Here’s the video from Jennifer Lopez’s fall during the American music Awards last night. This is only a 14 second clip of the fall, so you don‘t have to listen to the whole damn song again. You can just watch it over and over and chuckle. You can barely even hear the backing track’s incessant repetition of “Louboutin” thank God. Jennifer says the name like she’s got a speech impediment. Or like she has a friend named Lou Baton, and she wants to sing a song about him. With a speech impediment. It’s pretty rough, but Jennifer did recover with grace. She didn’t even fall that hard – her feet did break her fall, so it was more like she lost her balance than she actually “fell”.

Anyway, Ryan Seacrest just did an interview with Jennifer a few hours ago, and she was trying to be coy or funny, and she’s all “did something happen?” and “I meant to do that.” Haha, Lola. So funny:

Did Jennifer Lopez suffer a concussion after falling during her “Louboutins” number at the American Music Awards Sunday?

The singer-actress jokingly played the amnesiac during a Monday interview on Ryan Seacrest’s KIIS FM radio show. “Did I trip a little bit?” she says coyly when Seacrest mentions the tumble. “I don’t even remember.”

Lopez’s mishap occurred after the star mounted a human pyramid of bare-chested male dancers and jumped off a dancer’s back — landing on her famous bottom and quickly bouncing back up.

After Seacrest commends her for executing the “greatest recovery ever,” Lopez kids: “I meant to do that. What are you talking about? Don’t you know me better than that? It was part of the choreography!”

Suddenly philosophical, she adds: “the measure of things is, it’s not what happens when you fall, it’s how you handle it when you fall.”

Her biggest — but most jittery — fan? Husband Marc Anthony. “When I perform, this man is a nervous wreck. It is very cute,” she coos. “Last night, he was very proud. He couldn’t stop — he was beaming.”

“Louboutins” will appear on Lopez’s next album, Love?, due in “late February, early March,” she says. “Love with a question mark behind it, because I think, it’s the eternal question, it’s something that after many experiences myself and even watching what everyone goes through around me . . . it’s the one thing that is still the most confusing.”

[From Us Weekly]

My favorite part is where she gets all philosophical and says “the measure of things is, it’s not what happens when you fall, it’s how you handle it when you fall.” Thank you, Mahatma Lola. Lola speaketh: “Sometimes you bust your ass, y’all.”

As CB pointed out in her earlier post, and others have noted as well, the whole performance was weird and Lola would have been criticized regardless. I mean, boxing? Seriously? The song sucks (but not as badly as “Fresh Out the Oven” which makes me twitch) and Lola was lip-synching. Just terrible.

Fall starts around 2:55
Jennifer Lopez performed one of her new, annoyingly repetitive electro-pop excuses for music at the AMAs last night. The song, called “Louboutins,” was inexplicably performed on a faux boxing set complete with a ring and male dancers dressed up to look like boxers. I looked up the lyrics to this song and it uses overpriced shoes as a metaphor for leaving a bad relationship. There’s no mention of sports or boxing.

During her AMAs performance J.Lo fell flat on her ass while attempting to jump over some dancers, but she got up afterwards and quickly resumed her routine. Many people commenting on YouTube point out that she’s lipsyncing and still couldn’t pull off the dance moves. It was pretty ambitious of her to try and land that jump, but ultimately it didn’t work out for her. She was wearing flat shoes and not heels as you would expect from the title of the song. I think I speak for most of us when I point and say “ha ha!”

Lopez’s fall was edited out of the West Coast broadcast of the AMAs. Radar Online has the video of the performance that was aired Pacific time. The jump is slowed down and cuts to Lopez on her feet to give the impression that she landed smoothly.

Adam Lambert also supposedly fell during his performance of “For Your Entertainment.” He seems to fall and roll over in the clip below, but if PopSugar didn’t point out that this was a mistake I would have assumed the roll was part of the act. You can kind of tell that he messed up because he has to stop singing for a moment while the backup track takes over. Now that’s entertaining.

Here is Jennifer Lopez’s new music video for her song “Fresh Out The Oven”. Honestly, I think I missed the news that Jennifer was going back to her music career, but I’m not really that surprised. She had some hits, and her acting career isn’t doing so great, so maybe she figured “why not go back to music?” This song was produced by the Neptunes (specifically Pharrell), and it also features the rapper Pitbull, who am I unfamiliar with. Oh, yes – and it’s not really Jennifer Lopez, you see. It’s her “alter ego” Lola. Just like Beyonce’s alter ego is “Sasha Fierce”. I can’t really see a difference between Jennifer and Lola though – both of them seem to be intemperate divas. Maybe Lola wears Angelina Jolie’s crappy blonde wig?

Just for fun, I’m going to do some stream of conscious comments about how horrid this “Fresh Out The Oven” video is. Here are my notes:

*Lola’s mouth is weird. And her lips are too red. And her teeth are too white.

*Bling! Lola doesn’t know about any recession. Lola must have her rocks.

*What kind of trashy manicure is that? It looks like someone had a stroke while doing Lola’s nails.

*GAH! That wig! No, Lola. Just no.

* “Break it off here, break, break, break it off there…” What is this “oven” she’s speaking of? And what exactly is being broken? I thought this was a song about baking!

*When Lola dances in silhouette, I think she’s doing a spicy “Robot”.

*Fresh out the oven/straight suga lovin’… worst rhyme ever.

*This video is so budget, it hurts. I think Pitbull must have been given a full five minutes to film his part in total, and they just keep recycling the same open-mouthed footage over and over.

*This is just embarrassing. Lola is forty years old. She’s writhing on the bed and popping her butt out like she’s still got some sort of “gansta” cred.

*Oh, hot damn! I just saw the part where Lola is wearing a Mardi Gras mask. Those things are at the Dollar Store! Best. Video. Ever!

You know what would have made a better video? Lola doing Santeria voodoo on all of the people she hates. I want to see Lola stabbing a Mariah Carey doll, and mixing up a potion to make Ojani Noa’s eyebrows fall out. Gah! Do you think that’s what happened to Pitbull’s hair? Is that the subtext? Is Lola trying to tell us that voodoo made her do this horrible video?

One of my favorite stories about Jennifer Lopez is that she allegedly does voodoo. Several years ago, Jennifer’s first husband Ojani Noa was trying to publish a tell-all book about Jennifer, and what she was really like. Noa claimed that Lopez was into Santeria, which (in my opinion) often gets a bad rap. Some dismiss it as voodoo and think the practitioners are nutzo, but I think it sounds like a fun religion. Anyway, at the time, Noa claimed that Jennifer “was doing bad things to a lot of people when we were friends. And I knew all this time, because we did personally, me and her, to this particular lady.” Particular lady = Mariah Carey, I believe.

Anyway, Noa is still trying to profit from their brief time together. Last week we heard about Noa attempting to sell a sexy video of the two of them together – a judge later put the video on hold, thank God. But Noa is still claiming that Lopez is “out to get him”. His new claim involves Jennifer hiring people following him and threatening him. You know Jennifer is making a special potion just for him.

Jennifer Lopez put a halt to the release of a movie that’s supposedly based on her marriage to Ojani Noa, but her ex isn’t giving up. His lawyer and business manager are in court trying to overturn a judge’s ruling that blocks the tape from being shown, and they’re accusing J.Lo of harassing Ojani, to whom she was married for 11 months between 1997 and 1998. “She’s having him followed,” Ojani’s business manager, Ed Meyer, tells Life & Style. “We just ran the license plate of the car — it’s a black Audi — and it goes directly back to Jennifer Lopez. Ojani’s scared.”

But Jennifer, 40, is within her legal rights, says an insider close to the actress. “It’s a process server trying to give Ojani a subpoena,” says the insider. Ojani’s lawyer, Frank Sanes Jr., tells Life & Style that his client fears for his life. “We have some concerns right now about the personal safety of Ojani,” Sanes says. “We believe he’s under surveillance by someone. He’s had death threats.”

Jennifer was granted a temporary restraining order that prevents Ojani from selling the allegedly steamy home videos. But Ojani, 35, claims his flick, How I Married Jennifer Lopez: The J.Lo and Ojani Noa Story, is not a sex tape but a Borat-style parody of his life as a Cuban immigrant and that the superstar is unfairly keeping him from making money. “She’s destroying my life,” says Ojani, who was waiting tables when he met Jennifer.

[From Life & Style]

Meh, it probably is just a process server. Those guys get mistaken for stalkers all the time, and they’re just trying to do their jobs. Or is there something more to this? Do you think Jennifer cares enough to hire people to follow her ex around? I kind of buy it – because to believe one part of the story, you have to believe the other. If Jennifer is making potions and hexes for the people she hates, and she’s afraid that those stories will get out, then she’s definitely crazy enough to hire someone to follow, stalk, and threaten Noa. God, sometimes I just love Jennifer. She really is a lot crazier than people realize. And if you don’t love her, she’ll hex you real good.

Jennifer Lopez is seen at the ‘This Is It’ premiere in Los Angeles on October 27, 2009. Ojani Noa is seen on July 14, 2005. Credit for all: WENN

Earlier this week we heard that Jennifer Lopez was working to block a film by her first husband, Ojani Noa, called How I Married Jennifer Lopez: The J.Lo and Ojani Noa Story. Noa says the film is a “parody” and doesn’t violate the confidentiality agreement he signed with J.Lo. The confidentiality agreement was a condition of the undisclosed settlement Lopez paid him for unlawful termination from her restaurant Madres in 2002. Two years ago, Lopez blocked a tell-all book from Noa and was awarded $545,000 in damages.

Now Noa is at is again, and he’s trying to include sexy home videos he made of J.Lo in the film. The National Enquirer reports that he has 11 hours of home videos, including some of J.Lo naked and getting spanked. It’s unclear if there is actual sex on the tape, but given the fact that this guy will go to any lengths to make a buck off of his 1 year marriage ten years ago, I think that if he had a sex tape we would have heard about it. There’s a difference between “sex games” and “sex tape,” and the examples the Enquirer gives are pretty tame.

A furious Jennifer Lopez is desperately battling her ex-husband to block the release of a shocking private home video that shows her playing sex games and engaged in a nasty fight with her mother.

The ENQUIRER viewed the bombshell 11-hour tape that J.Lo doesn’t want anyone to see – and we have all the details.

The tape includes footage of the beauty playing sexy bedroom games with first husband Ojani Noa, 35, a Cuban-born waiter she married 12 years ago.

In one sizzling scene, J.Lo is looking at herself in a bathroom mirror, wearing only a bra and panties – and showing off her famous butt.

Sources say the star is embarrassed by the planned release of the image-shattering tape.

The 40-year-old is the mother of 20-month-old twins with third husband Marc Anthony, 41, and projects a sexy but wholesome image.

But that’s not the naughty Jennifer seen on the tape – in skimpy underwear being chased around the bedroom by Noa, who playfully spanks her.

In another eye-popping shot, a clearly immodest J.Lo laughs as the camera catches her climbing onto a motorcycle wearing a short dress and no panties.

[From The National Enquirer]

The print edition of The Enquirer has some more details, including a fight on the tape between Lopez and her mom Guadalupe “after Guadalupe accuses her of breaking a promise to buy her a home.” I would love to see Lopez be publicly embarrassed, she really needs to be taken down a peg or two, but this first husband of hers needs to cut it out. There’s only so much he can try and pull to cash in a long-over marriage to a celebrity. He needs to hook up with someone new he can exploit to the press for cash. I hear Lilo is single.

Here’s Lopez trying to look sexy at the premiere of This is It on 10/27/09. Credit: Juan Rico/Fame Pictures

Jennifer Lopez is trying to shed that hated J.Lo moniker once and for all and is trying to rebrand herself as “Lola,” as in “whatever Lola wants.” “Lola” has a new single out along with a laughable faux-mysterious website, WhoIsLola.com (warning: bad music on that link) that seems like it’s at least four years out of date, much like J.Lo herself. Lola wants a career comeback, but a new name isn’t going to cut it. The new single, “Fresh Out the Oven,” featuring Pitbull and produced by the Neptunes, is above. The song lacks the catchy dance appeal of Lopez’s old hits and there’s something super repetitive and annoying about it. Good pop music gets stuck in your head, this song just makes me want to switch it off.

In August, Lopez told In Style Magazine that she wouldn’t release new music unless she felt that it was authentic. “I’m at a point in my life when I just don’t feel the need to put out anything unless I totally, absolutely feel it says what I want to say.” What the hell is this then? It doesn’t have any message other than being a mediocre hookup song. I looked up the lyrics because I don’t want to have to listen to this song again, and they include “Love, fresh out the oven, straight sugar lovin,” and “you say you want the cookie, you’ve gotta wait for the cookie.” Is this “absolutely” what J.Lo/Lola wants to say – “wait for the cookie?” Maybe Lola doesn’t have the same standards as her highness.

In related J.Lo news, she’s got a new perfume ad coming out for “My Glow” in which she poses in the ads with a baby that’s not one of her twins. (Because, you know, babies love perfume and it’s so safe to spray it around them.) She also has an invitro comedy “The Backup Plan” coming out in 2010, and at least three films in the works. Maybe she should stick to acting. I have to admit that I find Lopez kind of likable in films with the obvious exception of Gigli. Her music career just seems like it should be over, though.

Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony are shown at the “Congressional Hispanic Caucus Institute’s 32nd Annual Awards Gala at Walter E. Washington Convention Center” in Washington, DC on 9/16/09. Credit: L.Gallo/WENN.com

Oh, the Video Music Awards. Where bad fashion goes to die, where pop music goes to celebrate itself. I remember when the VMAs used to be edgy. I remember when they were a huge deal. Now it just seems so… corporate. Maybe it was always corporate, and I was just naïve back in the day. Note: CB is covering the Kanye West/Taylor Swift incident, in which Kanye made a rather spectacular ass out of himself. Anyhoodle, here’s a rundown of the nights biggest winners and losers, both from the actual awards, and from the fashion:

*Winner: Lady Gaga’s “Mistress Dark Feathers” ensemble. According to Us Weekly, it was “a black lace Jean Paul Gaultier dress with Dragon print silk underlay from Gaultier’s fall/winter ready to wear collection. She accessorized the look with a Keko Hainswheeler neck brace and Kiko jewelry.” Later, in the press room, Gaga was wearing some grey-silver puffy leotard that was not attractive.

*Loser: Gerard Butler. He’s my boyfriend and everything, but he had no reason to be there, and he looked extremely grumpy. He needs to stop going to every event, you know? I love him, and I love seeing pictures of him, but I can only think that he was there to hit on the young 20-year-old reality stars. Or poor Taylor Swift, who had a rough enough night without Gerard Butler trying to put the moves on her.

*Winners: Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart looking like they could eat each other up in every damn picture. The two of them, plus Taylor “Third Wheel” Lautner, were there to introduce a clip from New Moon. Poor (hot) Taylor. I bet he even had to go in the car with Pattz and Kristen, and they probably couldn’t keep their hands off one another. Kristen wore a really pretty beige-gold party dress, and her hair was super-cute. Sparkles is a mouth-breather, and he looked smug. Like “Yeah, I’m finally nailing Bella” smug.

*Loser: Perez Hilton and his “demented gardener/proctologist” look. And for being Perez.

*Losers: Pink and Shakira wore the same black Balmain mini-dress. Maybe I could understand if the dress was really, really cute, but it’s totally plain. The real loser is the House of Balmain, who should have been better organized than to send the same dress out to two pop stars for the same event.

*Winner: Beyonce, for winning Video of the Year, for her cute red outfit, and for being so classy to Taylor Swift.

*Loser: Jennifer Lopez, for whatever the hell she was wearing. She’s trying too hard, and it’s painful.

*Losers: All of the dumb, interchangeable MTV reality stars who all looked like hot death.

*Actual VMA winners:

Video of the Year: Beyonce, Single Ladies
Best New Artist: Lady Gaga, Poker Face
Best Hip-Hop Video: Eminem, We Made You
Best Male Video: T.I. featuring Rihanna, Live Your Life
Best Pop Video: Britney Spears, Womanizer
Best Rock Video: Green Day, 21 Guns
Best Female Video: Taylor Swift, You Belong With Me
Best Video (That Should Have Won a Moonman): Beastie Boys, Sabotage
Breakthrough Video: Matt and Kim, Lessons Learned
Best Art Direction: Lady Gaga, Paparazzi
Best Choreography: Beyonce, Single Ladies
Best Cinematography: Green Day, 21 Guns
Best Direction: Green Day, 21 Guns
Best Editing: Beyonce, Single Ladies
Best Special Effects: Lady Gaga, Paparazzi.

What can I say? Meh. Any award show that celebrates Eminem’s video “We Made You” as the best anything is a pretty crappy award show. Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” rocks though. I’m going to have that song stuck in my head all day.

Photo credit: RAM/Fame Pictures; WENN.com

Yikes. Jennifer Lopez is the cover girl for InStyle’s enormous September issue, which also happens to be the magazine’s 15th anniversary issue. I do not care for any part of the styling of this cover. The Jil Sander dress is strange – yes, it makes Jennifer look thin, and yet the faux-space-age design doesn’t really compliment her curvy body. Also, Jennifer’s hair and make-up is horrible. Her hair looks like it’s pulled too tight, and now all I can see is Jennifer’s little elf-like ears. And is it just me, or does Jennifer’s skin look artificially lightened too? Her natural skin tone is about two shades up.

People Magazine has some of the early quotes from the cover interview. Mostly, Jennifer talks about her life as a wife and mother, and how much having twins Emme and Max has changed her. Jenny pays some lip service to caring more about her kids than she cares about herself, which I’m not sure I buy. I like that J.Lo has toned it down the past few years, but I still see the diva glint in her eye. She wants to be über-famous again.

Jennifer Lopez may look the same as she always has, but the star says she’s been transformed since becoming a mother to her twins, 18-month-old Max and Emme.

“There’s nothing as huge as giving birth to another human being and having to be responsible for another life,” Lopez tells InStyle, for its September, 15th-Anniversary issue. “There’s you before kids, and there’s you after kids – and they’re not the same you.”

The singer-actress, who celebrated turning 40 with a blowout bash in July, says her outlook on all aspects of life – from her music to relationships and business ventures – has shifted gears.

“[Parenthood] totally changes your perspective on everything,” says Lopez. “You don’t come first anymore. There’s somebody else you care more about than yourself.”

For the active entrepreneur, that means cutting down on work and stepping down from the “hamster wheel,” a previous lifestyle that was all about deadlines – a whirl in which she “felt like I couldn’t say no.”

“I’m at a point in my life when I just don’t feel the need to put out anything unless I totally, absolutely feel it says what I want to say,” Lopez says about her music career. She has, however, received inspiration from her twins – especially Max, whose first few steps inspired the proud mom to write a song.

When it comes to marriage, Lopez, who’s been wed to Marc Anthony for five years, admits she’s “still figuring it out as I go along,” and she’s had her share of “hard experiences and a lot of ups and downs and a lot of mistakes.”

One way she’s figuring it all out is by reading books about relationships. “It’s the never-ending question – what is the key to love?”

As for what she’s gleaned, “I believe that in life you learn through experience,” she says. “I’m old enough to know now that relationships take work. That’s it’s not an easy thing.”

[From People]

The part where she talks about marriage being difficult, and taking work does ring true – I think she and Marc have their struggles as a couple. But I also think that when they disagree, Marc just stops what he’s doing and does whatever Jennifer wants him to do.

Jennifer just finished filming The Back-Up Plan, which is a film about a woman who hits forty and decides to have a baby on her own, so she goes in and gets artificially inseminated. Of course, right after she knocks herself up, she meets the man of her dreams, and everyone lives happily ever after. Oops, was that a spoiler? Don’t worry – you’ll be able to see a different version of the movie starring Jennifer Aniston, called The Baster, which will come out first. Too bad for J.Lo – this is her first film in four years.

Header image of InStyle cover thanks to JustJared

This story from Gatecrasher cracked me up, but not because Jennifer threw a little temper tantrum. I actually would have thrown “a fit” if I were in Jennifer’s place too – she was upset when people were late to her 40th birthday party. It was some kind of “intimate” sit-down dinner, and late-comers were still coming in at midnight. That would have hacked me off big time – so no judgment on Jennifer for that. What cracked me was the revelation that Marc Anthony’s nickname for Jennifer is “Lola”. As in, “Whatever Lola wants… Lola gets…” The birthday party had a formal name, “An Evening With Lola”. How could Jennifer not pull the diva act?

Jennifer Lopez was overcome with a variety of emotions at her surprise 40th birthday bash Saturday night – and not all of those feelings were good.

Although the actress’ pals showed up at the Edison Ballroom for “An Evening With Lola” (hubby Marc Anthony’s nickname for Lopez) in her honor, La Lopez – who entered the shindig to Sarah Vaughan’s “Whatever Lola Wants” – stayed true to her diva status and “threw a fit” when some of her guests were late to the exclusive dinner.

“Jennifer’s party was very intimate, and there were a noticeable amount of empty seats when the dinner started. Jennifer was really irritated. She was fuming because people were late, and complained about it really loudly to Marc,” said one partygoer, who added, “Jennifer was visibly upset and embarrassed.

“In the Heights” star “Javier Munoz was the only person who gave advance notice that he was going to be late, because he was doing a show on Saturday night,” the insider continued. “But the others had no excuse. Being late is the height of rudeness, and guests were still arriving at midnight.”

Among those latecomers were Alicia Keys and boyfriend Swiss Beatz. Those who turned up on time – and thus remained in Jenny From the Block’s good graces – included Ricky Martin, Liza Minnelli, Leah Remini, L.A. Reid, Gayle King, O’Neal McKnight, her “Backup Plan” co-star Alex O’Laughlin and manager Benny Medina.

And although most of her good pals attended the fete, the mole claims that Lopez was upset that best friends Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes didn’t attend – they were busy hanging out with David and Victoria Beckham in L.A.

Despite the snafus, Jennifer and her guests had a blast. Anthony took to the stage to croon a special song in Spanish, and a grateful Lopez continually burst into tears of happiness.

Says a second source, “Everyone at the party was dancing until well after midnight, especially Gayle King! Benny Medina had to change his shirt he worked up such a sweat on the dance floor, and Swiss Beatz did a special rap just for J.Lo.”

As for Lopez herself, says our first insider, “After Jennifer got over her initial irritation, she let go and looked like she was having the time of her life, drinking champagne and partying until 4 a.m. It was definitely a good way to kick-start her 40s.”

[From Gatecrasher]

Yeah, it sounds like a nice party. I’m glad Jennifer didn’t get too bogged down with latecomers. Who in the world comes to a private dinner party at midnight? Or do I just not roll in those circles? Granted, my idea of a “private dinner party” is eating chicken nuggets on a real plate while watching NCIS. What was Oprah’s BFF Gayle King doing there? I had no idea Gayle and Jennifer were friends. But I suppose when Lola invites you to a party, you show up and act like her best friend. Or she’ll cut you.

Images thanks to WENN.com .

Remember the Ben Affleck of yore? Ben Affleck, post-Gwyneth, circa 2002. When he was one of People Magazine’s Hottest Bachelors, when he was drinking (and probably drugging too) and gambling up a storm. And when he was romancing a string of interchangeable girl-women, preferably picked up at some random bar. And then he began work on a little film called Gigli. And that’s when the magic happened. “The Magic” being “when Ben Affleck crawled into a crazed, tabloid hole filled with J.Lo Glow, tanning lotion, liquor, strippers and career suicide”. Those were the days, eh?

After Bennifer 1.0 died (circa January 2004, if memory serves), Ben Affleck spent several years trying to get the magic back. He settled down with a more People Magazine-readership-friendly Jennifer, this one by the name of Garner (otherwise known as Bennifer 2.0). He got sober (I hope). He took some time off from trying to be Mr. Hollywood. He became a husband and father. He started focusing on doing some “quiet, important” film work. And after a few years, he began talking some smack about Jennifer Lopez. He’s done it before – in the past few years he’s admitted that J.Lo was “bad for his career”. Now he’s going even further and saying in a new interview that during the whole J.Lo incident he felt “suffocated, miserable and gross.” What a charmer:

Ben Affleck has spoken out about his high-profile relationship with former girlfriend Jennifer Lopez – insisting it was bad for his movie career.

The actor began dating the singer in 2002 after starring in Gigli with her, and the pair later became engaged before splitting up shortly before their scheduled wedding in 2004.

Affleck is adamant he should never have got involved in the first place – because the publicity surrounding their romance tainted his career.

He says, “I was no longer in control of my life. I thought I wanted certain things, but I didn’t. I got lost. I felt suffocated, miserable and gross. I should never have gone down that route or got sucked in to all the publicity.”

“I was typecast as myself. Too many people weren’t getting past what they read about me. That was damaging. I can tell from experience it’s bad for you, and bad for your career. So I took a break, went away for a while and let things calm down.”

And he admits he is much happier with his wife Jennifer Garner and their two daughters, three-year-old Violet and six-month-old Seraphina to look after.

He adds, “Work has taken a back seat. My job is not as important as it was. Saying that having a family changed my life is a cliche. But it’s true – it re-arranged my life and made me see clearly.”

[From Contact Music]

I realize Ben is trying to take responsibility for a rough patch in his life, but he comes across as really rude (in my opinion). Look, I’m not a member of Jennifer Lopez’s fan club or anything, but I don’t hate the woman. I give Jennifer a lot of credit for the way she conducted herself post-Bennifer. She just up and married Marc Anthony, and they seem really happy (“happy” meaning he does whatever she tells him, but I’m sure it works for them). As far as I know, Lopez has never bad-mouthed Ben, and she’s never gone even half-way as far as this in talking about what happened between them.

I guess I just think Ben would have been better served if sometime in the months following the break-up, he had just said “Look, I loved her, and it didn’t work out. It was complicated, and we were both at fault. I own my part of the responsibility, but I’m not going to make jokes or talk smack about her. The end.” Part of the long-term career damage he did to himself post-breakup, simply because Ben seemed so ashamed that he was even with Lopez for a short time. I don’t care how horrendous Gigli was, no woman likes to hear her ex-fiancé describe their time together as “gross”.

Update by Celebitchy: There is no source for this quote, and Contact Music doesn’t say they interviewed Affleck, nor do they conduct interviews. I cannot find a source at all other than Contact Music, and all they do is use other sources without attributing them. Affleck has not appeared on a talkshow for quite a while and has no major interviews coming out in magazines that I can tell. He’s also not promoting anything as far as I can tell. So where are these quotes from? I really doubt that he said this recently, and think these are being rehashed and reworded from earlier quotes. Until I see a more solid source I don’t think it’s fair to bash him at all for saying this.