides to go after on Twitter. I believe if there was a private apology Stodden would have posted it. And certainly Chrissy would have.
Her tone was awful and the theme of her essay was “stop being mad at me.” Not “I’m genuinely sorry and learned my lesson.”
I thought she would readdress that. I am dissapointed that that,s just going to be left hanging. She did not apologize to anybody personally. That shows no selfwork: she just issued a lying PR piece. That to me is not acceptable. I need Courtney to say she got a personal apology, and whether she accepts or not is her choice, but there is no choice for teigen to apologize or not, to courtney or michael costello, and that other young girl.
+1. And the thing is, it’s not like Chrissy Teigan could have been completely in the dark in the late 00’s/10’s about the potential impact of her words on Courtney, or on others who held misogynistic or violent beliefs. Even if she’s never lost anybody that way, or never witnessed that kind of emotional and psychological abuse nearly destroy or break anybody. It’s not like there weren’t news stories during that time about girls taking their lives after being bullied like that, or LGBT people. It makes you wonder if she would have felt remorse or whether or not on some level, she would have been ok with her wish coming true.
The least she could do is shut her garbage mouth. The best she could do is turn around, start walking and disappear forever. There are enough shitty people as it is. She had a high profile which she could have used for doing good; by advocating and publicising important social issues, or simply sharing funny, interesting or encouraging messages. But no. Ms Teigen chose to be an obnoxious bully. She thinks her constant “apologies” exonerate her. Two words for her: They. Don’t. Please disappear.
THIS. This is what is missing from all the stories out there about what CT did and her “apologies” and THIS is why it’s all bullshit. Not only did she not apologize privately, but she blocked Courtney. Let’s talk about that behavior. Her old tweets are one thing, but this apology tour is absolutely 100% hollow if she hasn’t reached out directly (then had the audacity to block Courtney). I wish the headline was “Teigan expects public to do her work: has yet to have a personal conversation with person she blocked”
That she blocked Stodden is very “out of sight out of mind” like Stodden bothered her more than anything else.
Right. IMO she should have done this public mea culpa after she completed her private apologies. But of course she’s in a rush to speak to her fans and sponsors. The Medium thing is OKish, has glimmers of contrition, but is too long and too self-centered. Surprise! Lol.
Agree. She can apologize all she wants to the rest of us but the people who she really wronged are Courtney and Quvenzhane.
Yuck, sounds completely insincere and did you see Michael Costello’s statement about how her bullying campaign destroyed his career and led him to the brink of suicide? Truly chilling.
I saw that. She’s a truly vile person.
And he had screenshots of the texts too-which disproves her whole “I did it so people would like me” argument. You don’t privately harass people to impress others.
She really made a habit of telling people they’d be better off dead.
The tone of her second apology is gross and doesn’t ring even close to sincere..
THIS. Doing it privately is for your own personal pleasure. She’s vile.
You hit the nail on the head Cassandra! Maybe she did some mean tweets publicly first for the reason of gaining some kind of sick cred, but she must have quickly realized that she LIKES tearing others apart and took to doing it privately, to a TEENAGER. She’s sick and her explanation falls through.
I totally agree! She’s an incredibly vile person, and while there may be traumas or specific diagnoses or legitimate issues that caused her behavior; she’s still responsible for it. She still said those words and did those things and hurt those people. I feel as though if it was truly something she recognized about herself and was determined to get help for and try to do and be better she would be focusing on apologizing to each person she hurt independently and privately, and then doing the work she needs to in therapy privately. Emphasis on privately.
I have never had that anger or hatred inside of me to wish someone else dead. I’m not perfect and definitely have regretted some of the snark/meanness of my past (which I never had the courage to say directly but instead behind that person’s back or implied). I’ve felt anger at others, or rarely rage.
But wishing someone dead and then telling them? That’s a whole other level of cruelty.
Omg I saw Michael Costello’s Instagram post about how she kept getting him fired from jobs because she believed something online that wasn’t real. Go to his Instagram and read it. It’s incredibly eye opening. I am not about the cancel culture but can Chrissy just stay gone?? She doesn’t care and she’s not sorry. She would never be apologizing(her half assed apology) if it wasn’t impacting her MONEY and JOBS!!!!! That’s the worst part. This wasn’t a one off, I messed up and I’ll apologize. She bullied who even knows how many CHILDREN and adults to the edge of them killing them selves. Unacceptable and deplorable….and I don’t use the word deplorable often.
Just sending out a new apology before more people come out.
An apology motivated by the fear of losing your career is never genuine.
I can very well imagine that she’s actually pissed that people are not buying her apologies. She used to get away with so much.
So true. Someone tweeted that she may be getting paid for her “apology” article. I used to follow her on Twitter a few years ago only because of John Legend. I never paid attention to her until she became a public defender of the Kardashians and that’s when I stopped following her.
I don’t think their marriage is in trouble because he retweeted a link to Chrissy’s self-centered apology on Medium. Also, I remember when she bragged about her and John becoming members of the “mile high club”, but John didn’t seem to mind. IMO, they’re a problematic couple, like Kristen Bell and Dax Sheppard.
Honestly I started rolling my eyes within the first paragraph. It’s very “how could this happen to ME!!!!” IMO
“I want you to know I’ve been sitting in a hole of deserved global punishment, the ultimate “sit here and think about what you’ve done” ”
This sentence disgusts me. She sounds so passive-aggressive and self-pitying
She’s making it about herself, her feelings, her experience when she should be focused on the feelings of the people she wronged.
She’s minimizing her actions to that of a child in “time out.”
Rolling eyes here too.
All I see is “ME ME ME ME ME” .
No regret anywhere.
She could have tried to reach Courtney, send her flowers without saying anything, and probably Courtney would have made a public statemnt, instead all we have it’s “ME ME ME”. Eyeroll.
She isn’t sorry at all, she’s just scared to lose her “prestige”. And to use her daughter to get sympathy is so, so low. She can truly reach new lows everyday.
“My goal is to be so good that my kids will think this was all a fairy tale.”
Right!!!? Instead of maybe one day when your children ask you about it, owning up to it and explaining that mommy was being a bully and she was totally in the wrong. Just pretend it never happened. Good parenting if I ever hear it.
Time for Chrissy to get a new therapist. Because, for all of the therapy she claims to have received over time, it obviously didn’t work. Effective therapy would have prompted apologies to these young people loooong before it threatened to hit her in the wallet.
She’s addicted to social media and the power it gives/gave her. She probably can’t say all the things she said online to the face of all these people.If she had waited few months to come back everyone would’ve had moved on.
she sure has a go to inusult
https://www.instagram.com/p/CQHebgPNmmr/
“Your career is over, just watch.”
Huh, she predicted her own future.
That was difficult to read. She’s an awful person.
That was extremely difficult to read and I am so glad that he is exposing her for the truly vile person that she is! Chrissy hasn’t learned anything and this so-called public apology falls on deaf ears. Chrissy hasn’t grown up, she only cares about herself, ME! ME! ME!
Chrissy hasn’t changed and won’t change until she personally apologizes to those that she has wronged. She must do it in person and not make a big statement that she apologized.
Chrissy has not and will never grow up. The fact that she made these statements to vulnerable people has proven that she isn’t a kind person at all, none, nada, not happening ever.
Yeah, I don’t understand how you can claim you were insecure and attention seeking, when you’re vindictively going after strangers in DMs and text messages…
In what reality is cyberstalking someone with death taunts “edgy humor”??
Just be silent for a good long while, Chrissy. AFTER you genuinely apologize to the people you harmed. Apologies that don’t include the words “I,” “me,” and “my” in every sentence.
This is what, I think, confuses me. Isn’t this kind of apologizing, in fact, all about that (I, me, my)? The issue was never Courtney (or any of the other targets of abuse), it was Chrissy. Chrissy was the issue and that is what she is addressing; the role she played, the way she is learning, the ways she will change. I feel at a loss sometimes for what a ‘good apology’ would even look like. Now, a 1-1 apology, sure that is directed to Courtney or another person and is less about Chrissy and more about the harm caused, but this statement, is, in fact, all about Chrissy and I don’t see how it should be about anything else?
I am genuinely curious about what you (and many many others) would want this to say. I feel like if she didn’t address her issues then people would say it was an empty apology and she didn’t talk at all about her motivations and what she will change?
Maybe there just isn’t any good way through this?
I get what you’re saying. I suppose the answer is “we’ll see.” I don’t know a lot of details about her, but it seems to me that the problems aren’t just attention-seeking and insecurity, there seem to be hostility, anger and social media addiction, plus maybe a big chunk of narcissism.
I used tell my ex, “Don’t keep apologizing; just stop doing it.” Chrissy says she’s gotten therapy- we’ll see. She says she’ll take a step back – we’ll see. She doesn’t have to make anyone proud, just stop being a horrible bully. And she doesn’t have to allow other people their past mistakes, just to focus on her own.
Her apology is full of self-pity (woe is me, I’m so beleaguered, I’m having such a rough time) and asks people to be patient and tolerant with her. Her apology should instead be focused on compassion for those she hurt and demonstrating an understanding of how she hurt them AND it would really help if her apology were addressed to those particular people and not a general “please return to buying my shit.”
Right? How do you apologize for something you did without saying I? I don’t think it is a bad apology at all. I’m just saying, that what she did was too bad to really recover from.
@lucky The thing about apologies, they are simply words. Anyone can talk a good game. Clearly Chrissy can’t even do that – meaning she cannot make a genuine apology that is focused on taking responsibility for her behavior; she would rather make excuses for it (being “snarky” – WTF??). Regardless, showing different behavior later is the only way to truly make amends, in my opinion. You can protest you are sorry all you want! But if you keep doing what you are doing, your words literally mean nothing. It is not enough to talk the talk, you must walk the walk, as they say.
Obviously there’s a good way and a bad way to deliver “I” statements in an apology. Chrissy’s have all been about how everything has affected her, how she has felt, how she wanted to be beloved, how she wants people to view her, etc. She’s blogging trite things like “I was a troll with edge humor” instead of actually acknowledging the real damage she did, an adult encouraging a teenager to KILL HERSELF.
Sincere apologies with “I” or “me” type statements aren’t performative. They don’t try to justify, they just take responsibility. Chrissy just really seems like she wants everyone to reassure her that she’s still awesome.
To quote the preschool show Daniel Tiger “Saying I’m sorry it’s the first step, then how can I help?”
An apology is not enough. Let’s see some actions now.
This is still so problematic in my opinion bc she’s still trying to act like it was just an online persona, she was completely different in “real” life – but online life IS real life. What you say to someone online has an impact offline.
Also, she’s trying to act like it was just “edgy humor” and “snarky” – that implies there was something clever about it and there just wasn’t. And in regards to Courtney Stodden, it overlooks the fact that they were a victim.
We all knew she wasn’t going to stay off, next time we should take bets on how long before she comes back to twitter.
“online life IS real life. What you say to someone online has an impact offline.” This. It has an impact on individuals, and it has an impact on how groups of people are treated. None of that should be minimized or can be rationalized away with any kind of, “but look at what this girl or these girls HAVE” argument. Be it number of followers, male attention, money, or any similar excuse. It’s also disturbing how far into adulthood people go trying to tell themselves and everyone around them that their misogyny is just them being snarky, truthful, politically incorrect underdogs whom anyone with a sense of humor can be chill about. It’s not funny, and inflicting or making fun of someone else’s trauma should not be anyone’s high.
As for what she says about seeking validation, nothing groundbreaking about what she’s saying there. Slut-shaming is almost always about seeking validation in some way- no matter which sex does it.
Honestly, im starting to side-eye john legend at this rate.
Me too. He can’t have not known.
Omg same. John, how do you find this behavior okay or attractive?! Like I said above, it’s not a one-off-ops-I-cyber-bullied…..it’s a pattern of deplorable behavior directed towards children and adults. Taking away how they feed their families and telling them to die. He obviously knew she was like this. It’s hounds like everyone knew…I mean she wasn’t trying to hide her behavior.
I get the impression from her behavior toward him that she low-key bullies him as well. I’ve seen her repeatedly mock him, berate him over little things, and degrade his accomplishments and music, and his reaction has always been to sort of quietly hang his head down and look at the ground in embarrasement/shame. If it is the case that she’s been bullying him and chipping away at his emotional well being for years then I’m not going to lasso him into being accountable for her behavior. I’ve been in a relationship like that and when you’re in it you don’t even realize how emotionally abusive your partner really is. And sometimes you look at your partner lashing out at other people as a sort of relief, because at least they’re not coming at you for once. I’m not saying this is what’s happening with them, but I do see signs of this in their relationship dynamic and it gives me flashbacks to the verbally/emotionally abusive relationship I was in. So I’m hesitant to judge here, because he could be okay with her behavior or he could also just be another victim of her abusive bullying.
Agreed. I’ve been shocked at some of the things she’s publicly said to and about him, deeply unkind at best. I always thought that someone who does that continuously is abusive and wondered how can he stand it or accept it? She’s so rude about his art/work/gift.
Wow. What I find very off putting is how comfortable she is with telling people to die. Like… I’ve had opinions on social media and called shit out, but I’ve never ever said “oh go kill yourself.” That’s evil. She’s messed beyond belief and we all see it now.
I agree. She spits those words out with ease and puts it in writing so everyone can read it. It’s frightening.
Totally agree. I have said and done many dumb things in my life…but never death related. Never. That’s sociopath level IMO.
She’s also a celebrity and should know better in that area. She’s not some random guy sitting in his basement being a troll.
Right? I would never, ever even consider saying that to someone.
Though it’s extremely self-centered, I was kind of OK with her apology until she said she’s changed and hasn’t been that person for a long time. I simply don’t believe that’s true, and if she hadn’t been publicly called out and started to lose business deals, I think she would be doing that very same thing today.
Right?? If that kind of comment can roll off her tongue or fingers so easily, then its something that’s just par for the course with her. She genuinely thinks some of these people should just die.
It kind of reminds me of when white people get caught saying THE racial slur, and they say “oh that’s not me, it just slipped out.” You know what word NEVER “just slips out” of my mouth? It doesnt just “slip out.” that’s who you are.
I have no idea what she should do here, but this ain’t it. Of course, I’ve never told anyone to go take a dirt nap either. I’ll admit, I enjoyed her cookbook, but I feel bad even making her recipes right now. This girl is a mean mess. I’d hate to think what else is out there about her. She needs to walk the talk. She needs to go out and start volunteering, make some donations to some suicide/mental health organizations and live quietly for a year or two. But, I really don’t think that’s possible in this case.
The best thing she could do for everyone now is sign off social media and work on herself, family and community then maybe think about her career. I don’t know her but the screen shots I saw were vile. I hate to judge anyones mental health but I think a step away from media is in her best interest currently. As for her marriage I think her husband honestly loves her and if I recall correctly in an old interview he grew up without his mom present. They have two young children so in all fairness I would not speculate on that.
She could hire someone to manage her professional social media.
That would be a smart move also..
Agreed. She should have several seats, be quiet for a year or two, focus on her kids, stay off social media; and eventually hire people to run it and maybe try to come back with an apology cookbook or something… can’t she have a publicist or something answer these questions or just say she’s working on herself when more inevitably comes out? Like, why does she have to keep centering herself and trying to speak over the people coming forward? Just hire someone and stop talking. Ugh.
I agree she should go offline for a few years and focus on her family. I do agree that social media addiction is one of her major problems. I think her identity is completely wrapped up in it and got drunk with power over it. I think she’s deeply unhappy and used social media to distract herself and vent through.
I have no doubt more people are going to come out of the woodwork and her marriage will definitely take a hit.
I think she must be friends with her publicist or something. That’s the only thing that explains why she hasn’t been told how terrible these apologies are. She’s either releasing these things without getting a second opinion, or she has surrounded herself with sycophants that don’t tell her the truth.
Yes, I think the problem is that she centered herself and what she was going through. I believe in forgiveness, but only after someone has atoned. Saying ‘Im not that person anymore’ is not atonement. Rather, it is an attempt to create distance between you and the bad deeds or acts. We don’t need her to dissect her psyche for us. She needs to recognize what she did as harmful, understand why and how it was harmful, apologize to her victims privately, then to the public, and then show people she’s changed through her words and acts. I don’t think she’s there yet. This essay is very damage control-y/a plea to love her again. Attention is the most important thing for her and it drives all her bad acts.
Omg this was the worst! I saw it unfold real time and it was very bad. She doesn’t seem to get it. I’m not going to explain as it’s unnecessary
I’ve been a fan of John Legend since the beginning and he has always come across as so classy. I never followed her on social media because I just thought she came across as someone who needed a lot of attention. I never knew she was so mean spirited. Kinda makes you wonder about John.
I don’t think this will be the last apology.
Oh and by the way guys,my new apology book is coming out next week, at a Target near you!
You’ll find all your faves there! The emotional, the egotistical, the snarky, you know me guys you’ll get your money’s worth!
STFU Chrissy!
This is a very bad, very self-centered apology that (to me) sounds like she’s not taking it very seriously. Even her apologies are in a joking, lighthearted manner.
Just stop trying to get people to commit suicide. That’s all she needs to say.
Sunnydaze, A to the MEN! U put UR finger on exactly what’s wrong with Chrissy’s “apology.” This is exactly why it rings hollow & why it IS HOLLOW! She’s apologizing to her audience, John Q. Public, & not her victims. Thank U for zeroing in on the real problem with CT. Her a** needs to B pulled out the oven cause she’s done. I really do not want to hear from CT any more. So over her.
As commenters have said above, we all do and say really dumb things in our lives, especially when we are/were young. But never, in my worst of worse days, did I EVER tell someone to kill themselves. This isn’t punching down troll behavior, this is SOCIOPATH behavior.
1000%. Anyone who’s so comfortable telling people to kill themselves is evil. It’s a whole other level of cruelty and she seems to really enjoy doing it.
I believe people can change, but, as written in this piece, her “apology” is only being expressed because she started losing work. She seems too addicted to the attention she gets to just ‘go away’ for a spell which would be healthy. This part: “ …not my meanness masquerading as a kind of casual, edgy humor.” There was no “masquerading” of the meanness and even this spin seems to indicate she doesn’t really understand. I know little about her larger picture beyond this ‘scandal’ which is hard to miss — she’s married to John Legend (that I knew), has children, is considered pretty, gets work, writes cookbooks? — I wonder what her childhood/upbringing was like.
I think someone posted here when Legend was doing some Zoom appearance with Julia Roberts and Jennifer Aniston and more and she stopped by (?) to show up on screen for a moment in like a red dressing gown and Julia Roberts said something that was so passive snarky you could easily miss her meaning on first listen. Her husband clearly doesn’t realize that that’s not what people do and the fact that she did, as if she was just one of the gang, and what she wore to do so … was … curious.
I guess she also deserves empathy … if it felt more genuine that would help. For some reason ‘people’ seem to like her so I can’t help wondering if she’ll get a pass with a bit more time. The Michael Costello statement and showing of her texts is pretty alarming too and sad/tragic. (Wonder if she recalls that … her statement mentions ‘young girls?’) Also she keeps saying “old tweets” when it was more than that.
I just looked it up, John was doing the fast Times at Ridgemont high live reading, and apparently she popped it in the background, of course. Julia said something like “is that what you look like around the house all the time?” I could take that one of two ways, either she was saying Chrissy just naturally always looks good, or snarkily that she clearly did her self all up now and she would “pop in“.
I watched a concert at home that John did in the beginning of the pandemic, and Chrissy interrupted it, wearing a towel, sitting on his piano keys, etc. She was annoying, interrupted him repeatedly, and clearly just couldn’t let him have the spotlight for a moment.
Thanks. I couldn’t recall what it was for as I just saw that clip. I took it as the latter, she (Julia) even threw the comment over to Jen Aniston who didn’t know how to respond. Now I remember seeing the towel-wearing interruption, I mean…? I didn’t see the whole thing so I didn’t realize she *kept* interrupting him. I think he perhaps has been caught up in her image a bit, like ‘The world loves my wife so this is what she does…’ but I wonder if he’ll start to rethink some of it.
This whole apology essay is ridiculous. It STARTS with a tone of “poor me, all alone and not being universally loved because REASONS” and just goes downhill from there.
Too many of the sentences start with “I” first hint that the apology is crap
Good catch!
Someone just responded to her Tweet about this apology to tell her that “I” appears SEVENTY times in the essay. This apology is literally all about her.
“Probably through sobs” She keeps making comments about how hard this is FOR HER. Stop centring yourself, apologize, mean it, do the work and stop trying to make people feel bad for you. It’s textbook manipulator. This is a mess.
I’m calling bs on this. If her goal was a misguided attempt to make a name for herself as an online presence, why the hell is she DMing ppl? That’s just her getting her rocks off by being cruel.
Terrible ‘apology’ – it isn’t genuine at all and more of a ‘reframing’ and too much about her instead of those that she wronged. How many times has she apologized and yet there’s no sincere action to those she wronged because she doesn’t care still about them; it is always about her. If she was genuine and serious, she would have reached out to all of those she’s wrong, stay off social media for at least a year and seek intensive therapy to make a plan to do better and to prove it through her actions. At this point, I never want to hear about her ever again even if I like some of John’s music.
Reading thru these comments, is there anything she could do at this point? She seems pretty canceled and if the readers of this site are any indication, that’s not going to change. It doesn’t matter how many times she apologies it sounds like there’s no coming back for her.
I think people are very Chrissy Teigen’d out right now. Two terrible apologies where she centers herself and her suffering aren’t going to convince anybody that she has changed.
If I were her publicist, I’d have her reach out privately to all the people she’s been cruel to and personally apologize. At least one would probably let it be known that they’d heard from her. If something like that became public knowledge organically it might show people she’s actually doing the work.
When she decides to “come back” I think she should back away from the “I’m a funny cool girl” persona and make her career the focus of her social media presence. I think if she started posting new recipes or something in six months, most people will have forgotten and pay it no mind. But when she comes bursting out of the gates with these long, loud, insincere essays…she’s not helping herself.
I think a real apology and not an essay that’s very “me me me” would’ve been a good start. But honestly, finding out that she’s told MULTIPLE PEOPLE to off themselves is horrifying and not something that necessarily deserves forgiveness.
This is so bad, Girl has no idea what humble means. She needs to disappear for a very long time.
I read the Michael Costello article directly before clicking onto this one, so…. it is not working for me.
Wasn’t she forced to take her Twitter account down (one of the times) because a bunch of right wing nut jobs were saying that she was associated with Jeffrey Epstein or something crazy like that? I can’t remember the details but it was a bunch of people/bots bullying her on Twitter and she was very upset about it. Well, hmmm, here we are.
I never looked at Chrissy…cause I know women like her and knew her mouth was gonna one day write a check that her trifling cruel ass couldn’t cash….
I looked at John & EVERYONE ELSE who let her think that her s–t don’t stink….
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I read it on IG yesterday.
She starts off with the poor me, feel bad for me sympathy ploy.
Did any one catch she says she publicly apologized to one person… Does she mean Courtney?
Because she has Courtney blocked.
She also originally said she apologized directly to Courtney, which was when Courtney let us know that was a lie.
She never addresses the many abusive DM’s she sent to multiple people for years, and as recently as less than two years ago.
So this did not happen so long ago in the past like she is trying to say.
We’ve been in the pandemic for almost a year and a half, so 2 years ago would have been 2019 the summer before the world stopped.
The whole apology rang false. The tone was incredibly off. And it was all about poor her and how she is being punished for her actions
Some interesting things in the comments on her IG apology. A number of celebrities showed up to give her support.
And they got drug big time.
Zoe Saldana and Jennifer Garner were standouts. People were saying that they should be cancelled too.
The ratio was 90-95% against Chrissy in the replies under supportive comments
Lottssssss of people were bringing up Michael Costello
Also she posted on IG after her apology, a post about her kid’s graduation. It was her typical kind of post. Like everything was back to normal.
So to me it made her apology look like a total (shitty) PR attempt to try to make it all go away. Like she thinks that now that she did this public apology it’s all better and over.
This is all because her sponsors are leaving her and her husband is getting a lot of shit.
He got dragged under his 💗💗💗 reply to her apology. So she is really hurting his brand.
God what is this woman’s problem? Does she not see how horrible her own behavior is? She seems to have an obsession with wishing death on people. How mature of her.
Like anything could actually humble this woman.
Girl…f you 😊. I have never liked her. Her kids were adorable, and I liked aspects of John Legend’s persona, so if she popped up in the news, I might read an article about her, but I never was down with her behavior. I did not understand why John Legend married her, and I can’t stand that song he wrote for her. So I knew this was for real for real when the White House removed Chrissy from the list of celebrities invited for parties or PSA opportunities.
Teigen is a typical narcissist it’s all about her. She can’t stand being out of public eye. She is just and attention seeking mean girl. Her and her off key singing husband need to go away
Sooooo…if she “can’t take confrontation” then what exactly did I she think WOULD happen when the chickens came home to roost??????
Typical bully.
It only takes one pebble to unstop the dam…
She really rubs me the wrong way. Her PR team forced her to take a month break, and then come out with a dumb apology letter. Back to normal programming. I hope Macy’s and Target don’t work with her ever again.
Telling someone to kill themselves is so damaging. Especially coming from someone with status and fame as her. She sucks as a person. Sorry.
Chrissy is so exhausting. That’s all I’ve got. She’s just tiresome.
I think it would have been wise to work on this letter with a PR expert.
I wonder about the team around her??? It feels like either she’s not getting good guidance OR she’s unwilling to take it.
Here’s a description of Histrionic Personality Disorder — sounds like someone we know doesn’t it.
“People with HPD have a high desire for attention, make loud and inappropriate appearances, exaggerate their behaviors and emotions, and crave stimulation. They may exhibit sexually provocative behavior, express strong emotions with an impressionistic style, and can be easily influenced by others. Associated features include egocentrism, self-indulgence, continuous longing for appreciation, and persistent manipulative behavior to achieve their own needs.”
Yup! Sounds accurate to me!
I can concur on that – most definitely! I think she has some serious mental health issues going on, with this personality disorder being one of them for sure.
I’ve been thinking the same for a while now.
I’ve never in my life told someone to “kill themselves”. No decent person has ever uttered these words to another human to either. Her words speak volumes about who she is as a person.
Exactly. This is it exactly. I said this on the other thread, but like kids can be annoying…when her kids get on her nerves what awful things is she saying to them? They aren’t with the nannies all the time! She seems to be a human tornado leaving random wreckage wherever she lands.
Yes…and she’s said it to so many people apparently? smdh
Exactly. I can say sth unpleasant when I do not like someone or because I’m angry and sth slips but to cultivate so much hate towards another person, put so much energy in destroying them… this is sick and so disturbing. Does she act like that at home? Does she say such things to her kids? She should get help because no content, calm person feels so much hate.
These are Chrissy’s words:
“I used [social media] to snark at some celebrities.”
How the F**K is that related to the repeated times she told people to go kill themselves? That is not “snarky” Chrissy! That is sociopathic behavior! I just read the other post on here about Designer Michael Costello, and how her bullying drove him to the brink of suicide. This behavior is unacceptable. Period.
I am not a psychologist, but Chrissy seems to have some serious mental health issues, if she has repeated these same truly disturbing patterns with different people. This shit ain’t normal, I am sorry. And no one wants to hear her self-centered, narcissistic apologies, which border on ridiculous. She needs to go away.
Never liked or disliked her. She not my cup of tea. She was a grown woman making those comments. I dont feel bad for her but I dont wish her death. Hopefully she does feel sorry. Doesn’t repeat. Learned. And moves on. Out of the spotlight.
I think I looked past her comments bc I was so desperate for loud Trump critics.
As someone said above …it’s true no decent/sane rational person would tell anyone to kill themselves.That’s just despicable. And not just one person multiple people. Like what? You’re a grown ass woman with children and a husband.
She has more than just serious self esteem issues going on.
I have always liked John Legend so much. He’s from Ohio; he’s an Ohio State Buckeye fan; most important, he had some incredibly awesome tweets. I think I also looked past Chrissys behavior bc she is married to him.
It did cross my mind though that this woman appears on social media way way too much.
It really takes a special kind of shitty person to not look at someone like Cortney Stodden and be like wow this is a damaged soul. She needs support not criticism. Let alone the absolute worst type of trolling.
It feels so easy to apologize for being a horrific troll in the early aughts. It was an extremely embarrassing, ignorant, -ism filled time online in general. Just admit you were wrong, you’re ashamed, you were immature and are deeply sorry for the pain you knowingly inflicted on another person, apologize to the person you wronged privately and sincerely, and promise them you are trying to be better. Leave the ball in their court over if they’ll forgive you or not; it’s not up to you if you deserve it.
But no, this woman is incapable of thinking of the world in any way other than with herself at the center. I hate it when famous liberals get exposed as narcissists. It’s all, ugh, get off my side, person!
This woman really needs to sit down and be quiet. No one cares about her “apology”. Seriously, she’s “very humbled” about being called out for her unexcusable behavior, not for telling people, including a child!, to kill themselves. In what planet would anyone thing that’s okay? I really wonder about her mental health and the behavior she is modelling for her children.
Hmm if you are going apologise DO IT WELL so then we don’t get another half assed ‘all about me’ apology Chrissy. This is tiring and I don’t think Chrissy will be back on lip sync battle as this has really damaged her brand of ‘nice cool girl’.
Very disturbing. Beyond disturbing. When I said I liked her I had no idea she was being like this for years. Let’s see what happens over the next weeks. Michael Costello deserves a big break after that disastrous career ending bullcrap. I hope he gets it.
I’ve been late to even knowing who she is – I got to know ‘know’ her mainly through Instagram and her cooking. But after hearing how cruel she was and what a troll I have no desire to follow her. This apology is a joke. It’s all about Chrissy and her silence only lasted 3 weeks or so. She needs to go away for a year at least. Do some work on yourself. It’s not going to be that easy.
Personally myself —dont participate in comments however personal issues— including marriages or friendships should not be discussed because we aren’t fully involved, privacy in a privilege and let’s allow those threw struggles to privately deal with their life, grow up , and off it , don’t shame what we aren’t apart off, let’s be civil .
Personally myself —dont participate in comments however personal issues— including marriages or friendships should not be discussed because we aren’t fully involved, privacy in a privilege and let’s allow those threw struggles to privately deal with their life, grow up , and off it , don’t shame what we aren’t apart off, let’s be civil .